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great tips to things you tend to forget, especially the one where you know your a great catch, and your a high valued woman!
amazing video! lotsa logic behind the ideas, so down to the point!
great job, Adam 😉
Luv the video!
Good advice but a bit idealistic for me considering I am 67 years of age and have “seen it all”. People in my age group tend to take it for granted that you have lead a great life and are fulfiiled. I have also been on my own for 38 years with romantic interludes in between (one nearly got to the altar) so it is an entirely different kettle of fish for me.
Australian men are afraid of an intelligent woman so that has made things hard for me (no pun intended). However I will value your advice as I am seeing someone and he is wary and scared with two divorces under his belt. It is also a long distance relationship (900km apart). Wish us luck!
Patricia, I agree. Generally speaking, these male-generated dating coach websites aim at the younger generation who are still trying to find their way through the difficulties of finding husbands. Now, we focus on what is really important in life: living without a man and being happy. Sure, we agree that we would like to have an end-of-life, ’til death to you part companion, but we also know the population in our age range is skinny to none, and narrowing more as we age. And, I might add, if we find available men, they are either working through their anger because they are divorced; angry or disillusioned because they are lonely; prowling, depending on their needs and age; or, not emotionally available for new relationships and moving forward with their lives. I’m 65, and saw this reflected at gyms, at church, and other places, like work. They WANT something better, but the bitterness, or their behavioral patterns that caused the divorce in the first place, are barriers to finding new love and a new life. They are also sometimes finishing raising kids, or trying to let go of their adult children. Empty nest syndrome for men. We, as older women, must learn to accept our singleness, learn to know ourselves in this stage of human development, and then find someone who has done the same. I have so much on my plate, a platonic relationship is more rewarding.
Hi Patricia. Just to tell you DON’T GIVE UP….I’m 57. Widow, and I started to date men ..(From 55 to 67..) I followed this principles and I have 3 interesting, valuable men to choose from..Believe me, this Principles work at any age….. So girl, Good Luck, keep it up..
Very well done, and should work for all ages. I’m 75 y/o and newly on the dating scene, learning a lot from all age teachers like you. Especially liking this module on Emotional attraction. All the best to you.
Age does have its challenges. However I’m aware of websites that target senior citizens, people 50 and over, people in their 40’s and so on That being the case there has got to be as many men around in their 60’s looking for love as there are women. .
I am new to this too at a year older than you. After 53 years of marriage, WOW this is hard. Are you finding anyone of worth? I have signed up on a couple of dating sites and find very few are sincere or honest. Met one who was 72 he sad and I am satisfied he must be 85. I just do not know how to do this but after my hubby lost his fight to cancer two years ago, I am lonely and ready to meet someone real. Hope you are having luck
I stop following the principles shared in this video because I didn’t want to be alone. Now I am involved in an emotionless relationship.
I’m sorry, I had to laugh at this comment. I fell into the same trap and am being treated like I’m an idiot. I know my guy is playing in several ball fields. My self esteem is at an all time low for not following these principals. Honestly, I’m just not ready for a committed relationship. Hopefully I’ll at least commit to using these basic steps and find the right man for me.
Your totally right. Really like his presentation style and I can visualise myself in the moment with his advise. Thank you!
Great principles. Can see alot of ‘Why men loved bitches’ in them. Only one small criticism, women don’t like “dominant” men. Perhaps ‘capable’ is a better choice of words. Otherwise enjoy your work. Best of luck to yourself and all us women out there! 🙂
These are great reminders and the principles did resonate with me also and I too found that the word “masculine” and “dominant” were being interchanged to mean the same thing. You’re right Kathy that the word ‘capable’ or even ‘responsible’ would highlite the meaning of masculinity further. “Dominant” sounds like someone controlling, or possibly an ego centric personality. Masculine energy is easy to pick up on married men specially…there’s a subtle confidence and contentment that exudes sexiness. I’m not a home-wrecker, but it’s how I’ve been able to differentiate between what I am learning I like in a man I want to date vs the ones I want to avoid.
Some of us love dominant men. I personally prefer a dominant man. Dominant for me has no connotation of controlling.
I agree with Beth
I like “dominant” men, I just don’t like the jealous, overly possessive, and overbearing ones. . I believe there’s a difference
Dominant means superior. As in “my team dominated the game”. It does not mean controlling. Controlling, in my opinion, is the unhealthy version of a man trying to be dominant. To me, dominant equals competent. To submit means to yield to a more superior opinion. So I agree, most women want a man they perceive as more competent (or dominant) unless she is controlling. So the challenge for a smart highly competent woman is finding a man she believes is even more so!
I understand your thought process, but there is nothing worse than being in a relationship with a man who doesn’t have the guts to stand up to you and say, (for example) “No, I don’t want ______.!” Then whine and complain because you went forward in a direction that he didn’t want to go, but went along anyways. Non dominant men can be perfectly capable, but week in the spine. There is nothing worse than a passive aggressive man. When Adam is talking about a Dominant man, he is talking about a man who is comfortable in his masculinity, and willing to speak his truth. He isn’t afraid to say, “No, I don’t like that idea. Here is why…” He is not talking about a man who is dominant in an abusive way. I can say that because he tells woman to stay away from those types of men. A man who beats a woman into submission is not a strong healthy man, he is a self centered ass who has to have his own way and will hurt people to get their own way. A Strong masculine/dominant man is someone who can appreciate an independent woman, and isn’t threatened by her, but also knows his own worth and won’t stand for being walked all over by her.
Capable is someone who can bring home a check and possibly a good check, but may not be able to speak his mind, or might be afraid to stand up for you because he has no spine. All capable means is that he can perform certain tasks.
I am a dominant female .I guess that’s why my 2 marriages have not worked. I was raised to be strong and own it! Unfortunately I tend to find men who want to be controlled and the you lose respect. I want a real man but I don’t think they make them anymore.
that is great advice and i love your enthusiasm when giving these principals over….
I am just after a divorce , im 30 and i have two little kids…id love to follow the advice about developing my own life ,but right now my kids are my life, yet i seek romance, -yet i dont have a life…so i feel not at my highest level of attraction…
Being a woman who puts her kids first is definitely one of the signs of a high value woman. However your needs matter also, which is why it is great that you acknowledge that you want romance and need ideas about how to get it. The happier you are the more you can give to your kids. Good luck girl, I hope you find an awesome guy.
I am 38 and have two kids also. Like you my kids are my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Lots of guys out there are scared of starting some thing with single mom’s and that makes it even harder….but you know what? We are awesome….and a guy out there will see it and appreciate it.
I want romance too but in this day and age its thin pickings. I don’t go out much either but I never really have. Do you have some support (I have my parents)? May be ask for some help with the kids and do things for yourself, even if its for a few hours a week. Feel good about yourself and be content ….romance will come.
Good luck to us single mom’s….just remember we are awesome! 🙂
Advice: don’t wait til your kids are grown. I’m 50 now and my kids have been my life for nearly 18 years! Read, research, go to seminars and at least sink that kind of time into your life!! Now! Little by little it will help and you will show up the way a great man needs you to show up!! Much harder at 50!! Try looking up Allison Armstrong! Her workshops are awesome!! And you can do many of them online
You are so genius, Adam 🙂 <3 Thank you so much 🙂
Awesome, can’t wait for more,I’m learning so much thank you!
I think aspects 5,6 and 7 apply to me the most. I’ll probably mainly focus on those.
Hi, this video is really wonderful. Thank you so much.
I could go on forever listening to it and I am learning a lot concerning men and partnership.
Makes sense. Love the video to the point.
All the video links you send me, don’t work. When I click play, it doesn’t play. I can’t even watch your videos. Can you fix it?
Hi Adam, I like this video a lot coz u give me great tipes to help me mover forward . Thanks great job Adam☺😉
Great video. I need more clarification of 6..if you want to attract guys guy show him more famine side. I’m accounted in my profession. The type of men I’m attracted to like minded are at rime intimodated. Please provide clarification and tips about this one
You remind me a lot of Brendan Burchard. Thanks for the insight.
Great video thnks Adam:) i have a question though how does the 21st century woman rdiate her feminity its soo hard you know….i find myself feeling like im compromising just cause he wsnt as masculine!!!!
Same question! Eager to learn!!! I’m 50 and do not want to spend 10 more years trying to figure this one out
How do we correct #6
I feel like this is motivating me to at least try and have some sort of plan moving forward. I’m afraid, plain and simple. However my loneliness is beginning to outweigh my fears after six years if being single.
Wow!!!!! Totally awesome video , thank you .What an eye opener. Here I believed something was wrong with me. Nothing i did was ever enough or right. But loving me is going to be first from this moment on.
loved your video..i am older and. Am discovering alot about the techniques that have changed..I am approached alot by younger men..so I need to know my confused for now emotional needs..you are directing me..thank you.
Great tips. I agreed we women should value self as we are special.
I love it
Thanks Adam, Principle # 3 is what I need to work on.
I am always trying to let him know that I am ready for a relationship. I call him, he may call me back .
I am going to slow down . I will let him call me. I will go out more. I will not always be so available.
I believe this was just what I needed to hear today. Thanks
Sho I’m blown off my mind
I agree, definitely worth watching!
I really need to work on my self to be more confident..had a few changes in life and need to work on that by doing the thing I enjoy not stress thanks for the video reminder
Great reminder to put self care self interest and your confidence first! Then you get what you create in your own life.
Thank u so much for sharing such good info i getting on the right road now.
So far on line dating is not working for me, but I do have hope that I will meet the right man at the right time in the real world, and until then and on ward I will put into practice what your teaching.
This video really touched home. Thanks for getting me thinking again.
I would like to thank you for so many treasure nuggets, like saying I have to have a life of my own, not to put my life on hold because I am dating a man.
Ok. This video was great! Combines all the principles I’ve seen here and there in other similar statements on line about how to get this relationship stuff right. I had my heart severely broken 18 months ago. I knew I caused it because he was really kind, handsome and in to me! I. I totally blew it with principles #5 and #6. I’m an architect and used to be in charge and having to assert myself all day long 7 days a week. And I’m Italian. And I’m a Scorpio. Yikes. I have some work to do. I want very much to re-attract this wonderful man, hoping his heart will be open again to me in the future!
Ok ladies help me with #6. I’m the architect. Woman in mans field. Gotta learn to shift gears and stop directing and advising before 8:00 and after 5:00…would love any advice!!
Very nice video..for sure it will helps me a lot..I’m single and still looking for a partner…for sure I will learn many things from your videos…..thank you
Great advice. I especially like the principals of having a great life, being independent and valuing yourself. Those are things I do possess fortunately
It seems I have a wonderful life & I am independent to a fault.
#2 for me!! I am a natural giver and tend to pour everything I have into others, ESPECIALLY a man I am interested in.
I have been working on this as part of my personal development, and this really just solidifies that I can still cares but not give all of me in the process.
Camille L Matthews
Fabulous videos! I for years have believed that a women wrote her own price tag, put herself behind the glass, and if she was on sale or got trampled it was her fault for settling. I think every women should have a list of what they truly want in a man, and then look for those things, you may not find every one, but you won’t find any if you don’t look! My hardest thing to do that you had on the videos that I am going to try harder on is going out . I work hard, I get invited to alit of events, I am on a dating site, but as you said, you get home, you’re tired and that couch looks comfortable, and all of a sudden its ” Excusitis”…lol…I need to try and get out there, even if it’s small at first.
Fabulous Video, Thank You For All Your Dedication And Hard Work😀
The point of “be easy to approach, hard to attain” is so poignant, clears up the misunderstanding of ” playing hard to get” which sounds so calculating, something many of us do not want to be, but now I understand it better. So many things we did not know or learn when growing up in the 70s in all-female household and schools. Thanks!
Thanks ! Loved this
Can’t wait for the next video.
Truly enjoyed the video and looking forward to the next one.
Interesting points to take notice of and implemen.
Love your work. Live in the U.K. we have nothing like your on line coaching, so glad l found your site. Thank you.
My favorite principles are,
Be a high valued woman and
Dont be Needy I am currently in the dating scene and keep sharpening my skills with your advice and see a difference.. They are the foundation I feel to attracting the right guy. Thank you so much. Cant wait to see all the videos. And hopefully meet that right guy one day.
I do agree.
Wonderful points. I would love to be couched by this guy!
The biggest thing that I have taken from this video is that I need to truly believe that I am a high valued woman. I’m completely into sports and I know a lot about them. Most guys find that intimidating and I see that they go after more feminine girls that play dumb I guess when it comes to sports. I thought I will only be a “friend” girl. But I find that it wasn’t the knowledge about sports but the way I virwed myself that made them turn away. More confidence in myself and who I am has attracted more guys that I ever thought. Thanks Adam!!
I’m the same way when it comes to vehicles & auto repairs !
Loved this. It’s encouraging and down-to-earth. My challenge is the radiating femininity part. I’ve been independent all my life, aggressive at work, and have a very masculine mindset (chalk it up with growing up with 2 older brothers). The bonus side to this is that, I’m not needy. On the downside, because of my masculine energy and my neglect of my feminine side, I don’t really know if I’m missing out on the best part of life.
Idea #1 resonated with me. I have a productive and social life, but I not sure what types of activities a guy would interpret as incredible. I have a wish list that I’m looking forward to including more into myrecreational life. Is that what you mean or being superwoman?
Awesome video, I love it I never thought dating is the hardest topic ever. Have so many rules, but it a good thing to know what men really want from a woman.
Just want to say thank you so much for having such interesting videos. This is another great one filled with good information. I’m not single, but I still enjoy watching the videos anyway, because I think that even when you are in a serious relationship sometimes a person can become complacent. So in that context, I think the rule that applied to me most was rule number 1! Remembering to keep having a wonderful life outside the relationship, and allowing my significant other to do the same is what I need to focus on right now in my life. After a while of being with someone you can end up losing your identity, and sometimes it seems like you become less of who you are just to please the other person rather than becoming more of who you are. I guess you have to know yourself really well in the first place, and although that sounds really simple to say or maybe very obvioius, I wonder how many people out there do exactly what I’m talking about while in a relationship. You get too comfortable or complacent. If things don’t work out, guess what you are back being single again. So I think that much of what you talk about can be applied to both single people and to couples who are themselves two single people who have decided to be single together 🙂
Again thanks for all that you do, it keeps me thinking about how to improve myself even at my mid-age. Yet having said that I still have a very long way to go!
So very true! That is exactly what I’m doing watching these videos, while being in a relationship.
(Definitely don’t want to be two single people living together.)
I actually stumbled across one of the videos by accident and my love for learning and love for the man in my life, made me keep watching.(and I mean video after video.) ?
I’m just trying to make sure I keep this relationship wonderful!
Thank you for posting your comment.
Best of luck to you, Dolores!
Adam please keep sharing amazing insight, and very realistic examples!
I am a newly single mom. New to this dating. I was in a bad marriage and I want to not screw it up again. Losing myself in a relationship. So I started googling about dating and found your videos. They are very helpfull. I have learned new things and they affirmed something I thought I should do for myself. So thank you
It s so true. great video.
However currently i have a bf. so..I wish i could know how to attract my boyfriend emotionally deeper. Please upload videos for the women who are in relationship as well.
Great motivationall video for all levels!! Totally boosted my confidence…even more!!
Adam it was So Great !
It seems that always it’s self steam that matters…
Excellent advise, dating can be scary, but your information is making it seem more simple and safe. I attracted in the past a real loser. I see now why I just didn’t see my self as a high value women, which I am.
Awesome video! You put all those confusing stuffs together in a very precise way. I like the last point most because I think when I put a high value on myself and set my boundaries for relationship, it will be lot more easier to open up to others in a friendly way.Which will eventually turn me into an easily approachable person but not someone easily attainable. Very helpful advice. Thank you.
I am widowed 3 years ago from a 21 year marriage and it is tough out there in the dating world it took a year to just find a person fun and who likes being the man in the relationship, I have left the pace in his hands we see each other one day and evening a week and he plans the date and lets me know 2 days ahead of time, he was a perfect gentleman from the beginning open the car door for and closed it, treats me as a valued woman respects me. I mentioned it would feel great to spend more time with him. This week our usual date night is Sunday to Monday I leave by noon he has things he needs to do also, but we were going to do Sunday hang around the beach and Monday take ferry go explore another place neither of us have been. I talked to him Friday night and we confirmed plans he said he will call me Saturday but I got a text saying I hurt my back may not be in a very good mood tomorrow. I asked how he hurt his back he said working out. Well one thing about me is my memory is top notch and being an auditor 5 years of my life I pay attention to detail and have great recall so all week he mentioned swimming and fast walking no gym. He said we would not do much but he wanted me to come and see him, I said ok. I was getting ready and I packed a small bag and got a dog sitter and was ready to go and 15 minutes before I was to leave he called and cancelled, threw me for a loop although I said ok I will make other plans to do something I was still disappointed. I am at a loss as to handle this from here. Please do some videos on new relationships and how to handle these types of senarios, I do not know whether to even contact him or wait for him to contact me.
Fun and a gentleman, too. Sounds great. If he’s a true gentleman, he will be getting back in touch with you! Keep yourself busy with your own wonderful life in the meantime. Desperately chasing him down will not make you attractive to him. Quite the contrary.
How many weeks have you two been going out (on Sundays?)? What happens with Fridays and Saturdays? One of you working? If you’ve been seeing each other for more than 4 to 8 weeks, has there ever been a discussion about what each of you is looking for in life? Has there been any talk of exclusivity? If not, don’t go getting paranoid, but don’t go thinking you are the only one in his life. If he says he hurt his back working out, don’t go imagining things. However, if your gut or intuition are sounding an alarm, YOU might want to take a step back from your emotional investment in him. This does not mean you stop communicating what YOU are feeling. Don’t withdraw. You tell him you were disappointed that he cancelled on you, that you were really looking forward to your time together, that now you’re wondering if you two are really going somewhere. Let him respond. See how he responds. Then listen to your intuition. And keep watching Adam.
Whoever told you not to be paranoid is correct but don’t ignore your gut feeling. To be honest with you, the first thing I thought when you mentioned he had lied to you was that he is two-timing you.
Trust your instincts and BE CAREFUL!
I have a gut instinct monitor. When the gut gets turned inside out and I want to throw up, I try to run as far and fast as possible. If it’s just sex I want, then I’d better accept his behavior and keep looking like they do. That’s an empty feeling with a different kind of loneliness. Damaging your self esteem. Mother yourself with love and protect your heart. Meanwhile, buy something sexy and Google, how to dance sexy for your man, and practice being confident in your skin. This isn’t for your present guy. It’s for yourself and Mr. RIGHT!💃🏻
Sounds like he isn’t being honest with you. Honesty can mean different things to different people. You deserve better, leave the situation before you get more deeply invested, and ignore your instincts.
Made me really think I definitely have been going about this all wrong! Thanks for inspiring me & so many other women to think differently to help us find out way thru the dating world!!
Thank you for the awesome video. Those are indeed pretty common mistakes we all make at time. And think subconciously we all understand that we shouldn’t do this. But that doesn’t keep us from going further along this track. Think the main question here is “How to?”, e.g. How to understand that you are investing too much and where is that limit to stop? Cause I know many both women and men who are natural “givers”. And if they love someone, they” give their all and then some without expecting anything in return. And yes, ending up sometimes alone and “sucked out”. Guess would be nice to have those “How to” videos in more details on each of those principles mentioned. Be waiting for more from you 🙂
I know I have an incredible life without having a man because I did my homework. But I also have a child who is physically disabled. That’s enough to make men run for the hills, which is good, because it weeds out the artificial ones in a natural way. My former husband couldn’t accept the disability himself and would punish me in so many different ways – withdrawal of affection, of sex, of support, humiliating me professionally, you name it… it took me 7 years to leave the marriage and rebuild my life again. He kept me away from my daughter for months even after successfully divorcing him, just to make sure I don’t get any form of affection. It wasn’t easy getting back on my feet again. So now I need an emotionally intelligent man who can handle life. That’s a tough one Adam.
btw I found you on youtube, in a thumbnail (not google) looking for pilates videos, I don’t know how you turned up, but I’m glad you did! 🙂
Thank you so much Adam!!! <3
Love this video looking forward to the next one
This totally makes sense. I have to remember the importance of maintaining and developing personal interests once in a committed relationship.
i learned new things about men and their minds thank you adam for the video it means to me a lot
Excellent Tips Adam. Great vid 🙂
I need to BELIEVE in my sexiness!
I just starting dating a new guy. I’m 55, he’s 43.
I’m a bit nervous about my body, as 2 kids and plain o Gravity has done its thing.
I need to believe I am beautiful, just the way I am!
Thanks for this great video. It gave me a boost on not giving up.
You are an engaging speaker and you brought back hope 😉
I had to rebuild my life after a bad relationship, so your observations
are greatly appreciated!
I need to work on not investing in him as much as I am investing in myself. When I find someone great, I am a loyal cheerleader but if it is not reciprocated, I internalize it and beat myself up which can really sabotage all the great things I have going on in my life instead of taking the unappreciated energy and investing it back in my life.
I get you Val, when I’m in love and it works well I don’t count how much i’m putting in the relationship. It happens that I notice i start getting less and i try to treat it by giving even more or by trying to speed things up 🙂 I’m sure you can see the results that come.
It’s great to become clear that MY actions and behaviour shape how he feels about me, more than leave it to fate to work things out for us 🙂
Loved the video!!
Thanks Adam! this video helps me to be more confident!
Really enjoyed the video… 🙂
I enjoyed the video……. I now have confidence in myself and I can now correct the common mistakes.. Thanks Adam!!!!!
I enjoyed the video.I now have confidence in myself and I can now correct the common mistakes. Thanks Adam
I really enjoyed the 7 principles – I am still unsure if it is okay in the beginning stages to ask a guy out – say to a sporting event? Do I have to let him do the asking? I am 49 years old and still have no idea what I am doing??!! LOL
1, 2 & 3 were very powerful for me to hear! I’ve been going about it all the wrong way! No wonder I’m having such a hard time in my newest relationship! Slow down, remember who I am & value myself, my time, my extra-curiculars & be independent! ALL things I was doing when we met 3 months ago & then my focus became him…..NOT GOOD! Thanks Adam, this has truly awakened me & I look forward to your next 3 videos!!
Adam is a genius, I’ve been watching his videos for a few months now. I need to work on having a life of my own. I was married for 16 years, so learning how to be alone is hard for me.
Hands down, #1 is the main thing I need to work on. This video was amazing but now I know I have a lot to work on. After watching this, it makes me worried I’ve completely ruined the chance I have with a guy I’ve been talking to. All I can do now is work on myself now.
First off I want to say is, Thank you!
The first principle, Loving your life with passion with your dreams and goals, really stood out to me. This definitely made me realize that you can’t be happy with a guy, if your not happy with your own life. You should work on that before you decide to work out in a love with a guy. It’s all about balance.
This is a awesome video, so helpful.
Thanks – was very helpful!
It was hard to watch…my inner voice is very loud and strong. I need to Value myself more and stop basing my worth on if men like me or not….because…according to you….if I think I am a catch….I soon will be……hmmmmmm.
WOW!!!! Awesome! Just simply awesome. Great insights in this entire video! Completely changes my view on the whole dating world and how I treat and feel about myself as a woman! This is GREAT, GREAT STUFF! Thanks a ton, Adam! I AM A HIGH VALUED WOMAN!!! 🙂 #HighValuedWoman
This was a great video and love every section of it. I think for me the part of investing alot into him when he is not investing time in me is what I need to work on! I always give 110 % of myself and I like treat him like he is my King. And you are right if a person does that why should the guy do anything else. There is no challenge for him! It’s hard because he knows no matter what I will always come through for him. Lesson learned! Yes I need to print up this information and read it every day so that I can follow it!
Simply and well put Adam…one cannot love someone else if they don’t love themselves first coz they’ll have no love to offer that special someone.Therefore,am sure what I’ve learnt from your video is to maintain my dignity as a high valued single woman and not investing more time,energy and resources into a guy than I’d invest in myself.Then I’ll be able to attract an equally high valued guy from a place of abundance instead of looking for a guy to complete me or fill up the void or emptiness inside of me.Therefore self-worth and happiness come from within us rather than seeking it from others.Very inspiring video Adam! Keep it up!Am yet to apply the principles in my life practically…coz thinking about them and taking action are two different things altogether…:)
Enjoyed the video and agreed with your principles- Common Sense but can be easy to forget in the dating world or when you have a strong attraction to someone else. #1 resonated very strongly with me I agreed with your principles- good reminder.
The first time i saw adam in youtube i thought he ‘ll be like all the other coaches playing with words and making no result i’m glad that i was wrong he is really amazing special person , and his ideas and informations helped me a lot so thanks 🙂
I found the link to your video while browsing my Facebook feed and decided to give it a look-see. I am glad I did! Your principles really aren’t new to me, but the way you present them, is. I really appreciate what you are doing and the time, effort, and experience you put into this program. I am really finding it interesting looking back at past relationships I’ve had and the blunders that occurred. I know that my confidence tends to lie in my work and that setting. I work with the public and enjoy it. I know how to engage people from that standpoint, but am a bit more shy in a strictly social situation. I need to translate my confident work persona into a socially confident persona. I think that if I can decide on a hobby that I am good at, and use it in a socially advantageous way, I might be able to gain the confidence needed to project that desired image. Thanks! Can’t wait for the next video!
From a technology standpoint, I wish you could make these work on mobile browsers. I have an extremely on the go lifestyle and spend most days at work either traveling or on a PC for work purposes. It would be so great to be able to utilize down time in transit to listen to you speak on these topics without having to be tied to a computer to make it possible.
I think #2 is the one I need to work on the most.
I tend to want to invest all that I have to give into all my relationships and that hasn’t gone over well in the dating world.
Where I come from dating more than one person at a time is not that common at all so I tend to forget to take those blinders off that you spoke about to show myself and my potential partner that I have other options and that I am a high value woman whos exclusive attention and devotion is something that needs to be earned. Also great advice about pursuing your own interests and passions prior to being in a relationship, it’s important for women to remember to maintain their individuality…..interesting people are those who go out and do interesting things. Thanks for a great video with great advice I look forward to the rest to come.
Great advice! Look forward to the next videos!
This is probably a really good video.. But I could seriously do without 10 plus minutes of telling us who you are.. Jump into it already lol
I believe I am a high value woman with tons to offer but where I lack is having a great life.
Don’t have much going on in my life but I love to learn new things. I have a tendency to take on whatever interest he has just to fit into his life. I enjoy learning whatever it is but it never turns romantic. I get knowledge but not a companion.
I really enjoyed the video.I have to
Work on my personality.
The thing that I need to focus on the most is having an incredible life. I am the first to admit that my life is very boring and stagnate. I know that I have a lot to offer but I use the excuse of being a single mother ( and the fatigue that comes along with it) to deny myself the chance at a fulfilling life. I do not have a strategy for dating so I completely gave up. This video has helped me see that if I use these principles I can get back out there and live my best life possible. First without a man, then with one without being NEEDY.
Great video Adam,
#2 is the hardest for me. I am an analyzer and a giver.” Not to invest more than he does” is quite challenging for me, has always been.
drove many men away this way and I never got it,how can a loving,tender,honest,giving,good,smart,feminine can drive a man by loving him?
We need too make them work for it..
Divorced for 7 years now. I have spent that time raising my girls and creating an awesome life!
Ready to start dating again. Great info. Thanks
Great video #1! The principles are like de ja vu. I know my biggest issue is lack of confidence. I have a wonderful life…I haven’t waited for a man to complete my life or to make it interesting, eventful, fulfilling, etc. I have difficulty knowing and embracing my value. I didn’t even understand the question you presented, “Are you a high valued women?” Sad, sad, sad! Well, I want to embrace my value and exude confidence. I am lovely and lovable.
Thank you very much! On to video #2!
Great Video Adam.
I too have practiced so many of these principals for many years however, after being a widow for now 7 + years I’m wrestling with the fact that I’d like to have a life companion who is worthy of me and my lovely girls. That being said my challenge is yeah I don’t have a problem meeting men. My GF’s have a nickname for me when we go out as I’m that gal that will always have guys approaching me and my girls. Yeah I’m a great wingman or wingwoman for both sexes too! The problem I have is with people being worthy of me long term. I need to be able to discern who in this world is actually of a caliber worthy of augmenting my single life so much that they make it better for me not to be single. Sadly I think what lesson I need to learn most was the fact that men have to earn my love and affection and not just give it away so freely. I’ve had the love of my life where this came naturally but we were both big on autonomy. I’m not clingy and needy by nature but to me it comes down to trust and respect issues. This is where I often find the biggest challenge as I have high standards for myself and I find that I get disappointed when the men who approach me don’t have the same for themselves. Frankly, I refuse to lower my standards to meet the needs of those who won’t even consider raising theirs for a successful relationship. HELP!! Please they’re has to be a better way.
I can almost relate to this. I lost a lot of my self confidence after a personal issue but now I was almost shocked into gaining it again. I usually do find that men don’t hold as many high values as I do. I am not a player even though I have the looks. I love simplicity in life but I also have high aspirations. Not fame or money, but general life success. Plus I have strong opinion on good moralities, doing well to others, and an extend of religious values. I find it hard to find a man like that. A man who is a MAN. Maybe it’s because I’m still young. But it seems that men nowadays avoid responsibilities, taking actions, and fixing issues. I noticed from the video a few things I did wrong. But also, I think why do men lack motivation in working things with women anymore??
I love this video! The fact that the emphasis on loving yourself, taking care of yourself and valuing yourself is SO important! Thank u
You for taking the focus of attraction away from being a “game” and putting it on living a “lifestyle” that is good for me and ultimately great for a boyfriend to have in his life!
Thanks for all the interesting ideas
Thank u so much☺☺☺…It’s hard to choose actually;but really great video and direct to the point information.More power to you Adam.☺
Oh boy I am only 23 years old, and dating is really difficult. I’ve learned some things on my own but It’s nice to hear from a man some really good advice. I think the one big thing I need to work on is #2. When I like someone a lot, I tend to give them more of my time. And I can’t stop thinking about them, and where exactly this thing we have is going. I know the kind of man I want, but I feel that it is so hard to find him. Working through improving some things in my life right now, but I know that doesn’t mean I should stop looking and dating. And I definitely don’t want to just settle. Thank you Adam and can’t wait to see your next vid! 🙂
actually the video is not working give me reset connection
please i want to watch it
Awesome video thanks for emailing this to me! 🙂
I think this is a great video and opens my eyes to so many things. I need to work on being friendly and open to meeting new guys. 🙂
You are great, love your energy
Enjoyed this. Came at a synchronistic time. I need work on 5 and 7. 🙂
Very informative video. Can’t wait to hear more!
Good logical advice. I’m 50, twice divorced and can tell that past abuses have left me feeling “not valuable”. Not sure there are very many men my age who are single and interested in a relationship.
thank you for the video and the 7 tips – really gave me some solid things to think about and work with.
It’s hard to pick just one because for me 2 and 3 go had in hand. So I’m working on dating more than one man at a time and slooowing things down. Thanks for all the great advice.
Well done…I just got out of a 10 year relationship and ready to date again and came across the youtube vids. I’m not casual about dating so slowing things down may be hard, but if keep in mind the other principles I think that will make it easier and more intuitive.
I consider you a straight shooter into the male psyche. But I just wanted to add something
here about my own experiences with men. First, men are people. Maybe I think and feel differently but when meeting a man for the first time, I do not rely too much on looks, status, etc. I want to know them as a person and when I do that I notice that men are relaxed and will talk more openly. Of course, I do joke and tease a lot while getting to know him, but if a woman can get the guy to relax and enjoy himself in the moment and not worry about the “future” or being competitive with him, chances are he will want to see you again. You are spot on when you state that a woman has to let the guy know he will not be rejected…..and there are many kinds of rejections. I have found just to be kind and considerate to them as people, not just focusing on their maleness, always works.
The video was very helpful because I have just gotten out of a two and a half year relationship with an emotionally unavailable man. I am looking forward to the remainder of the series
Great video with a lot of male insight..but also a lot of old concepts.. we all have to love our selves before we can love others.
This is AMAZING. PERFECT. Exactly what I needed to hear. 40 years old and although all of these principles are logical, and I’m a logic based person, I need to hear and be reminded of. I am a “strong” female and working on that and using my strength to let my light shine out is the most powerful for me. I dated a lot of “potential, I didn’t want to judge to quickly, give them a chance, but I’M DONE. I am SO worth a good man, I deserve it and now I just need to go out there with these principles in mind and engage.
I was so scared of looking easy if I wasn’t a bit guarded, but I’ve been told that I was hard to approach, all my friends think I get asked out al the time because not only of my looks (I’m no super model but I’m good looking) but I also have a great personal lifestyle and I make it my own, I live for me and I make people work for it BUT I wasn’t letting my femininity radiate as it seems, it’s a tough juggle and balance with a spirit like me, but it’s doable. TOTALLY DOABLE, I just need to believe it. I need more tips on how to be more feminine, what that looks and feels like. I’m not a big flirt at all, I have a tough time doing it but I’m very loving, caring and smart but that’s not feminine necessarily.
THANK YOU for these, I needed this. Yet AGAIN, you lay it out straight forward, no BS.
Being loving, caring and smart are very feminine features and just the things a REAL man is looking for. Be true to yourself and you will find Mr. Right.
I love it and you are a genius so thank you.
This is definitely going to help me in the upcoming future
“Be easy to approach and hard to attain”! That’s it..best advice, tnx a lot 😀
Great advice. PS. You are hot! Adam.
I agree 🙂
This is great. Adam, you know your job professionally and I like your tips. They are realistic and easy to understand and implement. Thank you and waiting for next videos unpatiently
Hands down the best video I’ve seen on the web about dating, for free! The interesting thing is the 7 tips are all things I knew already, and realized that scouring the Internet for the “key” was silly. I already have all the tools I need… I just needed to be reminded of them. ❤️ Adam, you’re the best!!!
This was great information,thank you
Thank you Adam
I need to work on #6 ; you sure can tell you are appreciated !
Thank you so much adam. This was an eye opener for me. I am ready to have a relationship that has a great foundation to build up from. I have just recently become single from a 15 year relationship and the dating scene is different and intimidating to me. as far as the principles go I need to work on 1,2 and 3. I usually give my all to a relationship to make it work, I am tired of being used and thrown away. I need a mature man but I need to be what that man is interested in. I need to work on me and loving myself and giving as much as I am given and having a life outside a non committed relationship. thank you again
i’m getting through the all break up shit …and adam..you make me belive there is still hope …
i think i need to focus on have an
incredible life as a single …and learn to enjoy it ..it’s my main goal now
Great video! I had a guy just stop calling me after coming on really, really strong, and it really, really sucks!! I don’t know if I should reach out to him or just leave it be, it’s been almost 2 weeks. What really sucks, is he drove 4 1/2 hours twice to see me in rush hour traffic which made me feel incredible that he drove so far to see me. But then to just cut me off with no explanation, that really hurts.
I have no problem attracting men, it’s the emotional attraction I have a difficult time with. The 7 attraction principles are an eye opener. I can’t wait for the next videos. I am ready to weed out the men that are not emotionaly available, which seems to be the ones I always attract & I start to think there is something wrong with me 🙁
Awesome video and very wise advise. Number 1 is especially important and is exactly what I have done. Find something exciting in your life that you are passionate about and this will keep you in a positive frame of mind while you expand your knowledge and build your confidence. I took up a musical instrument – something I’d been wanting to do for years. I love it. Yoga and keeping fit is another passion of mine and another great confidence builder. When you look better you feel better and it shows!
This is a very good video. Thanks Adam!
Thank you again Sir, it was really amazing and everything was reasonable for me now, I need to be focused with the part of being fun because I’m always into my self acting like I’m not interested on the surrounding but I do have very high values :).
thanks, good luck
Hello handsome,thanks very much for the good advize in the video,i will try to work on the confidence in myself,cause i never go out,every weekend at home,simpel,man always ignore me,they don’t pay attention to me,so why should i continiue going out on saturday night,i am the one ends up gets hurt,at home is safe,no one hurts my heart,i do not see what i am doing wrong,please sweet cheeks help me on this one,much greetings from belgium.
Someone above mentioned this but it struck a chord with me so I’m asking it again here. Could you give specific examples for each of these steps? Eg….HOW do I “radiate my femininity?” I’m easy to approach but what does “hard to attain” mean?
Just want to say that I am already in a great relationship and as with all relationships there are issues. Mine not major but a lot of mis communication and through watching your videos has helped me understand how to continue to have a great relationship. I thank you for your advise and helping people to be happy. You have taught me some of the areas where I have been lacking with myself and how to better my self and my thinking and I have seen improvements in my relationship with him after hearing you. Thank you so much
Thank you so much for your video Adam, you opened my eyes to alot of things. Cant wait for your other videos, you gave me hope in dating again.
Thank you Yolanda
aaargg, #3 is confusing a bit cuz sometimes the pace is ambiguous. How slow is just right, not enough, or too much and same thing with how fast. I am going to just focus on 1 and 2 and hopefully 3 will just sort itself out.
Very realistic and empowering, Thank U Adam!
Awesome advice! Ladies, please listen to him because it works. =]
it’s really a greta video
i’m a girl who really is boring, i mean i didn’t have any exciting conversation to share it with the man i love ????????
so how could i fix these?????
It has been very helpful, i have been alone for 8 years until now I feel the desire to start dating, I have been working on loving myself and beeing independent, I love my life and go to the gym not to like some one, is about me.
I really like a guy, but he really dont call me, but when I see him I know he likes me.
I need to know how can I attrack his atention
I absolutely loved this video! I printed the 7 Emotional Attraction Principles and have it hanging on my mirror. I learned that I have been confusing chemistry for love, thus investing more into a man than he has been investing into me. In addition, I have also been the “needy girl” who has made my life all about the guy I’m dating. This made my life and interests inexistent which isn’t healthy for me nor is it healthy for the relationship . NOT ANY MORE LADIES! I am confidently willing to learn and will be applying all that I learn to my life.
I am the most beautiful woman alive, on the inside and the out!
I am drop dead sexy!
I deserve to live a life full of happiness and total fulfillment!
~I WILL NOT settle for anything less~
Nice work! Thank you.
Hi Adam and other readers,
Ladies, thank you for commenting.
I’m working on resetting the “high value” attitude.
Previously, I thought that concept was about my income and rocking’ an appearance.
( I look good, but as a refugee and artist, income is zapped for now.)
Thank you for the reality check!
I definitely bring value to interactions.
I’m going to focus on that.
It’s been me that loses confidence, or feels badly, when I have to explain my income and then I feel judged. I freeze up. And the only men who come near have craptastic lives. Better than no one I thought. Also I thought we could build together. But you know what? Those men have had decades to build themselves and they don’t want or know how to build!! Obvious now.
Thank you so much Adam!
I’m grateful for this I learned from you Adam.
Awesome video! ????
Thanks Adam. sure I will put this to work
Can’t wait for the nest video
Very useful information provided!
I think feeling I’m a high value woman and being easy to approach are the principles I need to work on for better results.
men will tell you everything just ask and listen
I LOVED this video! Omg your tips are SO real and easy to understand, the principle that i need to work the most on is NOT investing more in a man than he is investing in you, I ALWAYS do that :(, even if I don’t text him or call him, I just invest so much of my time thinking about him and fantasizing about being in a relationship with him and ignoring other guys, whenever I meet someone I like I immediately put on the blinders you talked about and I got this tunnel vision that doesn’t let me connect with other men out there, so from this day on I will remind myself of this video. Thank you Adam!
Thank you Adam! so true and makes perfect sense. I’m sure i’ll attract the right guy soon 🙂
Thankyou Adam.. .. I also have printed out the 7 principles. thankyou
Thanks so much Adams…the videos are really very educative could you please allow them to run for a few more days? Thanks and God bless.
Amazing videos! I stumbled upon them on YouTube some time ago, and we are a couple of girls from my group of friends in Denmark following you 🙂 The hardest advice for me to follow is “don’t invest more in him than he’s investing in you”. I tend to throw everything on the ground whenever I have a crush on a guy, and give it my all from the very beginning.
Can’t wait for the next video to be released!
Haha so great to hear! I used to live in Denmark!!
Great Video………Obvious when you hear someone say them out loud, different matter to reflect on if you actually are doing or not doing them!! Loved the High Value question……I answered no but that was just my doubt…….of course I’m a High Valued Woman & I’m going to start believing this from now on…..so thank you 🙂
It is good. I am a high value woman and enjoyed how fast the Yes came.So that made me feel good. Moving slow is very hard! I am spontaneous, honest and pretty prone to sharing. Good reminder. Also do not want to be dominated, allergic to that. the whole idea that success is emasculating is confusing with some of your other advice. I’m 55 and gifted and gorgeous and realistic so who knows. your advice goes in the back pocket for when i am ready to date next year.
i love this video each time watch your video it does build my confidence more. whenever i go to you tube i have to watch your videos. Thank you so much, you have open my eyes to many thing that i was’t paying attention to. God bless you
Hi Adam, I am so glad that I found you! I really appreciate all your advice and your great personality! I have been divorced for over a year now and my friends keep telling me how I need to start dating. I haven’t dated in over 20 years! Before I decide to go out in that crazy dating world, I would like to be prepared. I have to say that I am a little nervous about dating again and I am hoping you can help me feel more comfortable about it. I enjoyed this video and I look forward to the next one! Thank you!
after a long time now I feel that I can make something to find my man and not just waiting for the prince. thanks a lot!
These are great tips to know and practice to improve my current relationship.
Thank you Adam,
all of your videos are great.
#2 is my wake up call,b/c I am a giver and I NEVER get anything in return,which never made sense for me.
It would be nice to know,though,if all this knowledge/tips helped you find the perfect match for yourself!
PS/How about making the video on younger men/older women?
Feeling good and fit is important, I do see that. But paleo is not necessary for everyone to feel good in her body. A change of location, as simple as that can do a lot. I for example recently moved out from my parents’ house in order to study in a bigger city. Alone having the choice, what to cook and when to eat in combination with a bit of sports made me feel a lot better not just physically. Do you see my point?
#2 will be a challenge for me 😀 As I am the kind of person, that gets involved emotionally quite quickly.
Still, thanks for the tips, they’re sorta enlightening 🙂
very good video!
Nereida Gonzalez Meyer
Thank you so much
Nice 🙂 I like what you are teaching and the fact that you are trying to help women deserves respect. Thank you 🙂
thank you for this video it give me alot of confidence
I always say that people need to know who they are “alone” before getting into relationships and remember that throughout the relationship. Glad to be validated on that! I value myself, am feminine, take care of myself, and am very personable. I never get asked out by men. That I am attracted to. Looking forward to the next videos!
I ❤️ this. I am so guilty of investing more than I receive, never again! Thanks Adam x
These 7 principles sounds familiar to me, really really familiar.
I think that you copied or you have taken information from actualized.org.
Leo have mentioned:
“High value women attract high value men”
“No man wants a life with you unless you have an
incredible life WITHOUT him”
“Treat your body like a temple” etc before
Actually I watched all the videos actualized.org
So it didnt help me the “7 Emotional Attraction Principles”
Thanks anyway for the video
(btw im still learning english)
I just love you! my male best friend!
I just loved the first principle the most as that has always stayed my primal cause of happiness n i know that only when I m myself very happy, ‘d I b able to make the very one so.
Thanks, see you soon
loved this video it helped alot
The biggest take away for me was not to invest more in him than he is investing in me. Looking back over the relationship I’m in now, that was absolutely the issue. Now that I see how that contributed to our breakup, I understand why I was right in breaking up with him and what I can do differently next time.
Thank you for this video. I love it I know I can learn more of things. Thank you Adam!
Thank you Adam, I am 66 and feeling like a teenager. I was so incredibly attracted to a man…we have been having an amazing time Ipin bed for 8 months, but now I want more. He’s keen on all as is…i wish I had been harder to get in the beginning…and I invested much more emotionally. Ah, well I have stopped it all for now…so we shall see.
awesome videos i just love it
Thank you Adam for this video. I love the way you focus on the self rather than just on the dissection of the male mind 🙂 all your points are amazing. I think I need the most help with the investing part and the going fast slow part. I am so happy to be a part of this community!!!!
Great inspirational video…thanks
I got this guy I like. When we met sparks were flying and we sat up all night talking. We live quite far away so we haven’t met again but talk regularly through texts. I just have one issue, it is ALWAYS me who starts the conversation. I’m trying to play it very cool, not investing to much, but I kinda get the feeling he’s not very interested (maybe because of the distance). On the other hand he’s quite flirtatious when we chatt.
Should I just accept the fact that “he’s just not that in to me” or is there a way to make him change his mind (without seeming needie)?
Hi Adam &All,
I ‘m very happy to discover your videos and benefit from your valuable help.
Thank you so much for sharing this great knowledge and for being so willing to offer your help. I m learning greatly from you. I have never found any difficulties in dating men, though i’ve never succeeded to commit in a long term relationship. The greatest technique i ‘m now aware of is Pacing. Thank you again and thank God people like you do exist!
Best of luck
Awesome! Thank you for the insight! I look forward to the next videos.
I’m processing all this great info and realize that I need to let my femininity shine through more!
Lindah Louise K
wow! Great video.. i now know my mistakes and planning on working on them. thank you very much.. will be waiting for the second video..
Great video !!! Thanks a lot for share with us Adam 🙂
Wonderful video. At this point, I really need to build from the ground up–creating an incredible and interesting life for myself, respecting my body, learning how to radiate femininity, and believing in my heart that I bring value to the relationships, conversations, and situations in which I participate. I need to stop thinking that I must make an offering of myself and determine that I only need to *share* myself instead. Thank you so much, Adam.
For me I need to work on learning to radiately feminity. My husband died 12 year ago and left me to raise two small children. Now that they are grown I’m ready to meet a partner.
How do we get him back to earning our love; if we already acted in a way that made him take it easy?
Wonderful video. Loved it!
Excellent video! I believe that I need to work on all 7 principles! I have been single for 5 years with no luck. Looks as if I need to rebuild myself from the ground up…. :/
i love your video its been so helpful
Thank you very much Adam for your nice advice…more power to you and hoping that you can help a lot of women from your wonderful website !
Awesome video. There are many aspects of this insightful information I find very interesting however being in touch with more of a feminine aura has been one of my greatest challenges
Great video! Very helpful! Looking forward to seeing more!
I know, I still have a lot to learn, but lessening, reading your advises start make me think differently.
It is so admirable . i just love it
Good job i will try all this principles and give you the results
This is Awesome Adam, I like your tips. They are realistic and easy to understand.Thank you
Thank you Adam
I just about to create my First profile on the dating site and of course looking for information how to succeed there. I am pleased to find Adam videos on You tube.You information is very easy to understand and put in to practice. Will keep you update on my progress
Thanks for the video, as I listen I feel like I pretty much have post of this down yet still fail in the love department… But I finally think I had my light bulb moment in that I invest too much in others without requiring they work at earning that investment and I fail to invest in myself on a deeper level!!! Time to celebrate me, to honour myself through my various daily routines, to be the best version of myself I can purely because its who I am meant to be… ☺️
I really like this video. I discovered this on youtube, and once I started watching your videos. The first one I watched, how to flirt in text. I couldn’t stop watching! This emotional attraction video has a lot of healthy tips. I know the last guy I had met, who was amazing to me, I invested too much in him, and after he took off with a girlfriend I was left devastated. I felt worthless and was incredibly burned, as I didn’t have too many good experiences with men in the past. But it was hard to get over, and so one day I decided to look up sites, try to find some information, learn more about the dating process, and in doing so I’ve been learning how to value myself once again and gain the confidence I haven’t had recently.
Your videos are amazing and does make dating seem less scary than how I pictured it. I’m starting to get out there again, create a life for myself, looking through a pair of new optimistic glasses.
I cannot wait for your other videos, and I’ll definitely keep watching!! It feels good being able to put yourself back on your feet and to high value myself as a woman…because I really do deserve it!
Great info! Thank you!
Thank you Adam, your advice has hit the nail on the head. Was feeling pretty low from a guy I had meet, emotions high and low, confused on his up and down actions and all these steps have pin pointed why. I have more confidence in myself now, and I going to look after No:1. Yep thats me. I am a beautiful person and deserve better. Thanks you’re the best.
Thank you for this video. I haven’t gone to social events or socialize in general (other than my family, coworkers, and close friends) in a long time and would like to socialize and start dating. These are 7 principles that I can apply to my everyday life. All of these principles resonates with me. The very first principle is what I’m currently working on. I am starting with pursuing things that interests me. The challenge for me is finding interests I like that doesn’t cost a lot of money because I don’t have a lot of money although I have found a few. I am also applying for jobs so I can do more things. There are some I would like to try, but sometimes I feel that I need to bring someone (ex; a friend, family member) who probably has that interest so that I would have someone to talk to. Also,when I tell them about my interests, sometimes I am met with criticism, they try to talk me out of it, or try to convince me to do something else that I may not be as interested in. I may just pursues some of interest by myself. I wish i wasn’t too nervous about the negative things that can happen if I pursue my interest by myself and actually just get out there and do it.
Great video and thanks for the insight!
Nice video, and thank you for the effort for doing this 🙂
Great video! It just all makes so much sense..I will try to improve all of these principles..My biggest problem is that if I like a guy I invest into him more than he “earns”. I don’t really have a problem to talk to different guys but when it gets closer to a relationship something happens and we kinda stop talking for no reason.. I don’t know if it is because of me or if I just meet guys who aren’t supposed to be with me..Maybe I should be laid back a little bit more instead of trying to help that situation if it makes any sense..Anyway thanks for your videos!
I loved your principles 2.5 and 3! Definitely felt encouraged after watching your video! Thanks, Adam!
This video was very helpful and valuable. We need to know how to do this dating thing right so that we attract the love that we want.
Thank you. My worst enemy is myself. I have such a hard time keeping belief in myself and truly loving, valuing, and respecting who I am. I can be that way initially, but it fades away as I get into a relationship. My confidence is a front for the world, but it isn’t real. I’ve started working on it just this year, but I have a long way to go. I’m taking a break from constantly being in a relationship so that I can learn to value myself. Truly value myself. I am having a very hard time with it.
Thanks for the information, it make a lot of sense, especially #1-2 that’s so true,I want a fun life, all of us do. And #2 don’t invest more if he doesn’t deserve it. Great job.
THANK YOU VERY MUCH I <3 IT THANKS))
Thank you so much for making this video! It has opened my eyes to a lot and has really given me something to really think about as I move forward in my dating life!
Thank you for the great video!
I have brought my girlfriends to your channel as well and we are loving it! Lots of love from Serbia 🙂
I enjoy your energetic, animated approach. You are great fun to watch. The principles are sound. Feminism has caused us gals to forget our femininity. Femininity is intoxicating to men. I love being feminine; it turns me on. Thanks Adam.
Thank you for the video! That was awesome! I definitely need to work on #5 and #7
Thank you Adam! I don’t think I have heard such a healthy way of growing as a person and valueing oneself before. It’s like a plausible alround guide for happiness.
I guess I’ll start another round… First step #1!
Which also equals taking good care of oneself in my eyes 😉
Following you religiously, and very grateful for your advice! Divorced from an 11-year unhappy marriage and was clueless about dating. My biggest problem is actually getting “a life”; trying to figure out what to do with myself now that I am not in a serious committed relationship. With your help, I’ve got all the other steps pretty much down, and I know I will get a life, too. He he Thank you so much for giving me a clue! Can’t wait to see the next video!
very clear and informative video, can’t wait to hear what you have to say in the upcoming ones 🙂
Men are naturally attracted to confident women which has nothing to do with successful career! In 30 years of my medical practice I have found it to be true. She never needs to prov
Great advice in this video
Thank you Adam.
They should teach this to us in school because it feels like such a mystery.
Are men struggling trying to understand us too? The lessons I learnt today are priceless and greatly appreciated xx
I want to on principle 6 because I don’t find myself to be a high quality woman, and that is why I don’t go out with guys of high quality. I want to find myself sexy and of high value.
Loved this video. It was very helpful. Keep up the good work ?
Great video (as always).
Free bonus download worksheet is a great extra. Thank you.
I love your video and thank you so much for the advice. I have learn a lot from it specially my mistake was I was running after men than men running after me. I was given him more attention, then him given me. I was cooking for him and buying him stuff so that he will like me but I just figure out in this video he is just using me. I didn’t take myself as someone sexy or high. I always took myself as someone in the middle.
Thank you so much and I will follow your step from now on.
Thanks so much for being YOU! The principal I need to work most on is either 3. I’m a super assertive achiever and have fallen in love fast. Its so hard to knock yourself out of LA LA land after a romantic date! Have you made up a work for having a “love hangover” feeling the romance and butterflies in your stomach the next day or days after?
I need to remember number 7. Be easy to approach bit hard to obtain. While I think I am easy to approach, I may be too easy to obtain when with a guy I really like. As another dating coach says..…date at least three, keep the focus on me.
Can’t wait for the 2nd video 🙂
What I am grateful for from your presentations is learning how the male mind works, as well as, all the great tips for us females. Thank you for putting your knowledge out there!
Wow..If only I knew this 20 years ago..would have saved myself so much heartache..and constantly asking friends (or vice versa) “Should I call him..”why Isn’t he calling me”..”should I do the 3 day wait rule before I call him”..blah..blah..” Let’s go to bars and meet men!!.. “Oh my gosh..he called..so nervous..where Should we go..what should I wear..what should I say..will be like me”? He just met me in a bar 2 hours ago..seemed like a great guy.,we really hit it off..now it is 1am..he is calling me..what should I do..and so on..wish I would have watch this video then. Now, I am middle aged, lonely and still..single. I hope these videos will help. Thank you for making these available.
Thanks, Adam! I am a middle 60’s age lady, single after 43 years of being married. I have been doing exactly what you talk about……developing a new, exciting life for myself as a single. I look at this period in my life as a time to explore interests and hobbies that I couldn’t do before. I have moved cross-country to be near family and so I am starting over in a number of ways. I want to begin dating sometime in the near future but feel that I just want to be friendly and look at dating as a way to build potential friendships that could blossom into love. I know that I will naturally weed out a lot of guys because I have high standards about sex, commitment, love, etc. Thanks for your video and I look forward to seeing more. I think your principles are VERY applicable, even for older women like me.
I wasted 8 minutes of my life –the beginning of the video–hearing nothing else but repetitions. The rest of the video is good.
You are amazing teacher, I understand what I was doing wrong now, can’t wait for new videos.
awesome video!tnx adam
Thanks Adam! I hope I can get away from these men who are super insecure with themselves. I found that was my insecurities I have been attracting insecure men my main insecurity is my appearance. Being told that I am beautiful attractive sexy however it’s great but yes I do need to work on myself so good tip thank you
Thank you Adam the video was quite good 🙂 I think there was just one thing you had missed out in this video about being attracted to a chubby man I’m actually attracted to a man with a bit of a belly but don’t worry about it its cool lol anyway I think I could to improve more on enjoying my life without a man but I can find it hard to sometimes because I can help but think about having sex with another man and I’ve done it on my own like over a hundred times now lol
sorry I put can instead can’t in one sentence lol I don’t why I keep on spelling things work
missed out instead of lol i’m making a lot of typos
You are awesome and so upbeat, I love your videos !!
Adam, in one single sentence, you are the best thing that had ever happened to me. Your advice are incredible.
I have been feeling devastated for more than a month after my ex-boyfriend from a long term relationship emotionally died on me. I was hating on myself because he didn’t appreciate any of the efforts I was putting into the relationship. All of my efforts were focused on him, not me. It was draining and toxic because I stopped doing things that I wanted to do, I was only doing things according to what I thought he might want. I had lost the joy of loving my own life… I’ve been trying to knock some sense into myself to forget him and moving on. He’s not worth it. But I didn’t feel any better until I watched many of Adam’s videos on YouTube. When I reached the point of going on this website I listened to this video while dancing (with no music even) and I am just pumped to be ME again. Obviously this involved action taking and pursuing things I want to do, which this video definitely encourages!
Very interesting and informative!
Great video! Ready for more 🙂
Great Video,it actually has taught me heps,which I will following my dating.I feel more confident now after watching this.Thanks Heaps
I really love your video.from now am going to work on the last principle.Thanks alot
Thank you. I now know that MY time is valuable and not to invest more time in him than what he is giving me. This is the step I need to work on.
Thanks Adam, this is very helpful.
I need to focus on not investing too much in the realtionship, not more than in myself.
What you say really makes sense to me.
Thank you again for your very valuable advice!
Thanks for the advice, Adam. What you teach here makes total sense! Nice to have some insight from a male’s point of view. I’ll be working on learning to put myself first once in awhile, which is something I usually don’t do. Thanks again! :o)
Thank you for the advice honestly it’s what I needed to hear. My husband broke up with me last October and I’ve Been through hell but I know that relationship is gone! Time to attract a new one but with him!! He’ll see what I am capable of and I came to see your video in the perfect moment! Thank you Adam! Waiting on your next videos!!!!
Aloha Adam….#2 is the one principle I need to be more aware of……Thanks 🙂
My most important principle is n#6: “high value women attract high value men”
Seems as far as I can remember, I have always felt like I am not worth the time, not worth the attention… But looking over my shoulder, I am not nothing! I am worth something and I have come a long way… But how does one get that confidence? No matter how many times I tell myself everymorning “you are worth it”, when it comes to meeting people or confronting a guy, I shrivel back into my shell and hope he gets to see past it.
I am surrounded by stunning, confident friends, and next to them, it’s like day and night!!
I know it is not easy, and I will do my best to work on it… I just hope I am doing this right….
The one that speaks to me the most is that high value women attract high value men. I realised that I don’t wholeheartedly believe that I am high value as I haven’t rejected men straight away when they didn’t treat me that way. Will work on that area. Thank you for the advice regarding setting boundaries to what is acceptable and will put that into action. Also will make him work for my love because I give it with no effort on his part and he doesn’t appreciate it anymore. Thanks again for showing me where I’m going wrong.
Thanks a lot for these 7 points. Very good summary, and actually teach women to be confident about ourselves, but not intentionally to amuse men. Quite refreshing!
Question: does these rules to the men at all ages? Is there any possible that more mature/shy/being hurted men are not exactly following these rules?
The high value is what I struggle with. I was abused by my husband for 25 years. I’m smart, educated, beautiful, and funny. I was told everyday, by the person who should have protected and valued me, that I was worthless. I knew deep down that wasn’t true but hard to deprogram. I don’t feel worth it at times. I don’t share my story with the anyone but those who know me and him. I’m at a loss. Most every man I meet or date really likes me, we have great connections, and we end up being great friends. I have more guy friends than I know what to do with. All that said, I will focus on the value I bring and deserve. A
Thank you, Adam, for selflessly sharing what you have learned in the dating world. My husband has been dead for 8 years and I’m just starting to feel ready for a relationship. I am 66 years old but still have my body, my looks and my hair. I am well-educated and have led the life most people only dream of – upper echelons of the music industry. I also have a ton of interests. Some I can no longer pursue thanks to a 70mph head on meeting with a drunk driver. But I’m still getting around on my own, live on my own with my fiercely masculine German Shepherd, and would now like to add a man to the equation.
Contrary to what others have said, I do want a masculine man. I’m tired of doing it all myself. I am capable and bring high value to a relationship. I would settle for no less than a quality man. I needed all of this reinforced as it’s been so very long since I’ve been in the dating world. And I especially have to remember to radiate my femininity. I have learned to be too independent acting and don’t even know how to ask for help until I’m desperate.
On the positive side: I was in a brewery the other night where I lead a trivia team. A young man came up to me and said, ” I just have to tell you that you are beautiful”. He was respectful and not trying to pick me up – he was wayyyyy to young. But it really felt good to hear a desirable very young man say those words. That will hold me for a while, until I hear them from an age-appropriate man.
That brings up one question I have. What is age-appropriate? Anyone who asks me out is at least ten years younger than me. It was been that way since my thirties. And now, the men I find attractive are mostly younger than me. The ones my age or older are lifeless for the most part. Please help me with that. I don’t want to feel like a cougar because I am not.
Adam, this is an awesome video, and I love your 7 Emotional Attraction Principles. Thank you so so so much!
awesome video !!
Awesome! Looking forward to the next one
Thanks Adam ?
As you went from point to point, I could see exactly WHERE I went wrong & with WHO!! So crystal clear. Wow✨
I think Point # 7 is a biggie for me. I really need to consciously work on it. I am usually very unapproachable & possibly come across as that – unapproachable. I need to learn to be friendly, vibrant & basically just have fun when meeting people – in this case, men. The reason I am guarded with men is because I don’t want to be taken advantage of…don’t want to appear ‘easy’. But now that you have clarified it… ‘Be easy to approach, hard to attain’, I am excited to let go & have fun.
Thanks again for sharing your priceless tips?
I’ve been guilt of moving too fast, and investing too much emotionally,energy and time.
great video made me think about just how much effort i put into relationships
You nailed it…its idealistic but some times we like somebody so much that we forget to follow rules…although we can not deny what you told.. i appreciate and will follow it..
Let’s have 2nd video
I am going to apply these principles to my current relationship.
Much needed when you havent been in the dating scene in a min. We tend to forget what we are
I like the video Adam, the thing for me is that I follow all those principles because it’s aleady my character, but still all the guys that I ve being dating they re all afraid to move to the next step and commit. Most of them they even disappear after couple of months of dating, it’s true that they end up by coming back again to me, but they all have that one answer that they want to be with me but no commitment. That’s sound weird but this s how it goes with me
I love yr video and I learned something, but my thing is that I don’t have good communication skills especially with my guy. What can I do cause I know its me.
Thank you for the video! That was awesome!
Hi there my name is Lorie;
I enjoyed your video ; I liked the one with high value, I feel that is really important, I haven’t dated for a year now; still yes I would like too. a relationship burned me of course , it was definitely the blinder thing going on…….. so bad that I stopped taking care of myself , working out , eating wrong ect… It was real bad… However time to move forward, time to think of me…. it does take time alot of it sometimes…. any advice of speeding things up ?
Thank you for this video . I always have no problem finding men . It is keeping then that is the story . I need to work on being less needy appearing in order to be more myself. I self sabotage things because I figure it is safer to do that with good men
I need to work on #1
I need to basically get a life.
Do more things. Learn more ect.
Awesome and thought provoking video. One of the hardest of the seven principles I really need to work on is to stop investing more into a man than he is willing to invest in me. I love that you brought up about sexiness being a frame of mind and not just physical.
Mary Pat Foley
Reminder that I am the CEO and I control who is hired and who is fired in my life!!
I have a hard time with being feminine. I manage dozens of men and I CAN’T submit to them, or I’ll be seen as a weak push over.
Great Video, what hit home for me is # 2 don’t invest more in a man than he’s investing in you! Can’t wait to see the next video…
Hi, awesome video! I def have to work on being more approachable. I’m a high value woman. I’m just wondering is there’s such thing as too much “high value”? My friends often tell me my standards are to high and I should lower them… I really don’t think my standards are too high, I just know what I want and won’t settle for less…is that a bad thing??
I have been asking this question in hopes you will help women like myself, who have the guy.
This guy that I know who used to live here in New York moved to Florida for health reasons. We were friends, connected talked through Facebook and in November started messaging a lot. We talked about everything. I have sent this comment two times before. I have the guy, I have the fish on the line, how do I reel him in.
Good advice…Thank you
Good Advice, Thank you.
Looking forward to next video.
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You should add: control your hormones and do not look crazy. =( One week per month I cannot control my mood.. And I look needy or crazy, upset with everything.
People ask me all the time. Why are you single? Well… I’m self employed opened another practice and play a sport that’s very time consuming. My issue is meeting single men. They end up being married or in a relationship. Those are both no no’s for me. And if I do find a single guy they say I’m intimidating. I am a very confident woman. That will not chase a man. I firmly believe if a man is interested. He should be letting me know he’s interested.
Thank you for making these videos Adam, they’re like little nuggets of man gold :-D*
Great insite in this video. I am working on making my life full and interesting.
Adams enthusiasm just lights things up! Thank you Adam. About 50 years ago Emeraude took out full page ads in women’s magazines to advertise their perfume. The caption on the photo of a romantic encounter said “Want him to be more of a Man? Try being more of a Woman.” I was a young girl back then, but that idea always stuck with me. But not when I needed it! Just when I was daydreaming.
Now, what does that mean? This is (or was) a mans world and somehow we have somewhere along the way, lost that feminine power and mystique that is our birthright as we woman have engaged more and more in the mans world. So for many of us our task is to separate how we are at work to how we are at home and in a love relationship. And to learn what it is to “be feminine.”
For those of you who are spiritually minded, The Council of the Grandmothers speaks to this very issue. They teach that the world has too much Yang masculine energy causing all kinds of problems. What the world needs is more (receptive) Yin energy. The Grandmothers Speak in A Call to Power just how that can be accomplished both personally and universally.
And I too Love men who are the ‘take charge’ but not controlling, type of guy!
Great video. I get the most out of “Be easy to approach, hard to attain.”
I’m dating a great guy wity whom I have lots of chemistry with but he’s hesitant to take it all the way to commitment town after 3 months of dating. This video demonstrates to me that I really do need to love my own life more. What needs the MOST work is creating financial security for myself. THAT would go a long way toward me loving my own life and believing that I am a high value woman! Starting a new exercise program today as well just for me as my guy and plenty of guys absolutley love my body type which is super curvy so I can attest to the fact that not all men are looking for a super fit athletic girl. I attract super fit and good looking men even though my I’m not a perfect 10 in the body department.
Great video it helped a lot!
Awesome! Love your advice above the rest! What to do if youve already let things move to fast. I tried digging my heels in but he was moving along quickly and now theve slowed down. Hes still here just not as intense as before so ive tried backing off too and its helped a little.
Fabulous. You are very down to earth and honest in your advice. However, I am in a long term relationship with a guy who can’t seem to be ‘ready’ for marriage. He says its because he doesn’t think he feels the same way about me anymore. Please help me get him back…
Thanks adam i am 20 yrs old and i interesting for watching more videos to learning emotional attraction
I love a boy $ i am his neighbour but he is not interested me
Great video… I’m so clingy, I guess it’s cause I have a boring life.. But as from now I’m going to work on all my flaws; and I’m going to have fun and stop putting in much into what I’m not seeing.
That was somewhat of an eye-opener some of the things that you suggested I have done automatically I some of these things due to my mom teaching me “how to play hard to get and respecting my body because it is my only temple and I must keep it pure.” My mother has always told me “if you respect yourself than others respect you too, but if you like those wild, crazy boys and you don’t care who you get as long as you have someone then they’re not going to respect you for who you really are and you’re not giving yourself a fair chance at meeting someone who is decent,” mom says this which is very true.
I like the part when you say “if a relationship isn’t working out…”
But that’s just what it is right now until I give myself the right opportunity to move on with my life for the right reasons which I don’t even know what they are right now because I feel somewhat stuck but I do value myself worth and what you said “is if you think of yourself as a high-class woman then you will attract high class men” and that is very true, I LOVE PLAYING HARD BALL!!!
(I respect myself and I want to see how much these guys are willing to put up with until I decide to let them come closer)
I am very picky and maybe that’s what attracted Him. He would continuously come around and I kept him at a safe distance because I had a bad relationship prior to him (but I was in love with this one and losing him killed me inside day in and day out it was a soul tie) something SO STRONG AND UNHEALTHY it was like nothing ever before but he was only my second relationship; & I have somewhat nothing else to fall back on ( because my first one was a rebound and what led to number two only magnifying the feelings even more!) I was happy and losing him killed me. Keep in mind I am still worthy of love I am high-class chick and I deserve my happy ending!
Really great Adam! Thanks for this. I would surely be following you through.
I like the part about not investing too much in the guy and being easy to approach and hard to attain
I have a problem with #3 I guess I naturally go slow. So, he makes me aware of it. So, I sped up a little bit and what happens? He puts on the break! Complains that he needs someone on his speed and that he wasn’t comfortable with my beliefs. So, Adam,
What did I do wrong.
it’s up there.
I am working on number one and number seven. For a long time, I stopped everything and focused on being a mother and a wife and volunteering at school and forgot to take care of myself … When my kids got older & didn’t need me so much, I hovered over my husband too much…
I have been focusing on getting involved in community programs, Rotary, and making eye contact and having conversations with strangers on a daily basis… I tend to be shy And I’m working on trying to feel more like a grown-up. I have enrolled in some community college courses and I look forward to expanding my horizons
Thank you so much Adam
I am very grateful
Your talks and this video are extremely interesting and informative. As ludicrous as it may sound, there was never anyone who would mentor me and teach me these things. I spend my adult life doing everything wrong.. Change is difficult but i am determined that this old dog will learn new tricks.
One glaring thing i have observed. Precious few woman have that “feminine” thing. It has been obvious that these few just exude femininity…effortlessly. Is this something that can be taught?
These gals just seem soft and inviting and yet are no pushovers. Can you help with this?
As you know, I am new to your site. You may have something already in place.
Thank you for everything
Please forgive me. I realized the way I expressed my concern about femininity … I heard you when you said you couldn’t teach it, but do you have a referral for who can?
Quite honestly, i need all 7 principles badly, so I am starting with #4 and #6. Your presentations have gotten through to me that i am important an do have a lot to offer. However, if i don’t take care of myself, i won’t be around to develop the wonderousness of me
Amazing so nice and so helpful thanks
Your last comment is a perfect example of femininity. You recognized how wonderful you are. Most likely this refers to how wonderful you are as a woman, and a person worthy of respect and love. Since you already have that confidence, femininity should follow naturally. Think about the qualities you like in a man and what masculinity means: confidence, attractiveness, a perspective on life that reflects how a man thinks and feels. Then think about the opposite: what you like about being a woman including your physical appearance, manner of clothing, the way you walk and your posture, your confidence and your love of being a woman. These things are femininity.
I am still working g on emotional attraction
My fav was wanting a masculine man and me being more feminine. Thanks so much for pointing that out! Very important 😉 I’m learning this and it’s working 😘…. Thanks Adam
Amanda M Morales
Great info! Thanks!
These tips and advice is great. I have been seeing someone and lately a bit on the edge of if he really still wants to see me and it makes total sense because he doesn’t put effort into seeing me. I am so happy I stumbled across this
High Value..a must..
These tips seem very logical and useful. I’ll try and see if they work for me. Thank you in advance!
I really enjoyed the video. I see much of my old self here. Fortunately I have gone through a period of growth and have learned to respect and value myself. I have also had a change of attitude regarding what I will and won’t accept. Your video verified that I am in a healthy place
The video is motivating and the advice sounds practical. It will be interesting to see if the advice works in real life. Also finding these men in the first place can be challenging.
Thanks a lot for making this video. I am going to work on the points you mention in this video. Well, I must say that it did boost my confidence level. To be honest I felt like I always had been the kind of woman you said that we should be, but I somehow had lost myself somewhere. I guess I just need to be me again. Well I just hope it works…and I think it well. I think I finally am in a right place where I can get the right guidelines. Thanks again. Looking forward to your other videos and tips.
Thanks Adam for the wonderful tips. Please could you make one in how to keep your man? 😉
Awesome ! Thank you !
Great honest . Good tidbits for single women to be mindful of. Especially the get a life aspect.
I’m so glad to have discovered your Youtube channel. I met a great guy online and though distance is an issue at the moment, I can see where I can improve upon the way I handle myself and our interactions.
Hi Adam and everyone whose comments I have read,
I found your style of teaching/talking very open and honest. I have found that men are attracted to my strenghts however they don:t commit. It certainly has to do with having and enjoying your own life and not investing more energy or for that matter time into an uncommitted relationship. Looking forward to next Video. Thanks again
Great video! Believe it or not all of these principles have been embedded within me from a young age. However, I have been told on more than one occasion that because I do follow these principles that is the reason why I am still single at 34… I often wonder if its a cultural aspect because as a African American women I feel as though maybe I am stereotyped to be a certain way. When in fact I am the complete opposite.
Great job Adam … I m totally your fan ….
hmmm. ready for more.
This video is so very helpful. Your truly amazing!!
awesome, I love your precious advice. keep it up. I ‘ll wait for the next videos
Very useful advice! Lots to think about mindfully, I love that I really need to think about myself first and what I want !
I really enjoyed the video hope to help us all to get a better dating life. Love you all xo
I have a question I might have a little of a hard time find your man because a single mother with a baby boy I usually get over my husband’s murder so I might be a bit tricky or hard for me because I have my baby with me and I’m not sure if many men but they won’t accept me even though I have a child with me
I also noticed not many men would accept responsibility and dealing with a child with me of being a single mother so I don’t want to accept the baggage if you get what I’m saying that’s question is that of a comet
This video was great, I have learned so much already. Thank you
I’ve just watched this video, and it’s quite an eye opener, really. I’m in a situation right now that has had me confused the past couple of weeks, and this video gave me answers that i didn’t really expect to hear at the moment.
Thanks so much for this Adam! Very helpful! <3
I think my problem is in the #7. I am hard to approach, but once somebody approched me, I think I am easy to attain.
Oh, and also thanks for those amazing tips. 🙂
very helpful and very logical. just have to out this info into practice. Everything I have read, studied , watched, etc. really at the core all have the same message. But it might take a different way of saying it that will click for others, like myself. Coming out of 16 year abusive marriage and the mother of an 11 year old son, it has been hard. I come with my own barrel of issues that I am addressing one by one. I have been dating someone for the last 8 months who has been divorced for 6 years and I have only been single for about 10 months. He is old boyfriend from 25 years ago!! He has been my biggest rock and supporter and he reminds me to do things for myself and be “alone” and “single” because I have to learn to do those things. He is the one who wants to take things slow and he has walls up too. But these 7 rules remind me to take care of me FIRST because it is the only way I will be good for me, my son and anyone I date. another important emotion rule is not to be invested more than he; it is the only way not to be let down, something else I am working on. THANK YOU!!!
Thank you Adam!!! Your video is very helpful!!! 🙂
Enjoyed the video.
Wow. Simple, easy and brilliant. Thank you
Good video looking forward to the next one
I tend to invest more into him than he is investing into me.
I’m really working hard on attaining #1, a wonderful fulfilling life, after 17 years of marriage. I, too, have children (ages 9 & 11) who need my support as we manage a new life. I have begun by finding new girlfriends who are interested in the same activities I like. I’m also doing things I can do alone. For years, in my marriage, i had no life outside of the marriage.
Going to keep working it until I completely love my life!
Affirms and co-insides with Adam has advised so far in his videos. Great simple information that hits a home run as it makes sense 🙂
i love the way you talk about women and nice video
Adam, I love you, but just once I’d love to watch one of these videos that was all meat and potatoes! Im here, I’m watching you, i already trust you and know who you are! <3
Thank you for your advise you really helped me in a few of my problems in relationships and calmed me down about my life and who I deserve thank you now I know what I must do in life.
Some of us need advise like this from the heavens above! since nobody tells you this important stuff. In your words, no-one has invested this time in me, I have so many so called close relations yet no one… thank you Adam ; )
Loved the video Adam ! You are a great speaker & life coach !
1-3 are my favorite most relatable tips that I seem to need constant reminders of lately.
I’ve made great strides over the last 6 months making my life full & better on my own.
And I’ve only just begun. I recently re-connected with a guy I was involved with 4 years ago and both of us are in much better situations in our lives than we were when we first met.
I have noticed his chase & hide process the last couple weeks. Especially if I begin to give more than I receive. But I wasn’t sure until now how to understand it.
Thank you for your guidance. I look forward to future videos from you !
It has helps me thanks alot for having you
Thanks Adam video was great loved it 😊😊
Thanks Adam! Great job–already feeling more confident!
Makes a lot of sense and a viable plan. Hard to make myself get out as I’m not a bar type person.
Super principles…printed and ready for the bathroom wall. Looking forward to getting out there.
Thanks so much Adam! These are so great! Couldn’t have found you and James at a better time for me!
Great video. ..all things we’ve heard before but presented and explained very well! Thanks!
That’s awesome Adam,I have never realised that.I’ll keep watch at the same time trying them out.
Thank you Adam..
hi, thank you adam for these videos ,
I think you are spot on about all your points. So I will be checking out more videos from you about the personal growth that we all need to work on!!!! We all need to feel exited about life!!!
I am listening to everything you have to say. I met a man on social media. We argued politics. We bantered. And then things seemed to edge toward more personal conversations. We found that we had a lot in common both in our personal lives as well as business. I am a confident, sensual, 61yr. old woman. But I haven’t dated in almost 30 yrs. I found out he is 42 and hasn’t dated much in the past 7 yrs., and nothing intimate. As with me, he had trust issues after a cheating spouse. But he was surprised that he was telling me things he hadn’t discussed with any other women. And we both started becoming attracted to each other. Perhaps it was the safety of being online. We’ve exchanged photos, no sexual ones. The problem is I find myself falling into old habits, ones you warn against. So I am listening. And I will follow your advice. I need to remember who I am, and not who I was in my 20’s. Thank You Adam.
A lot of what he has said I have done. I meet an amazing man last year, and he helped me get into a passion I have had since I was a teen. We have been good friends since. Over the course of the pass few months I have realizes that I have fallen in love with him. What makes it so hard it that we have great chemistry and we are amazing together, but he has a hurdle that is preventing him from loving me back. We both truly care, respect, and think highly of one another. Now I have been trying to date guys, but I don’t feel the chemistry. I even have done what Adam has suggested. I am almost at a lost. Part of me doesn’t want to give up on my friend, but on the other hand I don’t want to end up wasting my time. I am hoping the next few videos will help me.
Just great and works. 🙂
I like the video but I really would like it if you showed me how to apply it like a how to implement the strategy in real life and showing the results that’s how I learn I’m a visual learner thanks Adam
Your a great teacher! Thank you!
Great info, but this isn’t what I’m looking for, or stuff I need to work on. I’m waiting for the part on how to get the obsessive guys to leave me alone, quit calling me, texting, ringing the doorbell, telling everyone I’m their girlfriend. They get so mad at me when I ignore them so they harrass me, the police won’t help, I don’t know what to do, I feel lost.
I got into a relationship with a guy that has been wanting me for months, id been rejecting him coz i thought i had better chances with two other guys, one was just using me for sex coz i happened to meet a girl he liked instead, and i found out from her textmessages with him that he liked her,while he made me feel special at time, the other guy too was blunt that he didnt want me,just the sex, when he had been into me for like 2 months,our chats were sooo great, until we had sex, as fresh from pain as i was i decided to take the advise from your other video,to give myself breathing time, until this new guy came into my life and i couldnt say no because id never been in a proper relationship in a while and i decided not to wallow in self pity and dispise for people that were just flings, im definitely taking the advice here, because im keeping him!
I had dropped these principles from my life and now realize where i went wrong…..I became needy and un-confident in myself…i forgot to be myself…..now i’m reafy to get back to basics
Thank you for the video and excellent advice given. These steps can never be heard enough. These will be my everyday principles for the rest of my life. Loving me and caring for me has been my greatest strength and also an admired one..
It was a great video. Loved it so much!Thank you for sharing all these useful information.
hi Adam i loved the video.
THANKS FOR BEING HONEST!
Hi Adam! Well…that was a fun video to watch! Your presentation style is quite charismatic! Honestly, the principles you taught were reassuring to me. Apparently, I’m doing a lot of things right! I have a good life, activities beyond my career and family, and I take great care of body. I’m fortunate to be physically attractive, and very approachable. So when trying to figure out where it is that I fall short, I can identify a couple of gray areas… On the rare occasions that I’ve met someone who I find enough interest in, who I think sees my value, I may move too fast. I don’t mean I start assuming a serious relationship, I mean that I get excited to talk to him and see him and one might see that as though I’m too into him…?? The other is my being approachable…maybe TOO approachable! I’m used to being in front of and speaking to groups. I’m very welcoming, kind, friendly, and wear a smile most of the time. I don’t automatically assume a man is hitting on me just because he strikes up a conversation. I like to talk with people and learn about them!! Well…sometimes, that makes a man feel a little too welcome, if you know what I mean… That’s a problem!! I don’t really know how to put up the stop sign BEFORE it gets awkward. Unfortunately, it gets awkward often. I have found so very few men who I am truly interested in – who are what I consider high value enough, and I have the attitude that if it isn’t going to go anywhere, it is a waste of time! So…maybe that’s my problem???? I don’t know..
Thanx Adam thus shod definitely open doors
Thank you Adam for caring so much about women to share this wisdom with us I knew some of these points but there is one that I didn’t know and I am 71 a widow and still looking forward to life last love of my life in this last chapter of my life. We are never too old to learn thank you sweetheart
Thank you Adam. Your videos have helped me so much. I now know the value l have. Im sexy and confident…thanks again.
It’s a great video.I try to use these principles in everyday life.
Perfectly said Adam! I’ve always known I’m a great catch and carry myself in a confident, feminine sensual way (different than sexy) and I’m outgoing. But after listening and seeing the first couple of rules to follow, I realized that although I know what I have to offer, if I really liked a man, I’d start giving way more than I got because I thought “I’m just a caring, giving woman” and by continuing that, I was always taken advantage of and willing to compromise on my boundaries.
Now at 48, just yesterday, I told a man I was dating for 6 months (and crazy about) that it wasn’t working because the relationship had become unbalanced and I deserved to be treated as well as I treated him. And it’s the most empowering action I’ve taken in a relationship. I finally see the patterns I was allowing and it always ended the same.
So thank you for your video! It’s amazing how I knew everything for years that you said but I had rose colored glasses on and wouldn’t listen to myself. Now I’m ready to make myself number 1 and if I don’t find what I want, I’ll be fine being with my friends, kids and myself!
THANK You Adam for th great advice. I’ve been out of the dating scene for quite some time. I’ve been single for almost 7 months now, not sure if I’m ready for the dating scene again or not. But I thank u for the great advice and I am going to continue watching your videos for all the advice on dating I can possibly get, like I said I’m new to this whole dating scene.
A big thank you for you Adam. It was an interesting topic, a great video and advice. You explained most of it very clear. In my opinion of course it’s not popular opinion I need more explanation about femininity. I know you are not woman but it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to radiate femininity. Even though I am a woman it doesn’t mean I know how to radiate femininity. I’m independent woman some time I don’t realise that I dominate man. I think I didn’t dominate man but man think I dominate him. I could really use your help with something. If you can provide more example how women can radiate their femininity in your next video it will help a lot of women Adam.
Thank you Adam for the encouraging video. I have found that in all my past and present relationships, I am extremely needy. Which is an emotional attraction killer. I will work on this. I am looking forward to seeing the next video.
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Thank you. The video is very helpful.
Thank you your video helped me to understand…what’s wrong is going on in my life…..will surely apply your principles and Let you know the changes in my Life
Those were really useful awesome tips.Thanks Adam…
That video is awesome and useful. But, my problem is putting effort on myself makes me confident, whether or not the guy is investing the same.
thanks adam, i Owe you a lot
As a graduate student, it’s hard to find time to date and look for a relationship. At the moment, I do not believe I am in a position to focus on a finding someone to build a relationship with, which brings me to my point of how I love that your videos focus mainly on self-image and positive outlooks on who I am as a person. I can see where I lack on most of these 7 emotional attractions, but I know the one I struggle with the most (at least internally) is not having an incredible life without a man. I wish to work on all of these attractions, but I am obviously limited on time since I am a graduate student and my life is wrapped up in researching, teaching and studying. How can I make a plan for myself to take all of these 7 emotional attractions and work on them with a limited time frame? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Hi I am so blessed by your principles. It gives me clear understanding that men will only appreciate a woman when she learned to love herself first. I love your sincerity. Thank you. Godbless.
Thanks Adam 🙂 Great advice! I liked all what you said but one thing stood out most of what you said was about when someone is single, that that is the time to do all the things you are passionate about because you have more time and it is a time for discovering what you are passionate about. Thanks again!
This I found this to be good information I’m in my 49’s single for a few years finally ready to dip my foot back in the water so to speak after a bad 25 year relationship. Hopefully this advice will help. I had no self esteem at all thanks to my ex. So I need to work on no. 4 treat your body like a temple, learn to love my own body, think that I’m sexy. What a laugh. I know I’m working on it. But thanks….
Hello Adam!! I could have only wished I’d come across this BEFORE i fell for the man I’m currently interested in. No emotional investment on his part, and a broken heart on mine!!
Its funny because I have met some great guys and been failing at the dating life. These tips are exactly what I needed… Thank you!!
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Just saying thank you! Attracting love when you feel confortable in your own skin, having an amazing life, vibrating and letting flow all energy with no drama and having fun…this is all about! Great!
Thank you for the great tips. Some seem pretty common sense, others I never really thought about. Looking forward to having some fun learning and growing, yes growing forward 🙂
Excellent advice, looking forward to the rest of the video’s.
I am having problems with download of book and of the worksheet, please help.
Great advice ! You doing a great job ! Well done
Ty Adam sir ! Great advices ! Uh doing a great job ! Well done
I need to work on principle 1, 2, and 6. I know… but I’m here and willing to do the work on myself, to be happy with myself first.
I am holding strong principle #1 — I am building an incredible life and want to find a man who lives at an equally passionate level!
Thanks, Adam, great video. I know I need to work on #5. I’ve been “independent” since 16 when my mother left my father and I took on a mother type roll for my younger brother while my father checked out in depression. Being feminine to me is being “needy”. Now divorced from a 15 year marriage with a narcissist, I don’t trust many people and am quick to take care of myself. Part of being feminine is knowing a man desires to take care of his woman, and to let him, to not squash down his manhood. To know I do take care of myself and choosing to let a man want to take care of me is not lessening my independence or making me appear needy.
Great video, thanks for sharing with us women, some essential things about male psychology.
I think you’re absolutely right about the seven rules to follow and especially the one about radiating one’s feminity was momentous. I’m looking forward to your next videos.
I loved your video and e-book , I understand what your saying about being more confident, I have a question- I’ve been with the same man for 28 years , since I was 16 I’m 45 now , and we’ve tried making things work , we tried for 3 years and didn’t really get nowhere, he started seeing someone and it hurt me and we made up and things were going ok , then it went sour again . The thing is , he’s the only one I’ve ever been with , and he thought he was keeping me from experienceing life cause I hadn’t been with anyone. He was my life and our daughter. Now he’s with someone else again and it’s tearing me apart and I’m scared of getting out in life again . And I still love him and want him back , could you please help me figure out how to find out what my passions are and how to be happy and confident again , please help me find myself again .
Be confident. ###don’t be a needy friend.
Adam. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
You are awesome ….
thanks Adam that was really helpful ! i’m willing to change now, wish me luck guys 😀
Easy to approach..hard to obtain. Right when things are going great i come on to strong…. HELP! Thanks Adam! I have work to do …
Well done and informative.
how to be easy to approach, hard to attain when it seems looks are in the equation.
Amazing! Thank you!
I found this video most interesting as I am so ready to meet the “love of my life”. Thank you.
I really found this video very interesting and helpful. After years of dating and failed relationships I finally found some useful information and am going to try this. thank you .
Thank you for the principles. I think I have the basics of most of them. I just have to remember to apply them. My biggest hang up that I feel I need to work on is being more approachable. I am a pretty dominate woman that has learned to do things on her own out of necessity not always because I want to. But that being said I have learned how to go out and be comfortable with doing something I want by myself. Now to get the sexy approchable woman to shine through.
I will start with my journey and will get back to you. This video is really helpful. I learned a lot!
Amazing video. The worksheet will help as a daily reminder when life kicks in
Very helpful…thankypu and God bless
Happy New Year.
Thank you for the video.
Great content.. Lords knows I need it.😁
2,3 and 7.
This are my tougher areas. But I am glad I am able to admit that to my self. And change in those areas.
Looking forward to things being different..
Excellent speaker, very interesting content. Would have liked to know more about ”radiate your feminity” in a context where woman have significantly bigger jobs and income than man but yet still wanting the dominant male…. How can this be reconciled?
I have had enough of dominant males. How about an equal, balanced relationship? Otherwise, I see the value of the principles. Would like to know more about radiating my femininity.
#2 Don’t invest more in a man, than he’s investing in you – I am a giver so this one will be hard to do but I’m going to try. Also like Elizabeth said above – #5 “radiating femininity” I’m a strong woman who’s been alone along time and had to do things for myself, hard to reconcile the two but will work on it.
Awesome video thank you
Great reminders Adam! I am presently in the midst of my man pulling away to deal with some emotional things so your video was timely in reminding me of why this is affecting me so much, I need to get my life back!
I loved this video Adam!!! It was exactly what I needed to hear!
Great advice, I had forgotten to be me. I’m thankful for the reminder it’s ok to be me.
Your charisma motivates me along the way! THank you!
yeah I really should start making my single life the one I love right now
I absolutely cannot wait to hear more!!!!
Very difficult to start over after 50
“High value women attract high value men” found the missing link I guess. This video is awesome, thank you so much. Can´t wait for second one!
Awesome video, was very helpful
thank you Adam 😊
Adam thks lot this it flees so great to believe in your self. Not only self-confidence wins a man heart. But even a job. Thks so much
Thank you Adam! This was a compelling video with fantactic advice. I will likely be purchasing your ebook as well. I love to better myself and I love being open to new, intelligent ideas. Thanks again…see you in your next video!
This was a really good video, I enjoyed all of it! I most definitely invest more in a guy than he does in me. It’s a cycle I have been trying to break for quite some time now.
Another thing, I am oftentimes overly friendly with men, which then many of them mistaken as flirting, when actually I am not. There are times of course I am actually am flirting. Quite recently a male friend asked me to quit texting him because I was coming off as flirtatious. I explained to him that was not my intention, but would certainly respect his wishes.
Anyways, I definitely need to work on being careful not investing more into people than they invest in me. Friendships included here, not just regarding male friends or acquaintances.
I am a giver so that one to not give more than they are, will be a big one for me. But I am just getting back out into the dating scene and really need to learn to be more approachable. I catch eyes all the time but not sure on how to respond
Thank you for the video, it was helpful. I think my biggest issue is the last point, being easy to approach and hard to attain. I’m very shy so I keep to myself. I’ve been told men look at me often but none of them approach me. My friend keeps saying I need to be more flirtatious and I don’t know how to do that. Hoping next videos will help me get through this block. This is very helpful. Again, thank you so much Adam.
Absolutely the most helpful dating video I’ve seen
Great advice. Past few years I’ve been single I seem to attract the same type of men. Value- is the key world for me. I will be working on this.
Thank you!! The giver/taker advice is much appreciated…can’t wait for the next videos 🙂
I’m glad I found you who can give advice on any intimate relationship besides being good friends. You have great knowledge of what I should do in good ways to have confidence in myself. I like what you said about enjoying what I like most to do in my life, able to do the best I can to love myself, my whole being and my body. Thank you and can’t wait to hear from you and for the next video.
Great reminders for life in general points although Adam I would put number 6 and 4 before the others reason being when you let love in first the rest will follow….
Love yourself physically and emotionally will lead to true valuing of yourself this in turn leads to the confidence and emotionally and physical ability to put the energy into developing and maintaining that amasing life …. and you forgot one thing … patience ‘everything comes to us at the right time… we only need to have patience and trust in the process as all great things are worth waiting for 🙂
great affirming information 🙂
Great video. I can’t wait to learn more. I want to change the way I have been doing things and get the man that I really want.
I love your advice, but things are easier said than done.
I’m a single mom and usually end up with a fwb situation. I’m seeing a guy who “is not ready for a relationship” but I was patient and didn’t push so now he really seems to be coming around. He invited me to meet his daughter and friends and he does things for me and wants to please me. I m enjoying this time very much. Thanks for advice.
Great advice. I realized where I’ve been going wrong in several ways . I can’t wait for the next video
Thank You! there is only 1 question I have. You say that for every female there is a man attracted to her TYPE. So how about if Im not attracted to the type who’s attracted to me?
i get something out of each of your videos because it’s from a male perspective that’s the key so important, KEEP GIVING US THE WORDS I’M A WIDOW AND IT’S HARDER TO REENTER THE DATING WORLD . the games, the hidden meanings, it would be good if you could give insight somehow to that because dating divorcees vs widows are a whole different thing with people in the upper age groups…help!!!
I think self-improvement is the best part means if a person is not happy in his/her own life then he/she can’t make the others happy so it’s important to passionate about your own life!!!
I like your advices and your simple and warm style – thank you:)
I am really enjoying learning from your videos here and on YouTube. A good guy friend of mine (friend zoned guy friend) always tells me when I ask him how to do something to google it, so when I wanted to learn how to get back out there in the dating scene… I followed his advice.
So I am 52 years young, and divorced for ten years. I am finally feeling like I have a life worth sharing with someone special. When I got divorced I was bent on fixing whatever it was in me that got me into that shit relationship in the first place. I have spent the last 10 years fixing me and falling in love with me. As a matter of fact I have become so comfortable with me, that most of the time I don’t even realize how much time I spend alone with me and myself.
That is why I started to google/YouTube where to meet men, because I had no idea. I think I have realized that there are two huge mistakes that I make. One, I work from home, when I get off work I walk to my other room/studio and start painting, and when I get bored with that I go to my custom built gaming computer that I built and I either sit down and write or I PC Game… As a vegan I find it hard to eat out, so I don’t go out much. The nearest real town is 35 miles away.
My first thing I need to change is, *** I need to leave my house***.
Second thing I need to change is I need to learn how to be more approachable.
I think the third thing I need to learn is just to relax and be my funny ass self when I am out and about, instead of suddenly getting shy.
(Oh on the Vegan thing, I am trying to not be so strict on it. Maybe try a little more vegetarian, because my strict vegan diet was scaring off even friends and family. Frankly, I don’t see that much difference from being vegetarian other than I can’t eat out.)
I find it interesting that a lot of women, myself included really fall in love with themselves after they divorce or leave a relationship where they aren’t really loved by their partner. I also started by Googling and searching YouTube like you. I am on of those people who likes to research everything and am so glad I did.
PS used to be vegetarian/vegan and it does make it hard to go out. Loosening up will (in a way, unfortunately) make a big difference. With everyone.
Amazing really helpful 😀
I’ve recognized everything I’m doing wrong and looking forward to making changes.
Such an awesome video… Thank you, thank you, thank you !
Great video, Adam.Thanks
Great advice, Adam! I look forward to additional words of wisdom. Thanks! 🙂
Love the video, thanks for refreshing me, I have been in a 10 yr relationship, so ready to date again, looking forward to the next video!
Loved your video
loved the video. def need to follow the one where not to give so much into a guy. i tend to give my all and everything into a guy.and i know i need to change that. im currently seeing someone not official but im hoping maybe this will help me land us to be official
Terrific 1st video. Thanks for all the great info 🙂
I 10 to invest too much in a guy. Way too much energy! Very nice video!
Thank you I look forward to learning more!
I have always invested waaay too much in the guys I have been attracted to. So the concept of pulling back is some of the best advice I have ever gotten. Also, I have always been more successful or had the potential to earn more than the men I have been with, and for the most part am pretty confident. This caused me to do things that I didn’t even realize were emasculating. Now I know this was probably the biggest problem is my relationships – especially my ex-husband. I am a highly strategic person, so I love the concept of referring to these methods as strategic dating and not games because they aren’t. Nor do I feel like this would be “not being myself,” and actually the complete opposite. I am learning and adapting in order to project and embody who I am in the way I want to be seen and attract what I want. I wish I would have known this ages ago! I have been SO utterly clueless. Thank you!!!
Thank you so much, this is an eye opener to help me understand men.
¡Gracias!!! Ahora sí podré ligar jajajja.
This video had some really good insight, I hope I’m not so far gone with the relationship that caused me to start looking for advice.
I plan on implementing these strategies in my everyday life. I work in construction and being feminine is not as easy task in this field. However,I belive how you present your self when interacting with people can actually place you in their mind on either a positive note or negative one. I’ll let you know how it goes.
I absolutely love your video. You are right on it. I can’t wait for the next one. Being there done it. I had let a couple of great quality guys gone because l didn’t follow the values or rules. I moved too fast. You give great advice .
I understand now that I just need to be more fun!
What a powerful video! Think you. You answered a question that has been baffling me forever. This is it; so I know I am a high value woman but why do men get angry when I set reasonable boundaries? I am an excellent communicator, I am kind (maybe too kind), gentle, feminine so why the anger with boundaries? Here’s the answer; (When you set boundaries you are saying “I am a high value woman” and ONLY a high value men will be able to accept them”. O.K. This makes sense because my awesome men friends and family members are very gracious about my boundaries and happy to support me when I set them. What does this tell me about the quality of men I have dated? Hummm? Need more quality men in my life, need a quality man to date! Thanks again for clearing up the mystery.
I enjoyed your tips
Great video and great tips. Thanks Adam
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In my town we are having a boom
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Adam, you are so cute (but none the less maskuline), generous with your advice, charming, funny, intelligent and modest. Love your energy! Kudos to you and all the people in this world, who spread love <3
Just have to throw in a comment on Ben and Jerry's. Once I dated a guy, I had a magical connection with. On our first date he served me Ben & Jerry's. After he broke up I couldn't even look at Ben & Jerry's ice cream without feeling hurt. Which was so frustrating, because I really wanted to have a Ben & Jerry's ice cream haha. Finally, I can eat Ben & Jerry's again and they have some new great tastes 😉 So have faith, heartache does pass.
And to all the single ladies. Take advantages of your freedom to pamper yourself, have fun, meet people and do all the things you always dreamed of 🙂
Good video with some thought provoking ideas. There are many websites for men who advise readers to use women only for sex, don’t get emotionally involved, and dump the woman when he is tired of her. I know these are not the type of men any intelligent woman would put up with, but still, it’s sad that they encourage men to act like this. There is a movement called MGTOW( men going their own way), which I guess is in response to the feminist movement. Why do we have to act like the opposite sex is our enemy? Vive la difference.
Stop offers don’t want it 52 done with the Bolognese.
Loved this video and thank you for sharing! I have need to work on only giving as much as I’m receiving.
Very informative. Thank you.
Amazing video. Thanks
Hi! This is the most awesome video I’ve came across with. Its really going to have much impact cz I use to invest more in the relationship than a man thanks for sharing with us women
Thanks for this series! I Identify most with principle number two because I always seem to invest more than I get back! I’m going to get started today on putting all these principles into action! thanks again
I definitely struggle the most with radiating femininity. Thank you for sharing this video series.
I cannot tell you how this mind set with your 7 principles has been exactly what I needed to learn. For me it was 1-3…. I have always been investing way too much too soon and always tried to move things too quickly…. although as I got older my ego started stepping in and controlling more of the emotions towards men when seeing someone. I wanted to show those feeling but held back…..which is good this has prevented me from continuing to be needy or appearing needy. When I was younger I was very needy… now I still feel it but try to control it. That said, the investing in men is what is very difficult for me as I’m always over analyzing where the relationship is going, how the guy feels about me, and over analyzing every little step. It is emotionally draining! I need to stop this and love me first. Hard to get out of that mode. Thank you so much for the tools to think about and apply! You are awesome.
Video #3 really hit home for me. Thank you, now I know what to look out for.
I love your videos I just started to see them today. Great points. Keep them coming ❤️🙏🏿
Love the videos great 👍🏾 points. I am a first timer👍🏾🙏🏿
I’m not single but i’m interesting in your videos.Hmmmmm an Africal man is afraid of an intelligent woman.
pretty awesome!!!! Really sound wisdom.
Amazing advise Adam! I find that I possess all those qualities, except one and that is having an exciting life. I’m 41 years old and consider myself to be an attractive high value women, I have been with 2 men in my life. I have an 18 year old daughter, a 15 year old son, a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter, so my life revolves around my children, because I’m a mom first and for most, they will always come first in my life, so how do I make room for a good man to come into my life and how can I lead an exciting life in a mans eyes with children, when most of my free time is spent running errands and appointments?
thanks a lot, thru the video i understnd more . very clear explaination . i think i need to work on rule no 2.. so far ive try rule no 3 , and proven .. glad tht im joining ur mailing n video . 😊
Oh Adam thank you, can’t thank you enough for sharing with us women this amazing tools… Well appreciated on my behalf, I’m very particular when it comes to trust publicity, sales… All to me was a bunch of bullshit🙈 Sorry!! Until I saw you you’re so real, honest hmm just by showing your face is enough!! I have share it with a good ppl. (Ladies) keep being real that’s what really had got me to get your tools. I’m pretty much close of how you describe a woman to behave, but I’m not dating. I’ll follow places to go & meet people like you said. lma
Good than for sharing your knowledge Adam
Thank you! You are amazing man!!!….
Thank you! You are amazing man!!!!…..
I love this video….
Hallo thanks a lot for Posteing us nice videos
How do I get to see the other 3 videos?
I loved this video!!! ❤❤ I have been struggling with this since many years but didn’t find any solution. And then I saw your Channel. Thank you for the 7 principles of emotionally attracting men. And the point which I have to focus is believing in myself. Thinking that there is a guy who is going to get attracted to me, date me. I’m waiting for the next video!
great video made me analyze stuff about myself 😊
The vid won’t play for me.
You’re a nice-looking, warm & intelligent guy! I can’t understand why any normal, well-adjusted woman would reject you.
Thank you! Your enthusiasm is contagious
Thanks for the video! I’ve learned some new things I need to work on. #3 is a new strategy I will definitely put to use. I do really need to work on #7 too. I tend to be an imposing figure at 6′ , and I’m no petite flower either. I usually give people space to get adjusted so I don’t intimidate them. It’s not working. Wish me luck!
Thanks for the great advice and support. Interestingly enough, the advice for dating also sounds a lot like the advice you get for building a career too! The best time to find a job is when you have one and the best time to find a man is when you have a life you enjoy without a man. Know your worth and what you bring to the table, don’t undersell your self and be aware of how much you are investing and the roi on the relationship.Solid advice for boyfriends, girlfriends, family and careers.
Number one seems to be an interesting point that I don’t understand. I’m over 60 and the men I meet when they find out my independence and how much I’ve done and how I’m proactive in my life and they seem intimidated by that. I’ve actually had one guy say that he doesn’t know if you can please me because I’m pretty good at pleasing myself. And then I get the opposite where guys love my independence because now they don’t have to do anything to please me. I don’t know if this is an age thing if older men are just different. So the number one thing is my biggest concern out of all that you listed on your video. I can check all the rest on that list.
Please let me know what your thoughts are. I am very grateful and content in my life. I would love to find ‘The man’ that I can enjoy the rest of my life with. Linda
I literally love every word said! I’ve never ever realized that there is something more than physical attraction and chemistry between a woman and a man… and now! it’s just like a bomb!!! quite different approach.
I’m really lucky to find your videos on YouTube and now i’m your fan, Adam!
Many thanks for giving me a motivation to become a high value woman ~ ^^
Thank you so much for sharing all this amazing information and advices with us!!! I definitely need to work on the first 3 tips!!! I love your advice about being a high value woman 😀 You are an excellent coach i feel so motivated right now!!! 😀 Thanks!
Adam thank u so much.u r such a convincing guy.I like to see ur tapes. I shall rewards û later for ur work.I dont like to sweet talk i m a nice nature
person have high values in myself , job n people I date n friends that I want to be with.I just want to have nice friends n I m humble n also creative or
can sell ideas …for example u r from Mcdonal Douglas aviation company u want to sell commercial airplane I have natural talent to advise salesmanager how n what to do.I did that n Singapore Airlines bought 15 fleets of aircrafts.talk to u more next time.Many thanks!
Adam, Thank you for all your inspiring videos. I will use your 7 step. Now I just need to get out there an date????
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am pretty sure I need all of these, but especially 2, 4, 5, & 6.
You communicate such joy in these videos. Thanks for all of this; it does offer hope and that’s one of the most important things in finding that one special guy, belief! Looking forward to more! Very sweet, Adam!
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I loved the video, you are a great speaker and motivator. I really liked #5 on valuing myself. I am a nurse and I am always a giver and putting everyone else in front of me. If I truly want to be there for a man I need to value myself first so I can be a better person for him.
loved the video thanks so much
Great video. Common sense that is not so common. Thank you!
Amazing video!! I’ll definitely start applying these principles in my life. Thanks Adam! Can’t wait to see second video 🙂
I need to work on value..
Thank you so much, great video! I have to work on number 6. I believe I have value, working on how to show it. Also I’m braking with old way of thinking and feeling about myself imposed by father and his wife. Thank you Adam!
Thanks so much so much for this video Adam! I am learning a lot from this and will definitely apply this my single life!!!
LOVE your 7 attraction principles !!! You are so right. Absolutely true ! Thank you for reminding me.
Yeah.. great video.. your talking sense give some like confidence.. awesome 🙂
Misty D Thompson
Wow! Very helpful
The thing’s you said, I believe, it clicked. Thank you Adam! I needed to hear it from someone.
All true, just been out the loop so ,one.
Most important principle for me is be easy to approach, but hard to attain. The easy to approach is easy for me, the hard to attain not so much. Maybe because I still dont understand quite what is meant.
I smile all the time – so people always approach me & talk to me. However, when people seem interested & I am interested in them, we tend to proceed quickly & fizzle out just as quickly. However, with this guy I am currently talking to I answer his calls most of the time, but if I am doing something – i say so & get off the phone within a minute or 2. Or if he wants to meet at the gym & says he is going early & I am busy early – i tell him I have plans & won’t be there till mid afternoon or sometime later – then it is up to him to go early & not see me or go later so he can see me which is what usually happens unless he has other plans. Is this what is meant by not easily attainable – keeping my own plans?
Great video by the way & thank you!
This was a great video. After being married since 18 yrs old for 35 years dating is nothing like i remember it. I need all the help i can get…lol Thanks for all the dedication and hard work you put into helping women be the best we can be.
Thank you for these 7 simple attraction concepts. I laid seeds last Sunday, and the alpha male of the 4 guys clumped together at a table, came over and asked me to dance. We danced complimented each other, and he left a bread crumb to meet up in April 2018.
Takes time to reap what you sow.
“Never over water your begonias.”
Thank you Adam. I got “told men don’t like women who pursue their own passions lie no1) I have invest too much to men who don’t invest at all but I’m learning to transfer that back into my sexy self now hence that is the reason for you getting my attention, time, money and reference to other women. Number4 I think I’m sexy but come unstuck when the man I’m into says I’d like you to wear fishnet stocking too look sexy like” other Women ” hence no man at the moment. Numbet5 I need help on cause I have been taught by toxic women to do masculine moves of Giving instead of feminine “taking” and men take so much advantage of this by expecting me to be the” only giver ” Help Adam Number7 is difficult for me because I am quite and gentle and a good listener but don’t always know what to say and I have had very serious situation’s in life eg daughter who had terminal illnesses before she died do I don’t know how to be fun. I NEED that from myself to see me being fun so I can get that from a man/men but I 😍 seeing you do confident fun that is sexy to me! Also how do I get dates without having to give my address because I don’t want anymore let’s go back to your house and sit on the couch men or omit to tell me their married men. Thank you Adam love Wendy
Thank you so much for this video Adam, awesome stuff!!!
That was a great start Adam! Thank you I cannot wait to see the next video.
My issue is the ones I feel the connection with doesn’t feel it with me..hence they chose another partner…….and the one that I don’t feel it do…..hence I walk away…This has been my journey…And I refuse to settle for anything less.
Thank you love the video
Does all of this apply to starting to date after becoming a widowat 62. My husband died suddenly 4 years ago and I am just beginning to have the desire to spend time with someone else. I also have a 25 year old special needs daughter that I love dearly. This adds anther level to dating. any suggestions. When I met my husband, I was working as a teacher, very involved n our church singles group, and as you say had a life, Then my life became my family and church, friends, and activities with my husband. I am having to reinvent myself and find out who I am without my late husand. I don’t want to come across as needy, but I think I do because I have missed all of the things that I had both emotionally and physically with my husband.
The video was fabulous!
This video came at a perfect time. I’ve been wanting through this dating world lowering my standards and settling in things without putting myself first. Can’t wait to get the rest of your advise!
Dating again at 57. Being confident, friendly and smiling is great advise. Also believing you are beautiful, sexy, and worthy of a great guy.
27, great job, independant young woman, but, still single…
I realised that I have the 1 and 2 bad habits, I like to control, live my life without a man and now after listening to your video I want to completely change that behavious. “High value women attract high value men” I like that one!
Actually it was the Paleo diet. I had just told my friend, “I am going to look excellent going forward (because I want to!), where’s my rowing machine and the gym!” and I saw your video #1! I’ve introduced him into the Paleo lifestyle and eating, he’s incorporated and likes it as much as I do. I need to move forward on being available though and NOT putting on blinders and building a life also going forward to love who I am and attract someone who truly appreciates me for me. Thank you!!!
Good video about the 7 traits. I will definitely follow. “Not sure what he means by your body be the temple so we think we r sexy not the man” other than exercising & cleaniness. I do agree that sexiness is personality not just body.
Some of us work 3 jobs & our job is physical such as massage therapy. Eating right is great but I don’t like boring food like oatmeal or salads. We need our energy.
I do date a masculine man. He is very old fashioned/traditional which i like & can come across as controlling, possessive, jealous, self centered.
We met via a massage therapy sessions. He hates that i massage both sexes not just women. After our first date which was a blast, he asked me for “exclusive”.
He is divorced twice so he doesnt want serious relationship. We have been having fun seeing each other as often as our schedules allow. We are both 50. We have had 2 disagreements in the 11 months we’ve known each other. He has 3 teenagers he lives with & travels allot for work. He loves fishing as hobby. Sometimes men can be shy too specially after you tell them they said or did things to hurt your feelings. We took a 2 month break but I wasn’t going to wait around anymore so i took initiative to ask him via text.
“I haven’t heard from you so should I move on?” Had i moved on without him knowing & in case we had reunited, i would of felt like i was cheating on him. I wanted to see his reaction. Well, he called but I didn’t call him back for a week which then he asked to meet. We met after a month & had a physical activity. We r very much attracted to one another. I am a very passionate, sexy, curvy, smart woman. He is tall, dark, cute masculine man.
This video was awesome!! I learned a lot from this video, it really makes since!!
I think I will focus no.4 treat my body as and temple clean and healthy so I can be independent
Love this video!! I need to work on being approachable. Can’t wait for the next video. Thank you so much!
True, masculine men probably don’t want their “masculinity” to be challenged, but does that contradict the fact a guy wants an independent woman? Having the independence can challenge a mans masculinity as well. I know there’s a balance, but the guys my age are on the cusp of wanting an independent woman and wanting a somewhat submissive woman like their parents had. This is where my issue lies. I’m very independent. I know I make more than my sons dad and most of the guys I’ve dated in the past, but I don’t date based on their financial status. My title may not be a traditionally glamorous high paying position, but I’ve worked my way to making what I make and guys that are attracted to me just don’t make that much and the ones do, want something more that I seem to not have because they don’t stick around.
This is some great advice for single women, however I am currently in a relationship, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now so what stood out the most for me was point6, when you spoke about high value women attracting high value men. My boyfriend tends to “space out” when we go through a difficult patch, like now, he completely shuts down for a few days and I’m at a point where I cannot accept that kind of behaviour anymore. I plan to communicate this to him by assuring him that I will never see him as “weak” (his persistent behavior has proven otherwise) as I believe that many Men resort to disappearing when they feel weak. I guess what I’m asking is how do I approach this without imasculating him? is this even worth the conversation?
of course, I like men a lot. love your talk.
Loved the video
I enjoyed the video. But my problem at time is I like to move fast in other words keep the relationship moving. I am an adventures person and he seems to move a little slow. We spent some quality time together this week. We seem to enjoy each other company. But how do I get him to commit and to wake up and know that I am a better catch for him. In the beginning of our relationship I was not inrerest,because he was not my type. So, now I found things about him that I have falling n love with and not his looks. Please advised. Thanks sgain.
Principle 1 really resonated with me. I had a significant stroke 4 years ago and my life will never be the same. My life is pretty boring largely due to medical restrictions and I just lost a great guy possibly for that reason. I’m going to work on creating the best life I can, for me.
Adam I choose principle 2, because I tend to invest more than he does and I always feel unwanted by him
Adam thank you! You made so many great points in this video especially Valuing Ourselves as Women and not emotionally over-investing in men immediately which I’ve done. After being in a long-term marriage of 19 years, I have been conditioned to over-invest in men while dating! These
are valuable relationship strategy techniques. I can totally see where I have gone wrong in dating! I am gaining new dating and relationship perspective; changing my mindset; and learning that valuing and investing in myself which is the New Concept is key! I’m look forward to hearing more… I feel hopeful and excited to move forward in meeting the right men who truly value me and are willing to be emotionally invested in me, and not just want sex. I have begun to strategize and use your techniques!!
I loved this I learned so much.
Not having a productive life was my downfall but I’m already working on that one
Amazing video Adam looking forward to take those step
Loved the video! Love the person you see in the mirror!
Looking forward to finally implementing these principles in my life!
Thank you by millions for teaching me these principles. I will forever keep this to my heart and faithfully ritually follow this. God bless you and everything you are teaching is unique and very helpful. Your teachings really stand out from the rest. Thank you again. Any women following your advices im certain is sending you loads of love and blessing.
I just found Adam’s youtube about two weeks ago and I’m determined to stick to it. I have to constantly remind myself that I am the prize. I love these videos and I’m going to do my best to follow his principles. A few of them have already worked.
You are great 😘
Thank you 💞🙏
Really Love this video. It adds the extra confidence feeling not all has been lost.
I messed up. I moved too fast before I got ahold of your videos. So, I met him on a dating website. He contacted me first and his profile said he was looking for a relationship. That he was looking for a honest, kind, faithful and trustworthy woman. And no drama as well. When we met it was nothing like I’ve experienced before. He opened up to me. How he recently signed divorce papers. That his wife was more masculine and chased home till he gave in. He also said he felt he never loved her and only got married because she was pregnant with their first child, a son. She told her father that they were getting married just so she wouldn’t be disinherited as well. I now know that he’s either not the alpha male type or that he’s emotionally unavailable. I then followed Adams advice but to no avail. We weren’t committed but began sleeping with each other. He pulled away. I gave him time and space. He told me the dating website was good for making “friends” as long as they had boundaries. I sent hiim flirty text an he responded to them as you predicted. It was wonderful!! was on cloud nine. And now as I type this at 4am? His last text was at almost 11:30pm. He was logged in to the dating website for 2 hours. I only know this because I got a message from someone at around that same time and logged in myself. I am now currently spinning!! He has be chatting with another woman or why would he be there so long? Right?! I’m not a fool!! I don’t know what to do. I feel he led me on. Lied when he wanted someone honest and just told me sweet words he thought I wanted to hear. I guess. I did not give up my wonderful life, nor try to manipulate him. Now I’m the one who wasted time. I’m hurt and irrational. Not to mentioned stressed and feeling like second choice which I’m not. I’m no option. It still hurts. A LOT!! I know now he wasn’t worthy of me. Still I have hope for some stupid reason. I have yet to discuss this with him I just.needdd a safe annomous place to vent. Thank you Adam for letting me do so. I know what I must do but it doesn’t ease my pain. I have no regrets. I will not and can not be treated this way. Although we weren’t exclusive, and I knew it. Why did he do to me the exact same thing he wanted. Someone who’s being honest. I’d rather hear the truth than be sucked in with a pretty lie. Now what do I do? I’m pulling out. I just need to get it off my chest. Although I’m hurt by all of this. My life will go o. Maybe not right now anyway but in time. Thank you again for providing a safe space for me. Aloha!!
What about those who suffer from invisible disabilities who don’t get the chance to date least of all a number of dates at a time?
I miss old fashioned dating values of getting to know one person at a time
Society behaves like school kids not adults
What about people living in areas with low population? How is it possible to apply these principles when it appears to apply to city life or where the population is higher
Great tips…looking forward to the next videos!!
Great Advice! I’m working on the first principle ☺️
I loved your video. Mine would be #2 – Don’t invest more in a man, than he’s investing in you.
I’m so lucky to meet you and your help. Thank you.
Many, many thanks for you sharing this advice ..I feel truly empowered and it’s helping so much with my heart break.
Tnx….was great information….look9 for the next email….I’m txtn a guy n need words to txt him for him to want a relationship with me…
Thanks Adam, great advice. I probably have to work on number 7. I wouldn’t say I am too easy but if I like the guy I don’t care and that’s why I am still single. I have worked through all steps and I see I have invested more in the guy before and he disappeared. After searching for some information I decided to start dating the new guy and to be honest looked for the safer option yet he disappeared on me again (not that it bothered me much but left a bad aftertaste). Now I decided not to even speak with guys who not tick all the boxes hence still no guy. Oh perhaps I am just emotionally unavailable. I learned to enjoy my own company!
I like the idea of being approachable. I have been told, for many years now, that I have a natural resting bitch face and that is something that I am knowingly trying to change. Thank you for the reminder.
I agree with the part about making him work for it. Never tried that before but will be applying it.
wow thank you so much! im currently struggling with a heartbreak right now definitely wish i would’ve seen this video before. but now i know for the next guy that comes along thank you so much!
I really like this video but these things you keep saying it every video but at lest now we know your story am big fan of your channel I am Somalian but I live in Kuwait I am not perfect in English but I can understand you very well
Just starting over after 34 years in an abusive relationship. Your principals seem very helpful moving forward. I look forward to hearing the rest!
Very nice, thank you!
I love all the information videos etc As in my generation things were so different and it is fascinating to find out so much about men Thank you . I am English living in South Africa
Am I right about this ???
I am an up and going attractive …Hold on 80 year old . i was married for 50 years to a good looking Alfa male .He died 10 years go and to did not take long for a Norwegian to find me he is 85 now and not well. I have travelled the world with this man and we were madly in love at a distance . I visit once or twice a year and we connect on Skype .Recently I met the boy next door when I was 16 . Now 81 we have bumped into each other in our life time .Good looking .sexy and recently widowed. There are not many men of this age that are this up and going like this.Now 60 years later we connected and we have been so attracted to each other for the last two years . It is not a relationship as he has been connected with a Woman who is a platonic companion. I think she is in love with him religious and at her age 75 does not likd sex !!! Now he has found a physical attraction he is battling. His children think this is what he needs going forward and they know and like this connection for their Dad. I am very independent but have fallen in love with this man. It will never be a relationship as we both have big lives . I was a celebrity in my time and I think he battles with my popularity. which is still around me We visit each other and talk a lot about how it should be .Do you think.Is it right to leave it as it is and live with a feeling of freedom .He definitely has other female friends when the girl friend goes away . When she is around we keep in touch regularly. He has had enough and want freedom for what ever is left of our lives >Do you thinks that is the best way to look at this at our age .He has a problem with this clinging woman friend around a lot of the time, and although she and him come a go He is always complaining about this woman around him . We mix in similar social circles and our affair is a secret under the circumstances .Emotionally I am done !! but cannot bare the thought of never seeing him again. Can we ever be friends ???
I always enjoy watching your videos. The content is good…factual.. as per my experience; and I really like the way you present it. Looking forward to the next video
Loved this video. Printed out the steps and hung them on my wall. So excited for the rest of them!!!
Good timing of video. Really liked #2.5, Adam.
I absolutely love watching your videos, and I’m constantly replaying them in my mind as I meet new men whether it be online or in person. I love this video! So much helpful information! #2 is definitely the principal I need to follow better. I have a tendency to put more effort in because I am trying to keep it “alive.” At some point, I decide to taper it down into a realistic amount of effort, and shortly the interest drops off all together. I’m happily independent in my life now. Just looking to find someone who can compliment my happiness with their own. Thanks again for everything you do!
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