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  • Allison

    Reply Reply February 12, 2015

    Wow, principle #2 really resonated with me. I always invest WAYYY too much of myself into a guy before he deserves it. I’m going to work on this – very eye opening video Adam.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      I’m glad it was so useful πŸ™‚

    • Cat

      Reply Reply February 18, 2015

      Wonderful advice… #2, 3 and 7 I will work on! Can’t wait to see the other videos

      • Adam LoDolce

        Reply Reply February 18, 2015

        Lots more to come!

    • Kiri

      Reply Reply March 24, 2015

      I have the same problem to work on, Allison. But we are going to improve from now on. πŸ˜‰

    • Celine

      Reply Reply April 4, 2015

      Number 2 is also my downfall but it is linked with number 6, lack of self confidence, seeking validation from a man.
      Thanks Adam for sharing these wise principles.

  • Jessica

    Reply Reply February 12, 2015

    I’m very ssuccessful at work – and I think I radiate too much masculinity.

    • Amber

      Reply Reply February 22, 2015

      I kind of thought that point was ill-guided.
      I think as a human being you need to be sure not to play power games and try to maintain all of the power in the relationship. However, the way it was put forth in this video made it seem that women should not be at all assertive (which really confuses me because this video is all about “confidence”).

      Jessica, your success at work should not be something that men are afraid of.
      Even thinking of this in terms of the guidelines in this video, your success at work gives you a fuller and more independent life, as mentioned in points 1 and 2, which means it is something that makes you more emotionally attractive.

  • Mandy

    Reply Reply February 12, 2015

    LOVED LOVED LOVED THIS VIDEO! You might have just changed my life. Holy crud.

    Thank you thank you! You’re amazing Adam!

    Love
    Mandy

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Many, much more where all of that came from πŸ™‚

  • Joan

    Reply Reply February 12, 2015

    From now on, I’m a very high value woman. (and sexy confident too!) Thank you Adam.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      You’re so welcome Joan.

  • Ashleigh

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    Okay may have fallen a bit for you watching this video, haha but being honest I need to work on all of these! Its true you have probably changed my life with this.

    Thank you Adam!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Ashleigh, thank you so much for all of the love xoxo πŸ™‚

  • Deb

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    Fabulous video!

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Thank you!!!

      • Sasha

        Reply Reply February 15, 2015

        I have a friend who NEEDS to know ALL of this.

  • Audrey

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    number 2…. I invested waaaaay too much in a relationship that ended up very bad. I was warned. I understand now. All of these points are so good and so true. I am a highly valued and a sexy confident woman. Watch out world! It’s my time now! πŸ™‚
    Thanks Adam!

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      YES! Video 3 will provide more clarity on those “Warning signs”. You’re very welcome!!

  • suze

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    Adam, YOU ROCK!!! Thank you for clarification on what I should CONTINUE to focus on. I was doing that when HE walked into my life but lost my way a little. Thanks for getting me back on track! MUAH!!!

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      You’re so very welcome suze.

  • Debbie

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    Wow. Loved This video. I think i need to work on number 7. I work in a bar so men will talk to me there, only because they want a drink. I would love it if men would talk to me in a normal setting. I try to smile alot when I’m out and about, so I look approachable. I swear I must have an invisible f… Off on my forehead.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      We’ll work on this in Video 2…promise πŸ™‚

  • Lera

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    The first principle is really what I was searching for.
    I knew that I needed an incredible life, I think I have it. But when it was associated with men I didn’t show it, because I thought that independence is something bad (like men are attracted to fragile women and it’s important to show them that I need their help and so I make it this way that I didn’t show them neither incredible life nor independence).

    Everything falls into place, thaank you!

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Hi Lera, it’s true that men desire a feminine woman, but femininity does NOT equal fragile. You can be feminine AND dependent at the same time. I look forward to showing you how.

      • Amber

        Reply Reply February 22, 2015

        Adam, you mean “independent” and not “dependent,” right?

        • ZENOLA WHILDER

          Reply Reply February 24, 2015

          GREETINGS ADAM. I GOT YOUR BOOK AND HAVE NOT READ IT YET, BUT AFTER SEEING THIS VIDEOS LUV, I HAVE ALOT TO LEARN WITH THESE 7 PRINCIPLES MY FRIEND. ALL OF OF MY ENTANGLEMENTS WERE NEVER REALLY RELATIONSHIP. JUST GOT DUMPED AND HE (THE EX) WATTS TO BE BACK IN MY LIFE (WOW). I REALLY DO LOVE THIS PERSON, BUT I NEED TO FOCUS MORE ON MYSELF BECAUSE TRUTH BE TOLD I HID ALOT MY TALENTS AND HAVE BEEN EMOTIONALLY DISHONEST TO US BOTH. IRREGARDLESS I AM GLAD YOU SENT ME THIS VIDEO AND THE 7 PRINCIPLES. I TEND TO THINK MORE LIKE A GUY WITH TOO, MUCH MASCULINE ENERGY AND I HAVE DOWNPLAYED MY FEMININITY. (NEVER BEE THE GIRLS TYPE- THOMSON. I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO RADIO THAT ENERGY MORE POSITIVELY. I TOO ALMOST GIVE UP ON DATING, BUT FOR NOW I’M GOING TO WORK ON MYSELF AND LEARN MUCH ABOUT LIFE BEEN A WALL FLOWER TOO LONG AND STAYED CELIBATE FOR 10 YEARS AND ALL THIS WAS DUE TO BAD ENTANGLEMENTS THAT WERE NEVER REALLY RELATIONSHIPS TO BEGIN WITH. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE ON DEALING WITH EXES TOO? THANK YOU. ZEE*

  • Diane

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    After seeing this I’ve slowed down with him and now tha table is turning
    He pays more attention to me calls me more asking all kind of questionsabouy me dating other men, now it seems to be working.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Move slower than him, and he’ll always want to speed it up πŸ™‚ Great work Diane.

    • Gi

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      Good job, Diane! πŸ˜‰

    • Julie

      Reply Reply May 15, 2015

      I’ve been doing the slow down program and he is not trying harder. πŸ™

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    Adam enjoyed your presentation last night at UNL thank you so much. I already started using your tips and they are working. I know that I need to really focus on changing numbers 2 and 2.5 I always invest a lot more in a guy than I do my own self. I put his happiness ahead if my own, which is why I usually end up getting burned in the end. I know I will be working on all of the steps, but focusing more on myself.

  • Lucinda

    Reply Reply February 13, 2015

    I am a very high value woman and sexy in every way, diet, go to the gym, good looking, but…no men approach me

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      We’ll work on this in video #2.

      • Kara

        Reply Reply March 4, 2015

        I agree with what Lucinda said!! I have a great job, workout and eat healthy, and do other activities outside of this. I am very happy with my life. But I don’t really have men approaching me. However, it might be due to the fact that I don’t like going to clubs and bars to meet men. Hopefully you expand on this and all these points in your next video!

  • Alexa

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    The biggest thing that I have taken from this video is that I need to truly believe that I am a high valued woman. I’m completely into sports and I know a lot about them. Most guys find that intimidating and I see that they go after more feminine girls that play dumb I guess when it comes to sports. I thought I will only be a “friend” girl. But I find that it wasn’t the knowledge about sports but the way I virwed myself that made them turn away. More confidence in myself and who I am has attracted more guys that I ever thought. Thanks Adam!!

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      AMEN!

  • Kerry

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    The “slowing down and he speeds up” is so spot on and AWESOME! It’s seems so obvious but we don’t do it! Thank you and great stuff as always, Adam.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      Thank you Kerry πŸ™‚

  • Cora

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Loved this. It’s encouraging and down-to-earth. My challenge is the radiating femininity part. I’ve been independent all my life, aggressive at work, and have a very masculine mindset (chalk it up with growing up with 2 older brothers). The bonus side to this is that, I’m not needy. On the downside, because of my masculine energy and my neglect of my feminine side, I don’t really know if I’m missing out on the best part of life.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      This is something we cover much more in future videos.

  • Petronella

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    I Love the video!
    And happy valentines day to everyone… even if you’re single. πŸ™‚

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      Happy Vday to you too πŸ™‚

  • Alana Salazar1981

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Truly the best thanks adam

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      You are so very welcome

  • Heli

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Principle number 6 is challenge for me, I mean that I have to set and tell my boundaries. Otherwise I’m not in control and I’don’t now where I end up.. πŸ˜€
    And second challenge for me is to radiate even more natural feminine power and I have already done it and it feeeels totally great to be the woman.

    Thank you Adam for these advices!!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      You are so very welcome!

  • jona

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    1st and foremost a very happy valentine’s day to you Adam.
    Thank you for a very good video that inspires me a lot.
    This is so true and helpful

  • Mo1982

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    At last a guy who speaks intelligently and clearly about love and attraction and the male mind. We , women, have wasted years of headache ,heartbreak , time, money, because of men. And the other stupid pick up artists advice. Thank you ADAM for rescueing us.

  • Enony

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Got back with an ex who disappeared on me a few months ago. He asked me out on two dates and everything went well. He got upset when i offered to Pay for the second date. He proposed the 3rd date and i screwed up by getting intimate with him. He made a 4th appointment but cancelled last minute and has Since then not reached out to me. Its been a week now. I think i have Never let my feminine side out. Should i call meet him and Tell him just how i feel or let him go. Please don’t remind me of the horse blinders and number 6. do you think we can have a third chance so i can practice these wonderful tips? Thanks

  • Janis Allen

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Idea #1 resonated with me. I have a productive and social life, but I not sure what types of activities a guy would interpret as incredible. I have a wish list that I’m looking forward to including more into myrecreational life. Is that what you mean or being superwoman?

  • Monique Vee

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Oh true , point three is absolutely for me the case. You are soo funny for sharing the secrets with us. Thank you Adam. You deserve a big kiss.

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      Thank you so much Monique πŸ™‚

  • Erin

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and I still watch these videos. Adam’s advice is not just good for initiating relationships, but also maintaining them. No matter what happens in a relationship or how long it’s been going on, you still need to make sure that you are improving yourself so you can lift him up as well. That’s something I have always struggled with in relationships – I tend to lose myself and give up on my goals for the sake of my partner. After watching several of Adam’s videos, I’m now more confident and able to move myself forward and my boyfriend is super supportive because he feels very supported by me and he knows that if he isn’t we’re done. Thanks for all your help, Adam!

  • Manisha

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Great video!!
    Principles 2 and 3 are still not clear for me: how much is “too much” to invest; and how to slow down if you reaaaaally like the guy (I mean we have only one life! πŸ™‚ ), it seems unreal! )))
    There is a lot to think about…
    Thank you for that )

  • Jennifer

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Thanks Adam! #2 really resonated with me.

  • emily

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Its hard to go out and have an amazing life when your’e a young single mom

    • ngeci

      Reply Reply February 14, 2015

      You already have a perfect life, as a single mom you have someone you can love and take care of, and even if they don’t show it they love you back. You have something great and perfect in you’re life. Focus and appreciate it and I’m sure someone will appreciate you for it.

  • Debra

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Adam-I was able to access it. Thank you! Great job on the video!!! Great energy….love it!!!
    All the principals are great…#7 is what I’ll work on first.

  • Georgiana Philip

    Reply Reply February 14, 2015

    Thank for the great job you are doing I appreciate very much,

  • Linda

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    Very interesting approach and very well presented. I’m new to the dating scene. As a mother of three children still in school, the idea of dating is challenging. What I witness in friends and their attempts at dating make it a bit scary, however, Adam you brought it back to basics. I definitely invest too much too quick. And need to slow down. All sounds easy but really when someone hasn’t been valued for an extremely long time it’s difficult not to jump when you are. Thank you for sharing your views and work.

  • Fadzillah

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    I always invest more into men than they would. I make plans and initiative instead of the other person. Also, I need to be less masculine.

    Thank you so much for the principles Adam.

  • Stefanie

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    Thanks Adam!
    You are amazing.
    I have 1, 5 and 6 pretty well covered but you have totally opened my eyes and heart today. I have started today to tackle the rest!
    Thanks a million your are a genius!

  • Tina

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    Principle #7, or rather the misconception of it (being hard to get) totally messed up my dating life in college, I finally now understand that your version of it, being easy to approach but hard to attain, is THE way to attract and keep men.
    The second half of this, being hard to attain, messed up my dating life in my 40’s, after my divorce. I’m just now learning the truth of it.

  • Kelly

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    After coming out of a 22 yr marriage and not dating for 5 years, I met a great guy and did everyone of these things, except the opposite!! I could have been the poster child for “what NOT to do!” And of course, ran him off! Thank You for arming me with what TO DO the next time I meet a great guy! Love your stuff, Adam….much appreciation!!!

  • Sylvia

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    Yup. Number two is a big issue! Thanks for making me realize it.

  • kim

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    #2 was a big one for me but what about when your texting how do I plan for that and do I ask him out?

  • Taylor

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    So principle 2 is totally me. I always invest way too much too soon! I needed to hear this! Thanks Adam!

  • Eva

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    It is an eye opener! Thank you so much.

  • Patricia

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    I really enjoyed your calming personality, the insight, and humor in the video. I practice all the principles, but my favorite is remembering that I am valuable.

  • Gi

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Thank you for a great video! After watching it, I have an impression that you advice us not to approach men first at all. Do you think it’s generally wrong to ask a man for a date? Because it’s kind of a game, if you ask, man will expect your further initiatives.. So how to show a man that you are still hard to attain once you ask him out? Thanks.

  • Susan

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Wow. That’s eye-opening. But how to learn radiate femininity? Sometimes I think, I’ve got a “male” brain …

  • Mariam

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    I’ve already thought about those 7 principles. Was nice too here from you.

    Thank you
    Mariam

  • Donna

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    I’ve been following you for a while now…love all the videos. I definitely feel like I’ve changed my perception of myself since, and I’m happy…haven’t met him yet, or maybe I have but just haven’t noticed yet, but I’m ok with that, I’m enjoying my single life in the meantime… Thank you Adam

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      I’m so happy to hear that my videos have been useful for you. There are many more to come!

  • Christy

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Amazing video!!! people should learn these principles before they even get to earth,they would save time and would have less heartache…lol I start to apply them already.Thank you Adam!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      If only this stuff were taught in Middle School!

  • anja

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Its helpful and complicated. I ll try to invest less of my time…. and remember all these principles for ever!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      YES! I’m so happy to hear πŸ™‚

  • Shells

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Great video Adam! Cant wait to see the rest! But let me ask u this….I’m def a high value woman who is a good communicator and boundary setter….I have applied most of your principles and stuck by them it does weed out men I dont want to be with BUT how come some of these men give me a hard time about my boundaries? I dont get it….My good friends love this about me….I know these are weak men who dont want to work to attain a good woman but some of these men have been jerks to me and try to make me feel about when in fact it is them with the lazy and crappy behavior…..your thoughts?

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 16, 2015

      Why waste any emotional energy on these guys. If they don’t follow your boundaries move on!

  • Bailey

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Wow! Right from the start #1 hit me hard. I’m at a big transitioning point in my life, trying to find a job out of college and I just recently got broken up with. It makes a lot more sense to me now that he was so attracted to me before when I had amazing things going on in my life, and now I’ve lost that and have been kind of wandering without any sort of passion and have been unhappy with what I’m doing. How can I expect somebody to want to share their life with me when I’m not even happy with the life I’m leading. Definitely a great time to start working on building a great life and finding a new passion!

  • April

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Hi Adam, I’ve been following your advice for awhile now as I am currently dating. Thanks so much for the insights, I can’t wait to see the rest of the video’s. Your help has been a valuable learning experience and putting it into practice is exciting. My previous ‘dating’ behaviour was so wrong and now I know why!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      April, I’m so happy this has been useful for you!

  • shelly

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Exactly Adam! Thx so much!

  • Tammy

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    These 7 principles do work. I have experienced it my self and didn’t even realize until I watched the video. A couple of years ago I got out of a really bad relationship and had sworn off men until my new job I started 18 months ago. I was surrounded by nothing but men because I got a job working at a distribution center as a fork lift driver. When I first started I was reserved, shy, angry, depressed, dressed in sweats and tee shirts, didn’t care much about myself and tried every day to prove I was their equal. One of the supervisors befriended me and one day about 8 months ago sat me down and had a talk said that some of the guys were complaining about my attitude. This was when I realized my past relation ship was still running my life and I decided to make a change. I started by getting back on my meds for my bi polar disorder, started eating better, started dressing a little nicer. With my meds I became more open and friendlier. In other words I basically did everything discussed in the video. Since I have made the changes I have been hit on by 8 guys I work with and four of them were the one complaining and there are three others who show interest but haven’t said anything yet. I have started dating one of them and I want to keep from making the mistakes I have made before. Now having seen the video it feel good to know I was heading in the right direction and I will continue to follow these principle and I will be working on the needy thing that was my biggest mistake in my last relationship.

  • angelica

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    My biggest challenge would be number 7 – be easy to approach and hard to attain. I am very easy to approach if I am not interested in a guy. However, I seem to clam up and be all defensive when I like the guy in front of me.. i know I need to work on that.. It’s like my defense mechanism.. I play it off like I don’t like him but deep inside im gushing in excitement that he’s talking to me lol also I need to work on #5- need to radiate more of my femininity. I am aggressive and competitive.

    Thanks Adam!!! πŸ™‚ also I noticed that these topics are also in your books, no?

  • Stina

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Temple!!!! Yes, if you build it they will come (and worship) πŸ˜‰

  • Carol

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Okay Adam
    No more douche-dating for carol!! Hashtag NΓΊmero Dos!!!!

  • Judy

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Hi Adam, Thank you again for all your time and passion in putting these videos together.. I am getting there slowly with the confidence and high value behaviour…..so the high value principle and investing too much when its not what he is doing is what I need to focus on more.

    ps I love family guy and I think Seth McFarlane is one of the sexiest funniest guys ever ! I just thought I would throw that out there)
    pps. Yes I loved the western movie

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Haha YES! Everyone seems to think I look like Seth Mcfarlane?

      • Judy

        Reply Reply February 18, 2015

        Well, I was ‘t going to say it …but yes you do!

      • Kimberly

        Reply Reply February 21, 2015

        That was the first thing I thought as well! lol Glad to see I’m not alone with thinking that! lol

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Love the style of presentation, really made listening easier. The first one really caught my attention and drew me in to then the next and the next… I sure have a plenty to learn from you. I am really looking forward to the rest of the videos. Please keep them rolling! Thank you.

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      They’re going to keep on coming!!

  • Shirin Ata

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I loved the video! Thank you Adam LoDolce for sharing this with us! I am in a relationship now for 5 months, since i have started to watch your advices on Youtube!…so every single movement was very conscious and kind of wise to picking up the right guy…eventually i am with an incredible man right now and enjoying of my life everyday, But i still need your advices…I am hoping to get more advices from you about how to keeping a relationship (if that’s a right one), in the future. I think this video is really helpful for every type of women whether they are in the relationship or not. I really appreciate the way you make every single steps so simple to get there, where every woman wish to be!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      This is a great success story! Thank you for sharing!!!!

  • Aliandra

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    INCREDIBLE video! Wow – you are absolutely amazing Adam

  • Melissa

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    this is perfect. Thanks

  • Sasha

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I feel both 5 and 7 are really good ones to work on because I feel like I do have a masculine perspective on a lot of things and I should show my feminine side more. Also, I feel like I need to work on being easy approach and harder to attain. I feel like I am the opposite its not that easy for guys to come up to me because I’m kinda shy but when I start to like them. I feel like I go too fast at times.

  • cathy

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    I am very glad you came to show these principles. It was very interesting. I’ve learned a lot, especially principle # 2 and 4. I have to work on it.
    You’re so great. Thank you so much Adam.

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 18, 2015

      You are so very welcome Cathy!

  • Cez

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    Loved the video. I can relate so much from it. Thanks.

  • gracie-ann

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    I would have to say that all of them are my problem. Being raised pretty much by no one other than my great grandma and learning how to be nothing more than a house wife and a mother doesn’t help me out now. I know that I have an outstanding personality, I know I’m funny and yes I have my issue’s with thinking I should be more Skinner or be more independent. I never graduated high school, never even got a GED. I take care of my disabled family members and go out when I can. I always thought I had a type of man I wanted. Someone with Tattoos and piercings. I still do however I’ve come to learn that a man with a great sense of humor is worth while. Trust me when I say I have ruined every relationship I have ever had due to
    …. dad issues and me complaining about them, not having a job, no car, no education and worst of all my drinking. I have learned how to control my drinking but I stopped talking about my daddy or family issues, and I even got a job. I have no idea why I keep loosing men. I can tell you one thing though, I am not one to be submissive, I know what I want and how I like things done. I am quite Dominating….maybe that could be the reason?

  • Jacqueline

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    Awesome and truthful advice. Loved it!

  • Cara

    Reply Reply February 19, 2015

    Simply, Thank you for these videos and the advice. Wish I had this insight when I was in my twenties.

  • Bridget

    Reply Reply February 19, 2015

    Wow # 1 has to be my weakest point. Not saying that my life isnt wonderful, but I always feel like I am not where I would like to be in my life. It definitely causes some insecurities and keeps me from allowing myself to open up to anyone. I get this feeling like I have a list of things to do before I would be able to be acceptable to a man. I know its really not the truth or even the case because I do have a lot to offer but definitely something I struggle with. I love these videos..thanx

  • Lori

    Reply Reply February 20, 2015

    Love the tips you provided. Can’t wait to try them out.

  • Carma Spence

    Reply Reply February 20, 2015

    Given my history, I probably need to work on principle two. I got principle 1 down. πŸ™‚

  • Sophia

    Reply Reply February 20, 2015

    So I love feminine men, what does that entail on my part? Theoretically speaking, would I have to be less feminine? I’m a pretty feminine girl. Love these principles though! I think right now I would want to work on #1. There are so many hobbies I’d like to partake in but several things have been pulling me back. My goal is to get myself to the point where I can get involved in those activities and just be awesome me!

  • K.T.

    Reply Reply February 20, 2015

    I can’t say that any of this was new to me – but I have never put it all together so succinctly before when thinking of my own life. I tend to choose men who are addicts of one kind or another – a combo of needing me around and being completely unavailable to me. Although I know this is bad for me, it is also scary to think about dating someone that doesn’t need me around. Perhaps I don’t think I am worthy of having someone around that likes me for who I am on my own? What do you say to women who are caught up in the need to be needed cycle with men who have addictive personalities? Even when choosing different strategies, venues, etc, I end up in these relationships without realizing it!

  • Lupe

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Wow #7 is my best , being friendly is the best way to get any man to notice you and start a conversation, but the best part is having control of where you want to take the next step is the most awesome feeling !!! Thank your great!! πŸ™‚

  • Julia

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    I like this video. It’s very positive and empowering! What I both like and need to work on most is number 1.

  • Maya

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Oh, boy, all of this principles are so awesome and absolutely correct! I guess for me the biggest issue is that I am not 100% complete within my life. I want more for myself and bigger achievements… without that I kinda can’t allowed somebody to love me. But I’m working on that:) THANK YOU, Adam!

  • Tammy

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    My two biggest issues are not being 100% as well as not being feminine enough; there is so much more that I want out of this world! As for being feminine, I am just afraid of being weak or perceived as needy… so I am always trying to be stronger. I am looking forward to the next few videos!

  • Kimberly

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    #1 and #2 are definitely the two principles I need to work on the most. This was very helpful though! I know in my best relationship I had all 7 of these points covered and it was a great relationship until things started to change and I started investing more in him than he was willing to invest in me and I think this had a lot to do with me not investing the time in myself anymore. I never really thought of it like that before so thank you for opening my eyes on that!

    Also Phish Food ice cream was always my favorite before I started my paleo diet 3 and a half months ago! So I’m definitely relating a lot to this video! Thank you for the help Adam!

  • Kelli

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Thank you for posting this! There are several principles that I definitely need to work on but I was also encouraged because there were other principles that I am already confident in. Point number 2 was a real eye opener for me especially recently as there was a guy I was investing in way more than I should have and was hurt when I didn’t get the same response (and this was even just on a friendship/working relationship). I also know I need to work on my own self image. I have heard other people mention similar thing but it was helpful hearing it from you. I don’t know why but it is like it finally clicked in my head. I am excited to see your next three videos.

  • Kim

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    I really like Principle #1! Adam, you put it so simple. Now I’m realizing that investing in making myself the best I can be radiates to those around me. It’s a win-win situation! Not only will you feel better about yourself if you keep your life full and exciting, but your confidence and contentment will attract others… and it feels great to be able to share your excess with those who deserve it! πŸ˜‰

  • Alexa

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    You are awesome.I’m resonating with principle #3. Jumping in because I want love, but it never seems to work out. Thank you, for making these videos free.

  • Tasha

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    I believe that I have certain principles down. However, principle #3, occurred. What do you do now? Can you still attract the emotional side of a man, if I moved ” too fast”?

  • reggina

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    … speechless..

  • Katrina

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    Wow. Thank you so much for this video. This is really an eye opener for me.

  • jaimie

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    #2 and #5 definitely need to work on that. I love this video though very insightful.

  • Danielle

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    Thank you for the advice. My boyfriend said things were going too fast and wanted to slow things down and I walked away. I’m really regretting the choice I made. We are still talking and are planning to see each other again and I just don’t want to make that mistake again because I really found some one worth keeping.

  • Nana

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    Adam u r all right mainly about #2 ,5 , 7 ! I really should work on it! The horse binders I am afraid u get it again!! But how to see other guys and get attracted to when you have THAT ONLY guy in your mind!!! I can’t even stop comparing those guys to him! It makes me feel hopeless.

  • Linda

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    I’m in my 50’s, Adam, I hope this works for us more seasoned ladies too! (Maybe one time you could speak to the challenges that we have.)
    #2, #3 and #7 are all somewhat related. It’s finding a beautiful balance.
    I feel like can follow this video. It makes sense and I simply wonder what effect it may have on an already negatively effected relationship. I invested too much too soon and gave more than I got. I’ve slowed it down and am getting mixed signals.

  • Claire Cooper

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    I have a question Adam. To some degree men (like you) need women. And women need men (like you). I am wondering, How do you come across to a man without looking or being needy?

  • Emily

    Reply Reply February 22, 2015

    So great I loved it! Can’t wait to hear more!

  • Catherine

    Reply Reply February 23, 2015

    WOW! Thanks for this awesome insight…..for the longest time I have been chancing and ‘hope dating’ and it hasn’t gone all too well. Now I know… Can hardly wait for your subsequent videos!

  • Maria

    Reply Reply February 23, 2015

    I’m excited about this! I think my biggest challenge will be #5, learning to radiate my femininity. But, I’m up for the challenge and look forward to my future of dating!

  • Katie

    Reply Reply February 23, 2015

    Love this easy to fallow! I know I need to work on 1, 2, 3. an 5 Looking forward to seeing your next videos

  • mimi

    Reply Reply February 24, 2015

    hello Adam πŸ™‚

    I am so happy I ran into your videos online which led me here. Watched many and already been putting your theory in practice πŸ˜€
    The energy radiating from you is ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!! you motivate me and inspire in every aspect!! thank you soooo much! πŸ™‚
    lots of love and smiles :)))

  • Whitley

    Reply Reply February 24, 2015

    THANK U ADAM FOR ALLOWING ME TO EXPLORE THE 7 Tips to emotionally attracting men!!! I loved the video and I can’t wait for the other 3!!!

  • ioana

    Reply Reply February 25, 2015

    Wonderful advices, thank you so much Adam! Looking forward to seeing the other 3 videos.
    I have to work a lot on principle no. 2
    I always invested more in a man than he invested in me.

  • Diana

    Reply Reply February 25, 2015

    #7 Be easy to approach, hard to attain…I guess if I really like him I am also easy to attain, because I am afraid I will loose him.

  • Andrea

    Reply Reply February 26, 2015

    I really enjoyed the video, a LOT of the points hit home for me!

  • Claudia

    Reply Reply February 28, 2015

    this video is very helpfull! I have some things to work on, no 2. Thank you Adam πŸ™‚

  • Jeanette

    Reply Reply March 2, 2015

    Thanks Adam. This is a helpful video and very enjoyable!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply March 2, 2015

      You’re very welcome πŸ™‚

  • Linnea

    Reply Reply March 2, 2015

    I learned something new. And thanks for letting me watch your videos, they are AWESOME!

  • udy

    Reply Reply March 2, 2015

    Thank you thank you and thank you…lesson 1 and 2 noted

  • Kristi

    Reply Reply March 3, 2015

    Hi, Adam
    you got me on principle 1 πŸ™‚ mostly because sometimes it’s just not the right time in your life to date. Sometimes you just need to step back, work on yourself, and me, I always want to be in a relationship. I love men in general but the ones that catch my eye are always the ones that inspire me, make me move. And just like you said, turning a man into your life muse is not the best way of going about your love life. Guess I need to beat the over romantic out of me.
    Thanks for the video. You have great energy πŸ™‚

  • aya

    Reply Reply March 8, 2015

    hi adam ^_^

    i think there is something wrong with my browser, i can play the vid, but no sound comes out =.=a but it works well on youtube.. still not sure what’s wrong with it..

    anyway, thanx for the vid πŸ™‚

    warm regards,
    -aya-

  • Barbara

    Reply Reply March 9, 2015

    THANK YOU ADAM !! Loved the video. Can’t wait for the next ! I am older….very much out of practice of dating….almost 40 years!! 1-7…LOL I think I could tweek all of them a bit. #3 for me, I was married for so long,33 yrs, I don’t know how to move slow! I want to just jump right back into life like I am still married. Yes, I do invest more and to much.

    Thank you again, I can’t wait to see what you teach next.

    Barbara

  • Nicoleta

    Reply Reply March 9, 2015

    Hello Adam,

    In a way or another we all know the majority of the principles but we don’t really think they are that important. I think unconsciously we choose to ignore them. Thank you for pointing them out. I can’t wait for the other videos.

    Have a nice week!

  • Cierra Savage

    Reply Reply March 10, 2015

    While watching this video, I felt you personally speaking to me when you were talking about principle #4. Ever since I can remember, I have always had some type of insercurity about myself. But when you were explaining that principle, saying that there is someone out there who could be attracted to be, I instantly started to smile and felt a little boost of confidence. Just wanted to thank you for that!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply March 11, 2015

      You are so very welcome πŸ™‚

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply March 11, 2015

    After graduating I found myself staying indoors so much! I am on the road to getting a new social life, so tips on that are greatly appreciated.

    And #2, #3 and #5 are good things to pay attention to for me. Especially 3, since I sort of used to let a relationship happen at whatever pace the guy was going and it would turn out that pace was not something I enjoyed. However I still struggle with how to make it clear to him in a simple but nice way.

    Thank you for a great and helpful video!

  • kassi

    Reply Reply March 14, 2015

    I took notes the whole time while watching for more reassurance of how to work on utilizing these 7 principles. I feel like I have given so much positive advice to a lot of my friends about dating but have never spent the time needed to find it for myself. The high value principle is one that really sticks with me whenever I talk to or start to develop feelings for a man. Which ultimately leads me to investing more in them hoping they will be everything I want when really that investing should be in me! Thanks for sharing Adam!!

  • Heather

    Reply Reply March 14, 2015

    All great advice. Currently I really need to work on #2 and #3. I got so excited with the attention that I was getting from him that I sort of jumped ahead and started pursuing. I was thinking I was encouraging him, but instead I think I scared him off. I’m going to be more mysterious and not put everything out there for him.

  • sue

    Reply Reply March 15, 2015

    Thanks so much, it was just like you talking
    to me.

    I feel so empowered!!

    Sue

  • Kendall

    Reply Reply March 16, 2015

    This video was awesome! As a college student, I have felt clueless when it comes to dating because it seems like everyone is just out to drink and hookup. Now I know that there ARE some decent guys out there, and how to attract them. Tip #6, “High value women attract high value men” is what I need to work on the most. I have struggled with body image and anorexia for seven years, making me feel ugly and worthless and a five year abusive relationship. Even though I know that it is all in my head, it has been hard to find motivation to truly face my problem and get better because my mind is always telling me, “just lose five more pounds then guys will think you’re attractive.” Now I know that this is not true, that it is confidence and self value that attracts men. I have a new drive to get better once and for all and live the life I truly deserve. Thank you so much, this has truly been a lifesaving video for me.

  • Brenda

    Reply Reply March 16, 2015

    I need to work on #1. I’m starting over after a 30 year marriage and need to reinvent my life and make it incredible. Kinda hard to do in a small town!

  • Lindsay

    Reply Reply March 17, 2015

    Great video, I will be working on #1!

  • Lydia

    Reply Reply March 17, 2015

    The have to work on is point 2.5 Don’t invest more in your man than yourself. I’ve had a really hard time with this in the past and I found myself worrying about everything and it just made are realtionship tense and I would get angry that he wouldn’t put in as much as I do but that relationship is over and now my current one I am trying really hard to repeat that mistake. This video is super helpful and I can’t wait to see the rest of the video. Thanks for sharing!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply March 17, 2015

      It’s so easy to lose site of yourself when you’re in love with someone. But it’s so critical to continue investing in YOU – the person. Thanks for sharing – I know you’ll love the other videos!

  • Rita

    Reply Reply March 17, 2015

    I need to work on all of these. Thanks for sharing!!

  • Tamar

    Reply Reply March 18, 2015

    I never imagined being on the dating scene at this point in my life (53), but after taking all the the time I needed to get emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy after the end of my marriage, I’ve started dating again. Some of the points you made in this video are things I knew intuitively (e.g. #1, #4, #6), but you helped me to think about them in a more focused way- thank you!

    #2 really resonated with me. I think as women, we’re instinctual “nurturers,” which, while it can be a lovely thing, can cause us to put too much emphasis on the needs of others rather than being clear about what we want and need.

  • piku

    Reply Reply March 19, 2015

    Hi Adam..

  • Dina

    Reply Reply March 20, 2015

    Thank you for taking the time to continually invest in yourself! I appreciate the light radiating out of you in how you communicate and enjoy the passion and enthusiasm you inspire!

    #1 Is my hardest challenge and yet I’ve been working on it daily! There has been lots of serious loss and change in my life, which I am adapting with and working toward defining my own success story. Thriving instead of surviving…

    #2.5 (sigh) Thank you for reminding me!

    #4 I wrote a poem about My Body as My Temple. Thank you for being my mirror and reflecting myself right back at me! πŸ™‚

    #5 Seriously challenging… define femininity!

    #6 of course! (slow evil grin)

    #7 hmmm, I need more information… I’m highly approachable. Not sure I have a balance for hard to attain…

  • Kate

    Reply Reply March 22, 2015

    Wow, great video. I definitely have a lot to work on, but it’s great to know what those areas are. I know the hardest thing for me is getting out of my own way and stepping out of my comfort zone to expand it. I know this will take time, but in the end this isn’t even about meeting guys, that’s gonna be a very pleasant side affect to improve me, for myself.

  • Teena

    Reply Reply March 22, 2015

    Wow! Thank you so much Adam..this was sooo awesome!..very helpful.
    keep it up. your such a genius!
    :-* πŸ™‚

  • Tracy

    Reply Reply March 22, 2015

    Adam: I loved 6/7 of this video, and enjoyed watching your contagious enthusiasm for this topic. I’m looking forward to the next installment.

    I need help understanding principle #5, however. I watched that section of the video 3 times and still don’t understand. To me, a “dominant masculine male,” is an arrogant (and often abusive) jerk who always has to call the shots, and wants a servant, not a partner. Sadly, this is 99% of the straight guys I’ve met, who want to date women just to hurt them and feel better about themselves. To “radiate that feminine presence” means to me that I should be submissive and obedient. No, thanks – I want a man who respects me, doesn’t belittle me, is willing to compromise, and will admit when he’s wrong. I don’t want to let him believe he’s in charge; I want him to understand and accept that we are equals. I have been told that such a male does not exist, but I can’t help but notice that males are drawn to women who scold and browbeat them. So, please explain #5 to me. What does “femininity” mean?

    I can’t wait to learn more. Thanks for this video!

  • tina

    Reply Reply March 23, 2015

    Loved the advice, it was like a lite bulb going off in my head especially 5, what I took from it was your feminity should compliment a man’s masculinity. I know all my relationships have been very dysfunctional where the men want me to be strong and they feel threatened by it, so they start to resent me but when I step back they resent that too. I always said I want to be the woman in my next relationship, and that’s what I’m working toward, also not have anyone stifle me so I need to be very sure of who I am to attract the right sort of man, and I am turning myself into a high-value woman I’m not gonna sell myself short ever again

    So thanks Adam

  • Lisa

    Reply Reply March 23, 2015

    I definitely invest to much in guys and not enough in myself. But my confidence is low due to my last lover. You know for months i thought I was leaving him over at his brothers family. . Turns out it was partially true .. was his brother family but if was also screwing his sister in laws sister .. and here was Me driving him over and collecting him . Lending him money cause he was outta work doing everything I could to make his life a little better not pushing things .. God looking back he really took me for a ride. Long and short i believed in him trusted him was in awe of him . When he shoulda been in awe of me.
    I am attractive. Hard working. Honest. Good hearted and very decent . I have so much going for me in reality but I had the blinkers on. I stopped believing in myself and just settled .. this is certainly an eye opener and I using just a little at a time . I went out Sat . And said tonight if nothing else I am going to approach at least 2 men and just say hi and try starting a platonic conversation. Ok now I was sweating buckets . But I stuck to the principles and you know what I had a great night . Just chatting and talking away to several different men . Without it having to mean much and I felt real good about myself and happy in myself that just maybe I can do this . So many thanks

  • Marta

    Reply Reply March 23, 2015

    I think I need to work on all of these!
    But a I have a question. I met a guy about two months ago. He texts me nearly everyday but he has problems with asking me out without approaching him. So according to #3 I should stop trying to approach him to ask me out and just wait and see what he’s gonna do?

  • Caroline

    Reply Reply March 24, 2015

    Hey Adam,

    These videos are certainly what I need. I’m awash with bad guys and the quality guys I like just seem to disappear to the other side of the country. I definitely need to work on not investing too much into a guy who hasn’t earned it.

    Here’s what I’m struggling with right now: I just recently had a light bulb go off that I had a real connection/spark with a guy about 7 month ago but we wound up not reconnecting for a variety of reasons, not the least of which were that he was traveling all the time for work and I was focused on finding my own life and friends (having recently moved all the way across the country).

    After a super horrible date a couple of weekends ago (with a completely different guy), I reached out to him and offered to buy him a drink (long story short, I promised him I’d buy him a drink for his birthday and we hadn’t been able to make it happen before). As it turned out, he’d just picked up and moved all the way across the country for work the weekend before. But then we picked up right where we’d left off — super flirty texting, etc., when it happens. The problem as I see it (and I’m sure you’ll agree) is that most of the interaction we have is started by me. I know he wants to take things slowly, but the pace he’s setting is killing me and I think I may have too much invested. I haven’t stopped casually dating other guys and he knows it (I make sure he knows it). I’m being active in my social life and making sure it’s visible. I’m trying to figure out how to hook him emotionally and let him chase me at the same time all from 2,600 miles away…and I’m understandably struggling.

    Thanks in advance for the help. What’s your advice?

  • Susan Grobmyer

    Reply Reply March 24, 2015

    I’ve watched two of your videos now and can’t quite explain this, but several attractive guys have given me attention in random places like department stores and the convenience store!! Cannot Wait to learn more, Adam!!

  • Judith

    Reply Reply March 25, 2015

    I loved the No#2&6 , oh! Now I know what to do…a million thanks Adam your my Angel….

  • CK

    Reply Reply March 26, 2015

    Great video – these principles I am going to start going by moving forward in my dating life. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Tera

    Reply Reply March 26, 2015

    Yep! Makes sense to me. Thank you so much for sharing!!

  • claudine osborne

    Reply Reply March 27, 2015

    He adam u are very handsome i tough to tell u that first and u are sexyie than french mans out there i am from france
    any way what a wonderfull video u made
    and i had a main question?
    How do u get a busy life on u own while i am always with him , doing anything with him he i s my soul mate .
    How do u do that?

  • Laura

    Reply Reply March 30, 2015

    Hi. Principle #2 is spot on for me and definitely something I need to work on. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Anna

    Reply Reply March 30, 2015

    Good points!! #2 lol!!

  • Alicia

    Reply Reply March 31, 2015

    3 and 7 go together for me, certainly mistakes I’ve made and it’s nice to have clear ways to think about that. Thanks Adam, looking forward to the next video!

  • jeannette

    Reply Reply March 31, 2015

    I got married to a wonderful man on Jan.17th and its odd how God put us together, so odd and so crazy that I’m not surprised that non of these apply BUT I am 35 and he is a very hot and loving 46 lol soooo yeah, anyway I know enough about my long dating history and enough of his long dating history to know that yes all this makes 100% sence. So I down loaded the info and I would like to thank you in advance Adam cause when my daughter gets to dating age years and years down the line I will pull this info out and say, here kid let’s talk about these simple steps –I know had I not already found my love if my life, that these steps certainly would have helped me live a much happier and healthier youth.

  • Tonya

    Reply Reply March 31, 2015

    Thanks for the much needed words. Can’t wait for more. Thx!!!

  • Maija

    Reply Reply April 1, 2015

    Yes.. I definitely need to work on second principle..
    But thanks for reminding about the rest.. And to be successful should be follow all principles and keep in mind..
    Thank you
    Great;)

  • kim

    Reply Reply April 2, 2015

    I like your common sense approach, no games or tricks.1 through 6 of your video has been my life style choices for close to 30 Years although at 60 years of age I’m starting to feel that what I bring to the table,the physical pain of aging, affects my value.
    My biggest struggle is #7, whenever I’m open and friendly I find the type of men that approach me are not initially very honest (they say what they think you want to hear, not honest about their relationships with other women) and the time it takes me to figure them out makes me guarded.
    i’m not sure how to deal with this stuff.

  • Lisa

    Reply Reply April 3, 2015

    I have to work on the fact that I’m a high value woman. I’m an amazing catch and I have to put that out there and stop devaluing myself. I even have proof this works one guy I met at a club said I can’t believe someone like you is even talking to me. I was thinking I can’t believe you’d rather be talking to me than to all these other women dressed like sluts. obviously he found something about me he found more attractive than all those women who trying too hard dressing overly sexy.

  • Karen

    Reply Reply April 4, 2015

    (I posted this in the forum before I realized there was a place for comments on the video)
    In the past I’ve dealt with men who aren’t necessarily ready for a commitment but start wanting me to do things like hang out with him on the weekend as he does his things in his life, errands, and other stuff or seeming to make an assumption that we should spend most evenings during the week and also most of weekends together. I don’t necessarily want to do that right away, because in fact I have a life and things I want/need to do. I think I’ve been afraid to say that I’m not as available as he seems to want me to be, so I’ve tried to play along with what he appears to want. That causes issues because I’ve done things like not go home to walk my dog when I stayed at a guy’s place overnight, or more minor things. It essentially is pushing me to not have my life, which is what is attractive to them. What is the best way to address this kind of behavior?

  • Kayla

    Reply Reply April 5, 2015

    Hey Adam!

    #2 for sure….I am an over giver!!!! Enough said haha! Always giving more than is being given back to me!

    #3 I tend to get over excited at the beginning…..I have only really had one relationship in my life…so I haven’t had a lot of experience with dating and how to go about it well. I have to remember I’m not a priority yet to them…and I should remember they aren’t to me yet as well!

    #7 This one is a big one….I think I’m trying to play it cool and I actually do come off “cold”…pun intended! I’ve had a few friends notice it that are my girlfriends.

    Would love to hear more of what you have to say!

  • Jane

    Reply Reply April 6, 2015

    You are INCREDIBLE and AWESOME!!!!! Thank you so much for your approach and for the wonderful advice you give.

  • Millie

    Reply Reply April 6, 2015

    You are FANTASTIC!!! Thank you for this most generous gift! Definitely #2 and it’s great to be reminded of all of them. So very grateful for you!

  • susa

    Reply Reply April 7, 2015

    Hi Adam Please could you send me video again I accidently deleted it Sorry I really wantto see it Thanks

  • Naome Nansamba

    Reply Reply April 7, 2015

    Hello Adam, principles 2&3 because I have been investing a lot and pretty fast

  • catherine

    Reply Reply April 7, 2015

    I really appreciate you doing this. I seem to find guys that totally flip flop between being emotionally available and not . They also seem to be very into me and devoted but their lifes are at a place that they seem to be very unstable as their lifes are. Its hard for me cause i am into what i feel and who i fall for and am devoted into helping people , not that i want a project but i dunno. I feel cursed as i have not gotten a guy stronger than me with a back bone. I have health issues so its hard for me to go out like other woman and meet guys. I am highly intelligent , beautiful, witty, sexual and powerful. the thing is that I just dont get to do the socializing thing that most people have. My life has been very different.

  • melissa

    Reply Reply April 7, 2015

    Thanks so much, simple and true!

    For me, #5 and #7 are the main aspects I chose to change. Sometimes, having a strong and more masculine type of attitude hides lack of confidence and fear of rejection… Guys are no fool, they sense that. Showing my feminine side is harder, but at the same time, so genuine and so authentic. From now on, I chose to show my true nature πŸ™‚

    #4 is also great. It is comforting to hear it that way. And it is the greatest truth of all, it all starts by loving ourselves πŸ™‚ xxx thanks Adam so much.

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply April 8, 2015

    Great video Adam! Thank you so much for breaking this all down…it makes so much sense now. #1, #2, and #3 are the ones that spoke to me loudest. I look forward to your next video. Thanks again! πŸ™‚

  • genny

    Reply Reply April 8, 2015

    Yes, number 2, and number 7 is what I need to work on. I will stand in a corner looking vex, when there’s nothing wrong, and even if the guy is steering in my face looking for a wink, I would just look away. I’m a tough case.

  • Tracey

    Reply Reply April 8, 2015

    Amazing Videos !
    Wow….. I know these things and never applied them. Now I will..
    You are so sincere and I admire your dedication to healthy reality in dating.
    Thank you Adam ,What a Real Man you are…
    Thank you.. I needed to see some of you do exist.
    Not only do you give educated guidance in dating, you gave me hope !! (that I lost)

    You’re AMAZING !!
    Thank You !

  • Lara hasan

    Reply Reply April 9, 2015

    Love this video.im sure these policies gonna work.bt actually im very emotional and once i get effected to someone its hard for me to get a hold on myself.give me advice what to do.

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply April 9, 2015

    I loved this video! #2 definitely hit home, I am so guilty of that! So looking forward to the other video’s πŸ™‚ Thank you πŸ™‚

  • Sherry

    Reply Reply April 9, 2015

    Wow. I put on the blinders and invest way too much emotionally. I find myself, when asked what I like to do for fun, saying “well nothing really because I am tired of doing things alone”. Time to put a stop to that! #4 has been a lifelong issue and yet when I try to look at myself, where I have been, where I want to get to… I know I am high value. Looking forward to the next video!

  • Melanie

    Reply Reply April 9, 2015

    Enjoyed this video! I put blinders on and definetly invest way too much. Something I need to work on. Looking forward for the next videos. Thank you!

  • Holly

    Reply Reply April 12, 2015

    #7, i’m unapproachable. i highly value myself i’m a great catch and i like to take things slow. too slow. when i see a man i’m attracted to i become very shy. which is crazy because i’m not shy at all. fear that’s what it is fear. fear of rejection.

  • Yvonne

    Reply Reply April 12, 2015

    I guess I have been doing this thing all wrong, but I am excited to get started on the right path.

  • Efioanwan

    Reply Reply April 13, 2015

    Thank you so much Adam! Number 2 and 4 resonated with me. Guilty with giving too much too soon and I always thought I was not attractive to men. It certainly makes sense that how I see myself is how men will see me … or not see in me.

  • Melinda

    Reply Reply April 13, 2015

    Question about #1-I don’t have the life I want yet but I am working towards it. Is this attractive to men?

    Love #4-I recently had a boudoir photo shoot done to celebrate my weight loss and my 50th birthday.

  • Megan

    Reply Reply April 14, 2015

    I really enjoyed this video! I’ve always been hard on my physical appearance and I think if I work on having a high value in myself…I will ultimately be unstoppable in the dating and professional worlds!!!
    -thanks Adam!

  • S.

    Reply Reply April 15, 2015

    hi i have had no luck with most of my relationships and i couldn’t figure out why i could get guys but shortly after they would just disappear. Countless relationships and over 24 lost years to my horrible record.
    Recently I found what I considered a high value independent guy we hit it off for teh most part..same interests and same age both loved music…at first i was successful at keeping the control and not letting myself move to fast…then he asked me to let go a bit..to trust… and when i did i finally fell..( i become sooo emotionally invested and that’s where i lost control ) we fell apart just short of our two month anniversary…we agreed to try and work it out as we both seemed emotionally invested but a week later he left. i was crushed…

    i found myself back in my usual place of feeling worthless , played and undervalued and wondering how i could fix it all. . Your principle list really hit home especially numbers 1,2,4 and 7. I’ve been so off track and clueless lol .I’m glued to your teachings and yes( while I’m not totally to blame for everything between us I’m hoping improvements on my part will attract him back)…and if not then at least i will finally free myself of this horrible record I attain with men, and i will attract the right one once and for all. Thank you so very much.

  • Arielle

    Reply Reply April 18, 2015

    I like the principles a lot! But I definitely have questions!
    1) How do you channel confidence in new situations: like for example, say you start going to a new group or club, and someone is clearly attracted to you there? If you don’t talk to them too much, its like your rebuffing them, and if you only talk to them, then you miss out on meeting other people who might make you feel more confident and in control. I feel like at every group I try to join, someone starts hitting on me very quickly, before I feel confident there, and then I start getting nervous.

    Also, 2) What does fighting for dominance mean? All the other principles made a lot of sense to me, but I don’t understand. At what point is self-advocating and sharing your needs edging into fighting for dominance? I’m just confused.

    Otherwise, am working on 1,2,and 3 the most! <3 Thanks Adam!

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    Love it so much thank you

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    Wow I have been through a lot of relationship that involved violence and sexual abuse , not once have I ever learned those principles.

    I’m so thankful that you uploaded these videos and that you are teaching young women like me successful skills about dating and guy in particular.

    I’m looking forward to the next video πŸ™‚

  • Laura Slaback

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    Excellent video! Very easy to put into action! Thank you! Hard to pick one but I would say step 2!!!

  • Claudia

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    #7. Sometimes I am not open to approach from men thus reducing opportunity. Other times I am open, but once he pass the surface evaluation, I want to lock it down and enjoy the benefits of being in a relationship. Doesn’t work out well usually. I think I am valuable, and consequently the second part is whether they have earned their way

  • Christy

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    Thank you for sharing this video. I definitely feel like I can apply these principles to my life.

  • Sylvia

    Reply Reply April 20, 2015

    Great advice … love your videos .. continue to give great advice .. We all need help.

  • Brene

    Reply Reply April 21, 2015

    Thanks for this. I would probably need to work on all but one of these. Confidence being the biggest problem. πŸ™‚

  • Jenna

    Reply Reply April 21, 2015

    Principle #7, or rather the misconception of it (being hard to get) totally messed up my dating life, I finally now understand that being easy to approach but hard to attain, is THE way to attract and keep men. This is something I definitely have to work on. I just completed your book and for me I need to learn how to express that I am happy (smile) I dont normally smile as often as I should (I am smiling on the inside) haha kind of thing.

  • Rehina

    Reply Reply April 23, 2015

    Thank you, it really help to hear from a guy’s point of view. I think we hear it all the time, but it has an added credibility coming from the opposite sex. And I personally am going to work on No.4 for myself. Thanks again for reminding us that we are all pretty and beautiful in our own way and if someone does not see it than that beauty is not for them.

  • Divorced Mom

    Reply Reply April 25, 2015

    Great video. Dating sure has changed but I’m not sure I ever truly valued myself the way should, but I will not make that mistake again. Thank you for this advice.

  • Laurie

    Reply Reply April 27, 2015

    Great video! #5 seems to be my crutch. “I am woman and I will prove how strong and capable I am to you!” “You just sit right there, I got this!” Just recently realizing that this is a turnoff to a lot of men … and usually puts me right in the friend zone! They are okay with a strong woman, but just don’t forget to BE the woman!! Thank you for the info and I am looking forward to the next video.

  • Edie

    Reply Reply April 28, 2015

    I definitely have to work on Principal 2. I’m a very giving soul in all my relationships not only romantically speaking. I give with my whole heart. I guess I invest in everyone what I’d like in return.

  • Sylvia

    Reply Reply April 29, 2015

    I have to say, after coming out of a 24 year marriage, and officially divorced 2-1/2, and in my late 40’s, dating again has been a totally new and different avenue!! And I truly have had no problem meeting/dating men. But due to being so obsessed with truly finding my true soul-mate, I truly lost sight of #7..because I just believed in like at first sight…and have learned is not..its called being a hopeless romantic…but I have learned…hopeless means hopeless, until you apply # 7….Thanks for reminding me of all the rules that apply to one that gets weak being a hopeless romantic…reminds me now to be a Harder-Romantic! πŸ™‚

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply April 30, 2015

    This was amazing I am going to work on #2 I always invest more than the guy does.

  • Cathie

    Reply Reply May 2, 2015

    I’ve spent a lot of my life putting together the pieces to create who I am… an educated, athletic woman who is conscious of herself and her world. I have a great job and also dance and perform with fire… so I have those hobbies and passions taken care of πŸ™‚ I love my life! I have spent the past year recognizing just how much I protected myself when getting into relationship and I’ve done a lot of work finding my gentle self, learning how to embrace my femininity in an empowered, beautiful way. I’ve been recognizing the real differences between women and men, really eye opening! I’m just moving through the end of a relationship with a man who wasn’t ready to be *in* a relationship, gave a lot at the beginning, then became unsure of what he wanted. I resonated with this entire video, but especially appreciated the reminder that high value women attract high value men! It’s hard to feel entirely confident within a breakup. The high value point is a reminder that there are men out there who are looking for a strong partner, who are attracted to women who are high value, confident and beautiful. I honor my sensitive self and I don’t emasculate men. I need to find someone who can appreciate my value, step up and radiate his own brilliance. Thank you, Adam πŸ™‚

  • Franceen

    Reply Reply May 4, 2015

    # 1 I need to not be so needy but confidant

  • Caroline

    Reply Reply May 5, 2015

    Love these guidelines! Thank you!

  • Julie

    Reply Reply May 5, 2015

    Thank you for not beating around the bush! Lots of useful meaty stuff in a condensed form. I appreciate your insights and respect for our time and intelligence!

    #2 I can make myself come across as if I am not investing more than he is… no problem, mind over matter… let him set the pace, GOT IT. But I can’t seem to stop myself from driving my friends crazy obsessing over why I haven’t heard from him and what every word in his last text probably really meant.

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply May 6, 2015

    Thanks! πŸ™‚

  • Loukia

    Reply Reply May 9, 2015

    I’m going through something difficult relationship wise right now and I am positive that if I applied principles 2, 6 and 7 things might be different right now. Gotta work on those.

  • JoAn

    Reply Reply May 11, 2015

    at 62 i think im going to need more then one run through
    . i’m glad to add you to my good sense pile.

  • Deb

    Reply Reply May 11, 2015

    I thought this was a great video, enough to make me want to know more. I chose to remain single while I raised my son, who has now left home and is on his way to independence. I have incorporated almost all of your points already, from joining a gym and getting in shape, to hiring a wardrobe stylist to assist me in looking my best. I love my life, and have a lot of interests. I just do not want to go into this next season of my life alone, and I am wanting to learn more about what that means. I have been very successful, but probably need to work on what it means to embrace my feminine side, so I can compliment a mans masculine side.

  • Irene

    Reply Reply May 12, 2015

    Thank you for the awesome advice. I really need to learn not to give all of myself before a man even deserves that from me. I’m a great woman,with a huge heart,I think that gets me in trouble sometimes . I’m very much looking forward to all you have to offer , and sharing you with some of my amazing friends who could surely use this! Your awesome!

  • Anne

    Reply Reply May 13, 2015

    Advice I loved was to have a real life! I must learn to play more and have more interests so that I am not sitting around waiting for my guy.

  • Nilou

    Reply Reply May 13, 2015

    omggggg #2,3!!!!! Unfortunately that’s so me!!! I’m gonna work on it! Thank yo so much Adam!

  • Donna

    Reply Reply May 13, 2015

    Thanks so much for your video! It confirmed that I am on the right track by developing an incredible life for myself. I will continue to develop my life. Thanks again!!!

  • Lisa

    Reply Reply May 13, 2015

    I need to work on everyone of these concepts. Wow and I have always wondered why I have always ended up meeting the wrong men. Thank you very much for all your words of wisdom.

  • Ella

    Reply Reply May 14, 2015

    #5 hit home. I’m independent and have a dominant personality. I had more tools than my ex-husband. I’m just used to taking care of myself and not needing the help of man to get something done. I can work on exuding my feminine side around men.

  • Ana

    Reply Reply May 14, 2015

    I definitely have a lot of work to do! I’ve been doing it wrong all along!

    Loved the video, can’t wait to watch the rest and learn! Xoxo Thanks Adam!

  • Sophiemtl

    Reply Reply May 15, 2015

    I m loving this video. I know some of principles you mentioned, but now you just confirmed me and I ll surly put into practice.

    Can’t wait to see the rest videos!

  • Karen Carr

    Reply Reply May 16, 2015

    Don’t give more attention then you are getting

  • Tamar

    Reply Reply May 16, 2015

    Hi Adam.
    thanks for these wonderful and precise points. #2 & #7 are so incredibly accurate for me. I find that I jump “all in” as soon as a guy shows interest, and I forget to put boundaries… I have lots of self esteem, I know I am sexy (Even though I’m not the model type), I know I’m a high value woman and I have interests beyond being with a guy. I’m just bad at “politics”, and forget that there is sort of game that needs to be played. From time to time I remind myself that “the game” can be fun, and then things are better because I enjoy the chase as well, but I need to REALLY remember… Thank you!!

  • Irika

    Reply Reply May 16, 2015

    Where have you been all MY LIFE! I sooooooooooo needed this video!! I appreciate your gift to us WOMEN ;).

  • Irika

    Reply Reply May 16, 2015

    I need to work on principle #7 a lot of people say I look intimidating!!

  • Barbara

    Reply Reply May 19, 2015

    Thanks for the insight. I especially loved the principal of, if you speed it up, he’ll want to slow it down and vice versa.

  • Jackie

    Reply Reply May 19, 2015

    Hi Adam! All the points resonated with me, but particularly #7 was most useful. I am easy to talk to and, apparently, also too easy to attain because I haven’t wanted to appear snobby or out of touch perhaps. I now truly understand the difference of being easy to talk to and being easy to ‘catch’. I most certainly won’t make that mistake again! I also loved point #3 and I hope I can put this in to practice appropriately. πŸ™‚

    Thanks for the advice young fellow!
    Jackie

  • Nancy

    Reply Reply May 20, 2015

    #3 I like to call the push/pull….I am just over 50 but look younger, most men my age who are single are looking for way younger or disappear after a couple months….thoughts?

  • Florida V. Mendoza

    Reply Reply May 21, 2015

    Hi Adam, Thank you so much for sending me your video about emotional attraction..It help me a lot..All your advice are true and I believe in you.

  • Julia

    Reply Reply May 21, 2015

    Thank you for investing your time and energy, Adam. Touches my heart to hear it from a man’s perspective and know that you understand the struggle. #2 resonates most with me. I have been working on the others and improving the love and value I have for myself. I meet many great men, better quality lately, as I am understanding and practicing these core principles. An emotional connection with a man has always eluded me. I don’t know what it even looks like or feels like. I know I am ready to find out. Thank you for extending your knowledge and thoughts.

    Julia

  • Maria

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015

    Thank you! Sometimes I need to hear advice and see were I’m going wrong! #2 is so true for me. I truly like this guy at work but he never initiates a call or text unless I do. He seems interested in what I’m doing only when I initiate. What shall I do to change that behaviour?

  • casey

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015

    Adam,

    After watching that video….. boy do I have some work cut out for me. I could see a part of me in each and every one of those and couldn’t bring myself to say “I don’t do that”. Thank you so much for the time that you invest on helping women out and I look forward to the other emails and tips you have to offer!!!!

    Thanks again,
    Casey

  • Annette

    Reply Reply May 25, 2015

    I have a somewhat unique experience. I’ve been single for a long time and have fun with my life, so it’s complete. I’ve had three different men (my ex husband included) who have told me I’m TOO independent. So there’s that.
    Yet the principle I feel like I need to work on is investing too much. I’m a giver. I guess I have to suppress that natural instinct.

  • Jodie

    Reply Reply May 25, 2015

    I need all of them. I seem to lose my voice when I’m in a relationship or even dating. I use to be very uptight about everything, plans, how things went. I would lose it if nothing went right. Now I’m laid back, maybe too laid back. I’m just not sure where to go with everything in life. My health keeps me seeing doctors on a regular basis, my work life just is non-exsistant. I keep having too many bumps in the road with life and trying to stay strong is very hard. hell I’m just blabbering

  • Laurie

    Reply Reply May 27, 2015

    Awesome Video!
    I’m going to work on #2.5 & 4.
    I’m very much interest in taking good care of myself.
    Let’s face it ~ ~~you’ve got to love yourself before you
    can love others…that is if its kept in its right perspectives.
    Thanks!

  • Tamra L. Monroe

    Reply Reply May 28, 2015

    I really appreciate your videos! I think probably 6&7 would be the areas I need the most work. I’m not standoffish I’m more shy. But it gets perceived as not approachable.

  • Marisol

    Reply Reply May 31, 2015

    Hi,
    I have a busy lifestyle right now but it’s not incredible since it’s making me sacrifice my social life and work life since my life revolves around a degree program right now. Mind you it is a path I must take to educate myself, improve myself, and hopefully find a long term job in the field I am studying. So you would think I’d attract guys when I do have time to go out since I’m busy with my life but I guess I’m not attracting them (the ones I’m interested in) because I don’t feel free and happy right now. Instead I’m feeling constrained and sacrificing the fun things in life as well as sacrificing the relationships I have (friends and family) mostly because I have learning difficulties and have had to work triple harder than the average person. Such is life. One thing however that is putting me down is the fact that the ambitious guys that I sometimes attract (though not attractive) are the ones who make me realize that men now are too picky just like us and want us to be saving the world, being financially successful, and independent (living on own). I unfortunately at age 32 have am not at this stage in life, so does this mean I have very little chances of finding a man because I don’t meet his standards and expectations? Because im not good enough for him? Mind you, I don’t want a lazy bum but neither am extremely ambitious guy who has high expectations and is unrealistic which makes him come across as condescending.
    *These new type of guys who expect so much from women who are in their 30s are making me feel terrible about myself*

  • Marisol

    Reply Reply May 31, 2015

    Terribly sorry for all the typos! Hope you understood my message somewhat!

  • Jane

    Reply Reply June 9, 2015

    Principle 1 seems so obvious but it has taken me to age 54 to realize that I don’t practice what your preaching Adam. The other six I’ll have to work on too.

    Thanks Adam!

    Jane G.

  • Claudia

    Reply Reply June 21, 2015

    Thank you,
    I can’t wait to start following these principles. Alot of them I was doing wrong.

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply June 27, 2015

    Thanks Adam for your advice! I found you on my Facebook timeline and thought I’d give your video a shot. I’m glad I did. I like the fact that you aren’t teaching about “hope” dating, but I believe that’s outdated for sure! Strategy works. πŸ˜‰ I will keep these principles in my purse for sure. Personally, I need to work on 1, 2 and 4. I definitely feel as though I invest more in a man, especially initially. I seem to dominate the emotional aspect of the relationship and end up romancing him, which isn’t necessarily wrong, but for once I’d like to be swept off my feet. Is that wrong?

  • Dawn

    Reply Reply June 27, 2015

    number 2, number 1 & 5 at times. Wish I would have seen this about 4 months ago. I had a boyfriend that started out great then slowly pulled away. He did have some deep emotional wounds tho as well & so I think number 2, 5 & 7 would have been beneficial at the time.

  • Bianca A

    Reply Reply March 3, 2016

    I think the one that really got me was keeping your life interesting with him or without him. I am guilty of prioritizing him over a lot. Sometimes I feel like he gets the idea that I have nothing going on besides him. Thanks for your knowledge! I love singing and I think I need to focus on a lot of my hobbies and not only him. He’s a great guy, but I don’t like the idea of him thinking I am only dedicating my life to him completely.

  • Tammi

    Reply Reply April 17, 2016

    I am glad that (what it seems) these videos have worked for just about every woman who has commented on them. I am happy for them. However..I have given up on dating. It shouldn’t be so complicated. Why are there dating “coaches” now? There never used to be and people decades ago had no problem getting married. Some of these videos seemed too canned..one size fits all sort of thing. Not everything or dating situation works like this in real life. I am considered attractive, outgoing, funny, Easy to talk to..but heck..I am middle aged now..and it seems all men want is young, very thin supermodels. I have tried speeddating, singles dances, being positive, fun, optimistic..but can’t even get asked out on a date. I get only winks on internet dating sites. Men don’t even smile at me, and when I smile at them, they look at me, like I am an alien or something. Its like “if you want to attract a man..do this..text this..do that” too complicated. Just tired of the whole thing. I give up.

  • Suzanne Gardner

    Reply Reply April 22, 2016

    Wow Adam! Could I have done with you a few months ago. I invested way to much emotionally in a guy that was displaying all three red flag warning signs!!! He pursued me, because I am sexy and confident and run my own business Oh and single/widowed. However we did connected emotionally too unfortunately which really confused my powers to rat him out. However he did tell me he had a girlfriend on the second meeting and that their relationship was just hanging on by a thread!!!! but it was only on our third meeting did he tell me he had been with her for 13 years!!! What a complete plank I felt, falling for him. How do I stop this happening again, or do I just put it down to experience, he is a musician, I should have known better!! LOL

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