Where to Meet Emotionally Available Men

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  • Jamie

    Reply Reply February 4, 2015

    My social score has been terrible for the past few months! I now set a goal to hit a social score of 10 this month! I’m going to focus on meet up.com – Adam, this video is game changing.

    • admin

      Reply Reply February 13, 2015

      Hi Jamie, sounds incredible!! Go for it!

      • claudia

        Reply Reply April 6, 2015

        Jamie, this is wonderful but where can I meet someone nice, single mum, 3 young children, no babysitter, so children come with everywhere!!! ? 🙂

        • Sonia

          Reply Reply December 20, 2016

          Claudia, I’ve a few ideas for you that you may consider:
          1). Do you have Mom’s groups where you can trade babysitting services? Or even friends who have small kids who you feel good about watching your kids for 1-2 hours? (Make it short at first).

          2). In our area teenagers are required to do community service. You may find a trustworthy mature babysitter that way if available to you.

          3). There may be places where single Dads hang out- or places that have both play areas for kids and an adult component – like the gym with childcare, or a playground with Juice Bar. Or sporting events, for example.

          4). Do you have a skill like cooking, gardening or something else that you could trade for babysitting services?

          Hope this helps! I’m in a somewhat similar boat after a 17- year marriage ended and caring for my kids. Had no social circle and having to rebuild. It’s doable!

        • Melissa

          Reply Reply January 17, 2018

          If you’re in Houston I’ll babysit 😊

      • Valerie Fox

        Reply Reply October 16, 2016

        Marry Me Adam!

        • Jeannette Ureña

          Reply Reply July 19, 2017

          He is already in a relationship =D

      • Gina

        Reply Reply July 14, 2018

        I’m going to try meet up.com too ! I’ve been pushing myself to go out dancing every weekend . I love dancing, need the exercise, like to dress up & cousin has perfect singing group for it ! However, no prospects in sight :/ at least not yet 🙁

      • Alohaangelina

        Reply Reply March 11, 2019

        I’m here for a long term relationship… I’m not here to play any games…..

      • Anne

        Reply Reply July 26, 2019

        great advise! I am a single of 2 years after being married for 12. And….now I am 68. Very different confidence level than earlier. New time, new season for me. Thanks!

    • sherrita

      Reply Reply April 14, 2016

      Once again Adam very encouraging. I have recently been online dating,going well and I have met a guy I really really like. I have let him know my future is a committed relationship, which he shares. At this time I have asked about exclusivity and until he gives me an answer will continue to date. I’m not rushing a relationship because these things have levels.Thank you for advising to keep meeting new people or else I would have just concentrated on the present.

      • Melissa

        Reply Reply January 17, 2018

        Agreed! And if you have to wait for that answer- next!

    • Jan

      Reply Reply July 18, 2016

      I am 51 and tried dating sites met bad men so I got off all sites. I was thinking to volunteer pt at a golf course as I have alot of time on my hands as I broke my arm 6 months ago. In this city there are no bars for people over 40. There is one dance once a month for 40+ and its 3 women for every man and only about 120 people go. Married people hang with married people. I do the pool its all female. Peeople dont openly talk to a stranger here its a cold city that way……seeing a guy i like he only wants friendship but may lead me to meet new great people. It was much easier to meet people before social media no question I can attest to thast and most men were good then, not like this now they play games….want nothing serious…….

      • Jan

        Reply Reply July 18, 2016

        This guy im seeing is the only decent man I met here in 7 yrs!!!

    • Carol

      Reply Reply November 3, 2016

      Well, it once was very easy to go out every other night. However, at 65 I look forward to relaxing at night. I have been on match, Zoosk for years but only once a year do I give in to meet someone. I finally did meet a man that I immediately felt chemistry and after dating 6 weeks and receiving calls 2x a day … I was hooked. Sad to say the intimacy was cold. He then backed off and I did the number one rule NOT to do . Drink and dial. That was the end of it.
      So… Another year has passed…. And the men that want to meet me … I’m not interested and the ones I would be interested in meeting .. Don’t respond.
      The other day I was on a work related site and I met this man twice before
      .. This time he took off his sun glasses and the chemistry was over the top.
      However, I don’t know what I should do …, keep going back to the site to see the progress and updates. I don’t know his last name and his boss is the one I’m truly dealing with….
      That’s all for now

      • Lisa

        Reply Reply July 14, 2019

        I totally agree with you.
        I’m 64 and I think that this is mostly about young(er) women.

    • Maligsay

      Reply Reply January 12, 2017

      Thank’s a lot sir Adam
      It’s realy amazing to read and watch all those Vdeo. Give me more encouragement.
      Wishing all the best
      GOD BLESSED….. How I wish I could fine the tight person this year of 2017 must be greatfu

    • Lynn

      Reply Reply March 12, 2017

      Well I have to sau: With me not being young any longer or what the case has been, I’ve been doing things all together wrong. Dating sites, 1st date ever off of 1 site, I found out by social networking later, he was only out for all the wrong reasons to his name not correc, kicking me out of his home-calling me a bad name, saying he picked someone else. He could have done that, tell me without having to push me out the door as his girlfriend was close to getting back, home, wow. I didn’t check him out very well &!i know I rushed into it as he insisted. The few dates before were ripofff’s so I don’t want to fall into the avg of the last 5 people I’ve met &/or gone out with. I’m going to delete the few too many dating sites & do the Starbucks, grocery & my church with the singles thing they have there. Very pleased with the insight to everything you do & share❗ GOD BLESS YOU ❤️

    • Shawna

      Reply Reply October 12, 2017

      I am just newly separated and in the process of buying my own home and refocusing on myself and my passions.

      My goal right now is to meet 8 new guys in the next month through activities that incorporate hiking, photography, arts, music and professional development.

    • Kali

      Reply Reply November 28, 2017

      Adam…my social score is 0. Thanks for this video #nomorehopedating

      • Melissa

        Reply Reply January 17, 2018

        Don’t give up! That’s for quitters 😂 don’t look – love sneaks up on you when you’re not. Best advice is just to do you, career, hobbies, get out there. It will happen with who it’s supposed to be and when you least expect it! Love & Light

    • Jody

      Reply Reply January 3, 2018

      Such great advice, a lot of this I do know. I do feel I am different from many others other there and generally men like me a lot, I have a problem getting out there. My social circle is not too great, so makes it difficult. I thank you for all this information and I am grateful to Sexy Confidence that you care to help us “many” who need the nudge. Hope to find that special someone for life.

    • Jamie Hagler

      Reply Reply May 19, 2018

      I’m I’m a realationship with a hypocrite he’s getting help but I’m so unhappy I am hoping he’s going to change through therapist and psychiatrist but he is do self absorbed & I do every thing on this realationship it’s like we’re just roommate’s totally opposites. Idk. I think we both just don’t want to say goodbye forever. Thanks

  • Beth

    Reply Reply February 15, 2015

    This video was outstanding! It has given me the tools that have made me more motivated to go out and be more strategic about my dating life.

    While my social score hasn’t been terrible, it’s certainly not where I want/need it to be. Time to use all the tools at my disposal. Thank you!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015


  • Heidi

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    I have the social circle as far as being on online dating sites, but have met many toads. With my personal situation it is hard for me to go out and have fun but will try harder

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Keep getting out there. There will always be toads – it’s the prince that makes it all worth it!

    • Aggie Hansen

      Reply Reply February 26, 2017


      Great videos. Your passion for what you do shows. Thank you for sharing your insights and wisdom.

  • Kelly

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    I love the idea of Dual Dating! Have fun, doing something you love And maybe meet someone “like minded!” Will definitely do this more….thanks!!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Sounds great Kelly!

  • Debra

    Reply Reply February 16, 2015

    Great advice….thank you! I needed this reminder and suggestions. The social score is a great concept and easy to monitor. I will plan to put myself in the places where the type of men I want to meet will likely be!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Sounds great 🙂

  • Heli

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I meet a lot of people through my work and often I feel drained after the work, so I found that Tinder is the best place to set up the dates to my day offs.. My social score is high, and I just pick up the best ones! 😀

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Sounds great! Tinder is a great one for keeping that social score up!

  • anja

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I havent been keeping up my social score but maybe l should pick up some old hobbies and do things l love again. Like dancing or singing and english…

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      Writing is a great one (I’m assuming that’s what you meant by English?)

  • Petronella

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    The best part I liked, was for me the Duel Dating! 🙂
    It really helps me out! 🙂

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 17, 2015

      I’m so happy it was useful for you! The Dual intent strategy is very very effective!

  • Audrey

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I like the Duel intent strategy. I joined a gym because of a friend and just by going with him I realized how much I do like working out. I am really starting to think about things differently now!!

  • emily

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    I think I will try the cross fit and the sips and strokes. I live in a really small town and it gets hard to meet new people. lol I might have to go a few towns over or try the city. Thanks so much for the tips!

  • Megan

    Reply Reply February 17, 2015

    Really enjoying your videos and advice!! Making a plan to get off the coach and meet new guys!! Cheers to working on my social score.

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply February 18, 2015


  • Caroline

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    My job requires me to socialize with the public every day (I work in retail). My social score is very high and guys do sometimes ask me out but these guys are guys I use to date in the past. I would date any guy who asked me out. Now I am being very picky when I date so that I do not fall back into the trap of dating guys who only want sex.

    I am getting out there more, doing things I enjoy, my single life is amazing and fun, Meetup.com and GoldStar.com, is a great way to for me to have fun and not just go to events hoping for or looking to get a boyfriend. I was driving my self mad when I’d go to an event and walk away without meeting anyone I liked. Now I don’t care I just go out any way and enjoy myself and have fun. I only have one life and when I look back I want to look back with happiness.

    I online date too, recently a guy asked me out and I got so scared that dating was going to end my doing the things I enjoyed doing. I had to step back and really look at my life and find out if I did have room for a guy in my life as scary as it is. And yes I do have room to still do what I like and have a boyfriend too.

    Thank you Adam!

    • Troy Anne

      Reply Reply September 14, 2018

      Caroline I finally had that scary moment too! Not sure i want or have time for a boyfriend now! Lol. My score is about 5, primarily I do meetups and in my area keep bumping into the same single men at them or married couples so that’s the reason for the 5. I’ve learned how to date a few Meetup guys that I actually liked and then deal with bumping into them there again when it doesn’t work out (the toads)!! Lol Awkward?? No, not with the right attitude and skills but to get my score up I need to expand somehow. I’m thinking of eharmony and Tinder. I had one good Eharmony experience 4 years ago, but I’m hesitant to try Tinder because I don’t expect there to be commitment minded men like on eharmony which is expensive on a low fixed income. I can’t use Facebook yet because my male roommate who’s on my friends list would see and it’s none of his business! I know! I’ll privately ask my Meetup married women friends !

  • Tina

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    I joined Cross Fit for a month, but the majority of the new people in the introductory class were women (they must have listened to your videos, too), and the men were their boyfriends. Also the vast majority of the people in that Cross Fit box were younger than me. It’s probably not a good suggestion for someone over 40…. 🙁

  • Carol

    Reply Reply February 18, 2015

    I tell my friends all time I’m looking and get nothing. Contrary my friends seem wrapped up in their own lives and never think about matchmaking. They are mostly married or have sig others.

  • Fadzillah

    Reply Reply February 19, 2015

    You’re right. I haven’t been out so much.

    Thank you Adam.

  • Essie

    Reply Reply February 19, 2015

    Great video Adam. As always..Thank you! I am not really a ‘go out’ woman at the moment. I have my children and things I do with them. I do meet men at my sons ball games at times or my oldest girls theater or choir events. I am not ‘looking’ at those times. I very rarely go to a bar. I have a female friend and her boyfriend that I hang out with sometimes. Found a new Wine bar in my little town that is fun. I am going to use some of your ideas though. I would sadly say my score is 1 at the moment…oh well….time to go UP.

  • Jamie Redmon

    Reply Reply February 20, 2015

    I have done everything and I still cant get audio of your videos

  • Alexandra

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Great video Adam! I took a martial arts class and it was man-central in there :). I’ll go back to work on my social score and my roundhouse kick ;).

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Thanks Adam for this video. I’ve just realised how much I love my couch. Lol. Hanging out alone really suck but I will give it a try plus the duel intent.

  • Renee

    Reply Reply February 21, 2015

    Thank you for the gift of clarity!
    The truth is hard to face but it’s still the truth. My reoccurring experiences with emotionally unavailable men is not accidental. I appreciate your candor and have a bit of hope.
    I will make your recommended changes this time.

  • Lori

    Reply Reply February 23, 2015

    I have a terrible social score. I go out once or twice a week and never get approached. I try to be confident but it’s frustrating following the tips and not seeing change. I think I’m doomed to be a spinster. Lol But I will keep trying. Thanks for the advice!

  • Stefanie

    Reply Reply February 24, 2015

    I’m a college student living in a dorm on campus and have two dating profiles, but I still find myself single and attracting only the ugliest and most ignorant/immature toads. I’m not the skinnies person, and at my school (as I’m sure is the way for most college campuses), looks take precedence over anything else, leaving people shallow. I’ve been single for over a year now, and have met one or two great guys, but nothing ever came of it. Do you have any suggestions for someone in my situation where I’m on campus and not really mobile right now?

  • Diana

    Reply Reply February 25, 2015

    Hi…I love your advices!But I have to say that my social score is very high, I go out as much as I can and in different places…but I met only “wrong” guys. It’s really hard to find the right one (especially after been emotionally hurted)!

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply March 4, 2015

      Hi Diana,

      Tomorrow’s video is all about finding the emotionally available men!

  • Maria

    Reply Reply March 1, 2015

    What type of advice would you give a single mom of 2 living in a town of 600 in the midwest?? Every man in the area is either a toad or married. I would really like to utilize Dual Intent, but there really are no opportunities here. I’ve been doing online dating, but a lot of men don’t like the distance factor.
    I am happy you talked about reaching out to your social group. That is one avenue I am currently trying, thanks to you! Because of my relocation, the majority of my friends live 120+ miles away. This shall be interesting!

  • Kathy

    Reply Reply March 4, 2015

    Thank you. I’m much older tan you, but the advice is good or every age group! Here we go!

    • Kathy

      Reply Reply March 4, 2015

      Please remove my last name.

      • Adam LoDolce

        Reply Reply March 4, 2015

        All set!

  • Nansy

    Reply Reply March 4, 2015

    Thank you Adam, great vedio 🙂

  • Johanna

    Reply Reply March 8, 2015

    hi Adam! I really like your videos and i have really learned a LOT from them!! But this video does not suit a small town girl like me… There’s 60 000 people living in my city (so small that you know who has dated or slept with who), we have 3 clubs and 2 bars and if i wanted to go out 3 times a month I would be considered as “white trash”… 8 times per month and I would be the biggest whore in town without even sleeping with anyone -because rumor has it!

    I do find it very difficult to meet new people because non of my friends are single so I don’t get out very often, and there’s about 10 to choose from on the dating sites within my location. There’s of course more to choose from in cities close to mine, but i’m not that movable because I run my own business here. Do you have any suggestions for someone in my situation?

    Thank you!!!
    With kind regards Johanna

    • Adam LoDolce

      Reply Reply March 9, 2015

      You would be considered white trash for going out 3 times a month? Johanna, I think you need to rethink that statement a bit – if anyone judges you for going out too much, then they aren’t worth your time. There’s nothing wrong with being social – regardless of whether your town has 60K, or 3 million people.

  • Dina

    Reply Reply March 22, 2015

    I’ve been really focused on changing my income so there is socialization but my focus has been money not people…. That said I have no clue as to a social score, because I’m the type of person to talk to someone standing in line waiting for coffee, or the bank and never introduce myself or ask for their name either.
    Bars and nite clubs are fun for dancing and just hanging out but it depends on the dj and I’m a little out of the loop of that scene. I also end up meeting men who are married and have their ring hiding in their wallet. Toads.
    Online dating, ok. I would need to take that course.
    Circle of friends, I have been spending more time with my married friends and their friends who are usually single… I’ve been meeting their friends which is cool, just a fun way to hang out and socialize. Not sure about having those female friends looking for single guys, but will bring it up when next time we hang out. see what they think!
    Dual Intent I definitely need to work on that more…

  • Bella

    Reply Reply March 22, 2015

    Liked the video! But my situation is that I’m a nursing student, and just about everyone knows how much free time we have… pretty much none. But I’m still going to set my goal at 10 per month. It’ll help me become more social… a goal I’ve been wanting to hit for quite some time. Have any suggestions for free events? I’m on quite a budget due to paying for college tuition and such.

  • Toto

    Reply Reply March 24, 2015

    Hi Adam, I am new to your site, getting acquainted slowly slowly with the content. My first impression is that the videos are fun,cheerful but blunt and seem actionable.We’ll see 🙂 Cheers!

  • Elizabeth Murray

    Reply Reply March 24, 2015

    I wish you were available 20 years ago to give this advice. I’m 54, but still feel positive about meeting someone, but it isn’t as easy as 20 years ago. Thank you Adam

  • Laura

    Reply Reply March 29, 2015

    Love your advice, learning a lot! Just starting Hill walking, funny enough is it for me but had intented to meet interesting men too! You call it Dual Intent, so Heureka it is in Me after all hahaThank you!

  • claudine osborne

    Reply Reply March 31, 2015

    Hi adams this is claudine
    I love ❤ u video like always and u know my situation
    So I did find already the love ❤ of my life trough a friend but I like to just meet friends because most of them wants to be more than that but I want to be loyal to my baby

  • claudine osborne

    Reply Reply March 31, 2015

    How can I download my picture in the comments section?

  • kim

    Reply Reply April 4, 2015

    unfortunately I live in a very small town, toads or taken , thinking I might just have to move to Costa Rica……….

    • Emily

      Reply Reply May 14, 2015

      I live in a small town too and it is very hard to meet people. I love Costa Rica too, but don’t know if I would meet anyone there. I enjoyed the video and I need to get out there more. Dating seems like a full-time job and it is so difficult. I joined meetup.com and I enjoy it. I definitely agree that hoping doesn’t work because I have been doing that for many years. I am such a great person and I have so much to offer any man. I will definitely take Adam’s advice and improve my social score.

  • Kayla

    Reply Reply April 7, 2015

    Well I moved back home to my home town 6 months ago so the trouble there is I know most of the men there. I should go to the town over more because it’s a college town and just more people in general. I was also getting over a break up that hurt me pretty bad so for a long time I didn’t even want to look for anyone or really be social for fear of seeing my ex out….and with his new girlfriend. My social score is way low. I talk to a lot of people when I’m out but I know all of them. I don’t really meet anyone new because I haven’t been putting myself in those situations being back home. But I’m getting better and this weekend being in Chicago I have talked to a few men while out and about just simple little conversations which is a start!….3 in one night actually. But when I’m back home I need to do better about uping that social score. Looking forward to next video!

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply April 10, 2015

    Thanks Adam! There were a lot of helpful tips for meeting men in this video. I live in a rather small community but there is always something going on – whether its plays, concerts, block parties or even charity events. I never thought about the concept of a social score, but that does make a difference in pushing myself to be more social because frankly sometimes I can be the quiet one. I think the social score idea will help me to track my success and stay motivated. Thanks again for your insightful videos. 🙂

  • Tracey

    Reply Reply April 11, 2015

    Just before i got this email i took it upon myself to do more different activities to meet people, i have met a couple of toads but it also boosted my confidence to know i’m still attractive to men, this video gave me more idea’s though, many thanks.

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply April 12, 2015

    This video was awesome 🙂 My social score is terrible! I have tried a few of your tips, online line dating….ugh! Some men are pigs! An being introduced by friends….disaster! I have been planning to get out more and do things I enjoy, never thought of looking up a running or hiking club, that I will do 🙂 Getting back in the gym is another 🙂 Thank you again!! Looking forward to your next video.

  • Sherry

    Reply Reply April 13, 2015

    My current social score is 0. I have relied on online dating for the past few years and have stopped that. I have met some decent people through it and some… “interesting” people as well. I participate in local area sports but usually with married friends/couples. I have become really good at holding the couch down. But, since I have been watching this series and some lectures on relationships at church, I am going to fix that. Even if it means going whitewater rafting by myself or zip lining or whatever. Either way… my couch will be lonely this summer!

  • Kristine Green

    Reply Reply April 18, 2015

    My social score is very low. Maybe a 4. I am not currently wanting to look because I have been taking care ofyom
    But even though I I will apply what Adam suggest.

  • Brandee Pepper

    Reply Reply April 19, 2015

    Adam, this is going to be a hard thing for me to implement into my weekly routine. I say that because I am extremely OCD and if it’s not on the agenda, it’s not happening. LOL even my friends know my “routine”. I’ve been talking with my sister-in-law and she says I need to “break the cycle”. I took her advice and went out last night with a friend and had a good time, even though I wanted to stay home. I did get a free beer from a gentleman, but I wasn’t interested. He was much older, drunk, and looked like he’d had a hard life. Other than that, I didn’t meet anyone, but the point of that whole night was to break the cycle, which is exactly what I did. I hope I can stay motivated to continue trying new things. I am a runner and have been thinking for a long time that I would like to join a running group.
    Thank you very much for the words of wisdom!

  • Theresa

    Reply Reply April 24, 2015

    I don’t think online dating is for everyone and it’s crazy not to be on one of those sites. I did online dating a lot back in the 90’s, I’m 50 now and there are so few appealing prospects out there that it is more of a discouragement than a serious avenue for meeting anyone. I look like I’m still in my 30’s but most men my age online look 60, and anyone younger won’t have anything to do with me just because the numbers 5-0 are on there. Most of the men interested are in their 60’s, which does not interest me, someone who looks like my father. I was on 3 sites at the beginning of this year and it actually got me so depressed and frustrated I had to quit it all. I don’t like it when online dating is talked up to be necessary in this day and age. What did people do before the internet? Somehow they managed to find each other. All of my friends know I am single and looking but no one ever knows anyone or tries to help match me. I’ve been to Meetups, churches, groups, charities….every opportunity that has come my way or I have gone and found. Now what?

  • jurie

    Reply Reply May 5, 2015

    i wanna click not just “like” but supah like on all your videos Adam! you were right. new knowledge will help build confidence. i sent it to girlfriends who are desperately in need of your expertise and they came back giving me a hug. this vid is one of my favorites! thank you!!!

  • Ella

    Reply Reply May 14, 2015

    Great advice! My social score has been 0 for the past month. Hell, for the past 8 months. Haven’t dated anyone since the last guy 8 months ago. Decided to go back to my number 1 rule while finishing school, which was …NO distractions. I graduated 2 days ago and won’t be starting graduate school until Fall 2016. Really teetering with the idea of getting back into the dating life. Before I went back to school (4 years ago), I dated constantly and my social score was very high. Many, many, many toads. I always knew I would have to go through 20 toads to find one guy with substance. Your videos are inspiring me to try again………

  • Donna

    Reply Reply May 16, 2015

    I love your advice, Adam and again you are letting me know that I am moving in the right direction. I love the dual intent idea and I intend to use that I will let you know how if goes. I realize that I need to be more social and get out more. Thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.

  • Fai

    Reply Reply May 19, 2015

    This is great. I’m definitely going to try running the idea by my friends. They have been joking about setting me up with someone, but I always laughed and nodded it off. Now, I’ll take them up on the offer. Thank you!

  • Rhonda

    Reply Reply May 22, 2015

    My social score has been zero for a long time. I tried online dating and I either met up with people that were not compatible or most of the time…were scammers. My circle of friends are all married and their friends are married…so I can’t rely on them to be on the lookout for me. I go to events and concerts by myself and have had no luck there. I know that I have to do more duel intent things…but that is hard when you are on a budget.

  • Florida V. Mendoza

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015

    I love your advice but not this time I have to move out first from my present situation. May be next year when I will move to some other place but i will try again online dating just to study the different attitude of men. I will always keep your advice to remind me about safety of my move. Thank and hug.

  • Connie

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015

    I too have been seeing an emotional unavailable man. His excuses are pretty lavish though… Kids sick, family problems, etc…I didn’t want to loom like the bad guy for not believing him. Thanks for the video it really helped.

  • Connie

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015


  • Connie

    Reply Reply May 23, 2015

    I didn’t want to look*

  • Galina

    Reply Reply May 27, 2015

    Incredible, awesome videos! Thank you so much, Adam! True and straight to the point! Thanks)))

  • Dolores

    Reply Reply May 31, 2015

    Hi Adam,

    I think that your video is full of great advice. I liked watching it, because I feel like it can help me get through social situations, that in all honesty I have pretty much avoided. I think I’m not confident enough, and so I shy away. Although, I’m in a relationship it would be nice to just get out more. So because I hadn’t been getting out too much my social score had been “0”. However, recently, I have been taking a pottery class, learning cello, and just working on having a life as you have said in previous videos.

    Even though I’m not really looking for another person, because of the man I’m seeing, I’m just trying to see who I am outside that relationship. So what it seems like your videos do for me is to help with my social skills, which is what you have to have in order to put yourself out there anyway.

    Your videos are intutitive and I enjoy watching them. Thanks for all that you do to help other people better their lives.


  • Andrea

    Reply Reply June 3, 2015

    Ok so my social score in terms of going out is pretty good, I would say I got out at least once a weekend and try and make sure at least one of the days is in public (bar, museum, activities etc) but I have a hard time actually meeting people in theses places. They dont come up to me like they do some girls. I smile and usually am having a fun time but they still don’t come over. Help? What can I do?

  • Ophe

    Reply Reply June 30, 2015

    Thank you for sharing these great tips and strategies

  • jj

    Reply Reply July 1, 2015

    Hi,thanks alot here ,my experience had a social when i was in college i met people. And now im here in our home so i used any sites to meet new friends.this is great.i know now,can help for my relationship soon.

  • Julie

    Reply Reply July 2, 2015

    Hi Adam! I really like your video ! I have tried your tip, online dating…. Ugh! I do meet some men, 1 I really like and I think he like me too but I’m wrong, this men are scammer , now I’m really sceared to meet a men… It’s because I’m not young anymore , I’m 53, but wish one day I can meet the men I can love and he love me back…

    Thank you very much Adam for your advice.
    Have a lovely day.

  • Adriana

    Reply Reply July 3, 2015

    Ok… No issues with social score and definitely met lots of toads… If anything, I sure had funny stories that I really should start a blog… Hey at least I have humor while waiting for the right guy to show up… Have not lost my optimism yet.. 🙂

  • Lucy

    Reply Reply July 12, 2015

    Love your energy! Listening to you has got me motivated!

  • Linda

    Reply Reply July 14, 2015

    What is your piece of advice for a single mom like myself who lives in a city where she knows very few people? I feel guilty putting my daughter with a babysitter to only meet up with strangers…(and I guess i need to meet a lot of strangers in order to find “the one”)

    I’ve been single for nearly a decade now and its a task to continue to remain positive and not become jaded from all the frogs I’v met!

  • Melody

    Reply Reply July 18, 2015

    Well…the last 5 I dated…well one broke my heart severely, one became abusive after about a year, one was a single father with a terrible drinking problem (that was a short relationship!), one started out as an online thing and never panned out, and one was very socially awkward/inept (well, i’ve had more than my share of these to be honest!) and couldn’t handle the whole situation. I really need to regain my confidence and get out there again!! I am getting there a little quicker now as well as opening my eyes to the warning signs sooner! Thanks for the great videos!

  • Wine

    Reply Reply July 19, 2015

    I really love your video. Adam I was going out with a guy n realized he was not just into me so I stopped chatting n calling n since then his bn the one the calling n chatting.once a day.is he still interested?

  • Greta

    Reply Reply July 23, 2015

    My social score…is it possible to be a negative #? I’m kidding! Seriously, it is appalling. I am not a bar/night club person. I do like the dual intent and social club options. I like the idea of pursuing the activities that I love, but just in a different setting/environment!

    Another informative and thought-provoking video…THANK YOU!

  • Olia

    Reply Reply July 28, 2015

    Just watched a video ) it definitely useful advices though I’m not sure how to implement them. I just moved to the new city, no friends- so no social environment. Can’t go to bar or night club alone. Trying to find some interesting places or meetings – but looks like it’s unbelievably small and boring place. So the only option I’ve got so far – volunteer) gonna work on it and trying, searching, improving 😉

  • Destiny

    Reply Reply July 28, 2015

    Another great video! My social score is absolutely non existent. I’ve been seeing someone I am completely enamoured with, but he is not the commitment type. I’ve avoided going out and meeting men, because my heart is just…stuck. After seeing your first two videos, it’s time for this very valuable woman to get off the couch and out of her she’ll. I’m going to compose a list of 30 places to go and my goal is to do one ever day for 30 days, whether it’s a class, an event or a walk in the park, I’ve got to GET MY SCORE UP! Thanks for another fantastic, eye opening video! ❤️

  • Lisa

    Reply Reply August 3, 2015

    I live in a rural area and there are not a lot of options for me outside of bars. The meetup.com things are limited here and mostly for moms and homeschoolers. Even the online dating is limited in the number of people available. I see the same men over and over on the different sites.

    The area where I live is also of a rural mindset, I am not. Finding like-minded people is very difficult for me because I don’t relate to redneck culture.

    I’ve asked many people to look for single guys but no one has even replied. I usually get, Oh, I don’t know any single men or I don’t know men that are your type.

  • Shawndrea

    Reply Reply August 4, 2015

    Can’t wait to see the next video! This was great. I can cheat and say my social score last month was 6. I participated in 6 meetups (yoga, movie & book club) but I didn’t meet any men.
    This month I’d rather focus more on dual intent. So this month I am going to set a goal of 9 and add coding, maybe crossfit or a spiritual place.

    The online dating profile SCARES me but at least I have control of who I engage with. I’ll try just one more time for YOU Adam. Since you’re so passionate about it. (j/k)

    I’d really like to meet men my age who are nerdy, honest and quirky like me. I’m so tired of the hookups.

  • Kat

    Reply Reply August 6, 2015

    I’m loving your emails, last month social score was 10..met 5 at lounges & 5 from a class I took so this month I’ll set a new goal thanks to you 🙂 Keep up the great videos! ????????

  • Fatisha

    Reply Reply August 8, 2015

    I am loving your videos and advice and am taking notes. But what should us single working mothers do? Going out this many times a month is really not feasible. I have tried online dating as well, a lot of men don’t seem to be too interested in dating women with kids.

  • stella

    Reply Reply August 31, 2015

    Hey adam.thanks for your advice. I believe I had put so many pressure under physical attraction. Not knowing it will lead me to attract men to have sex with me.And no one wanted to take it to the next level. I believe that without physical attraction , I will never lead a man to pop the big question. Not knowing I was totally wrong.

    Thanks adam you have been a blessing to me.God bless you.

  • lily

    Reply Reply September 15, 2015

    Certainly church is one of the best social places since most major cities a quite aways from my small city and social events rarely take place in my city where the majority are seniors and college students.I like what you said about having a positive attitude which attracts positive potential future partners.When we smile the world smiles back at us yet on the other hand no one wants to be around someone with negative vibes.Therefore I’ve tried internet dating but about 80% of the guys play mind games and was confirmed by one of the online dating members who asked me why a gorgeous lady was dating online…makes me wonder which specific sites you would recommend.Lastly what would you advise me about… actual agencies that match couples? I found one in my area and they’re very thorough as far as doing bkgd checks,etc.Thanks again for video.

  • Bridie Leigh

    Reply Reply September 16, 2015

    You have given me some great ideas . I am going to work on meeting 10 new men a month.
    I have a profile,and I know I have negative on it. Thank you

  • marina

    Reply Reply September 17, 2015

    i’m a really shy person, my normal social score is Zero ..once i tried very hard to build a beautiful one and it worked ..i get my self into a long relationship for 4 years ..and now i’m just broken with a Zero social score again ….. i’m just afraid to get hurt one more time…and ruin my social life …it’s safe to be alone

  • Miranda coenen

    Reply Reply September 27, 2015

    Hello fancy face,thanks for your intelligent advize i’ll work with,will begin to check out online what might work for me,i love it that you talk straigt to the point,keep it up,i need this sometimes,the dual intent advize gracie mille,will ask my friends to help me,i want to see the third video,cant waight to hear from you,have a nice day,greetings from belgium.XOXO miranda

  • Lll

    Reply Reply October 2, 2015

    Nice video. I meet my boyfriend in work. I know it’s not a good place to date but we decided to keep it secret. Now I changed my work. But it’s a good experience for me.

  • Heidi

    Reply Reply October 13, 2015

    Thank you for past two videos. They have been great to listen to and have given me some proactive ideas for dating as a single gal. Looking forward to the rest of the program and more of your videos.

  • Joy

    Reply Reply November 9, 2015

    Thanks for the two videos. it’s great to listen once again and to remind me to make a connection to some activities to meet some potential guys out side home i don’t go out much for a few months to meet men. i guest i’ll give it a try on online dating this time. once again thanks for your videos looking forward to listen more on your videos.Have a great day.

  • Solveig

    Reply Reply November 18, 2015

    Hi, Adam,
    This was a great video.My aim is to make more friends ( i’m already in a relationship)
    Thankyou for sharing valuable insights!
    Lots of hugs!

  • samara

    Reply Reply December 22, 2015

    this video really gave me the tools i need

  • Cindy

    Reply Reply December 27, 2015

    Interestingly before I discovered your page I had started making changes in my life (single ma with two sons), THEN I discovered your website. I can very much relate to all that you have said, at the moment I have had three dates with a guy, don’t keep incessant contact, have my own life, don’t wait at home for that call, do new things (just signed up to do a 160 km cycle challenge in 2016 eek!) and he is still interested, the one for me, who knows, but your principles make so much sense that I have told my single friends to look you up 🙂 You rock !

    • Cindy

      Reply Reply December 27, 2015

      PS I live in a small town of 6000 people in NZ (now THAT’S a challenge in itself 🙂

  • Lorraine

    Reply Reply December 31, 2015

    Wow!!! I have listened to relationship coaches in search of wisdom in dating and relationships. I am talking female and Male Coaches. And listening to your videos has been eye opening and pleasant to listen to. You seem like a respectable honest and caring individual. I am like not just wanting to believe everything just like that without knowing the source of where the information is coming. However, I find your advice resourceful and trusting to the topic of dating and relationships. Thank you for taking the time and energy to step up research and make it available to the public of both men and women.

  • Sylvia

    Reply Reply January 4, 2016

    Thank you so much for this video!!!

    It really got my thinking and brought new ideas.

    I can’t thank you enough!!! 🙂

    Kind regards from the Netherlands,


  • Jodi

    Reply Reply January 12, 2016

    Thank you for the great tips! I look forward to your next video.

    • Gr8

      Reply Reply June 16, 2017

      Nice and jodi dont have a clue

  • Reet

    Reply Reply January 17, 2016

    Thank you Adam. You are great!!

  • linda

    Reply Reply January 18, 2016

    Thank for your tips it will help me god bless you!!

  • Joy

    Reply Reply January 27, 2016

    I am so glad I found you, Adam! As a 38 year old woman about to become single again after 8 years of marriage, and a 7 year relationship with another before that, I am doing my best to learn from my mistakes of the past and find and project my value in the dating scene. I’m not ready for dating yet, but I figured I better start getting myself together before I am. YOU rock, and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the blunt, but kind, advice you offer to us women who have our ears open to really hear you. Looking forward to your next 2 videos!

  • Miranda Lyn

    Reply Reply February 1, 2016

    Adam – love your videos and rawness to them! My ears cringed when you said Events & Adventures, and I only speak to the Phoenix location. Be wary because as a former member of this group – it was more about “bar events” than actual adventures. While they have 30ish events per month, the owner MANDATES weekly Wednesday volleyball and the remaining events were generally at a restaurant or bar..the same restaurant or bar. I’d estimate 80% of the schedule was the same activity. That being said, I did meet a great number of wonderful women I’m still friends with and they do have a solid track record of relationships built. I would simply caution there is a definite lack of diversity among the members and you’ll pretty much see the same folks month over month.

  • Latoya

    Reply Reply February 17, 2016

    Wow! This information is soooooo awesome!! I’m very happy i went search for dating info!
    I’m a 24 year old young lady been single for 6 years.
    I don’t know much about dating due to my culture. So I’m learning the basics right now.
    Thank you Adam.
    Looking forward to putting your wisdom into action.

  • robin

    Reply Reply February 19, 2016

    Thanks Adam,
    This is a very helpful vdo one with lots of great ideas for any age range. It’s not that it’s all knew but your challenge to just do it and get off your butt is great and needed. I guess that comment about being so afraid of being hurt that you hinder yourself really fits more than I even care to admit. Loved the idea of making a goal. I’m good at goals and my social life should certainly be included.

  • Wendelin

    Reply Reply February 23, 2016

    Hope Dating – I may have missed the explanation, at the end you stated don’t rely on hope dating, what did you mean by that?

  • Normi

    Reply Reply February 25, 2016

    Hi Adam,
    Therein lies my problem, my life is school, work and house. I have no social life much. I will follow your suggestion to meet more guys this coming months, I might have a slow progress but I’m willing to go out there to have more choices than just a co- worker. The things you said made a lot of sense to me. I love all your videos. Great job Adam, keep it up.

  • Milagros

    Reply Reply March 4, 2016

    Hi Adam,

    Your advises are coming handy since i just decided recently to start dating after almost five years been divorced. I’m searching for places i can go and meet men, but it’s terrifying. I’d joined meet.com but haven’t find a group yet, i joined Zoosk and other dating sites and most man want sex before even meeting me, and i have tried a bar here and there and can’t seem to enjoy myself. I find myself wanting to go out but then i don’t cause first i don’t want to go out alone, and second i don’t know where to go, and finally….i have insecurity (i’m over weight and don’t feel comfortable).

    Now i found you and tell me that I’ve been doing it all wrong. Thank you! I almost gave up, but as i sit here writing this message almost defeated i realize….I DON”T WANT TO GIVE UP!!! I’m working on my weight, on other appearance since i know i have a lot of love to give. So until that moment comes I will continue to search for my charming prince.

    Much love to you,

  • Stacyk

    Reply Reply March 22, 2016

    It is sad to say but my social score would be a 1! Yikes! But I feel a bit more confident with some of the tips you gave in this video. I have a gym membership and I have not used it much. I hate going places alone. But that would be that exusitis kicking in. So tomorrow I will make myself go! I am also going to try the messaging five friends to seek out help in meeting someone. I have met some very nice guys, but I am tired of just being the “friend” . I am ready to put your techniques to the test and find a guy willing to invest his time in me.

  • Kirstin

    Reply Reply March 22, 2016

    I guess my social score isn’t so bad, but it’s between the guys at work and the guys at my gym! Actually going to start at a crossfire gym soon! So i was excited to hear you list that option!! Never thought of it as a place to meet guys honestly!
    Having just broken up with a pretty good guy, I’ve been a little “on the couch” but getting closer to getting out there. He raised my bar quite a bit! Definitely close to time to get out more to see who’s out there. I saw you comment above on a comment about tinder. What are your thoughts on that? I’ve mostly found toads unfortunately.. I’m curious your thoughts on that app.. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 😉 take care!!

  • Brittany

    Reply Reply March 31, 2016

    My social score is pretty terrible only because I am a single mama with a lil toddler at home soooo unfortunately i spend majority of my nights/life with the lil stinker. But have been able to hang with a few friends in group settings and met some new people and new guys. Definitely working on trying o broaden my horizons and lose the fear of just getting out there and meeting new people even if its just meeting new girl friends. I think honestly starting out by forcing myself to meet new girl friends and expanding that social circle will eventually enable me to get up the courage to meet new guys and hopefully a new boyfriend….eventuallyyyyyyyyy!!!!! haha

  • alice

    Reply Reply April 12, 2016

    mmm and here i was hope dating, thanks alot

  • Lea

    Reply Reply May 3, 2016

    Thanks for the video, Adam! Hopefully, I’m on the right way to bring my private and social life up to the new level. I’ll keep watching your next videos, see you ! 🙂

  • Eunice

    Reply Reply May 12, 2016

    Nice one Adam, i’ll sure increase my social score and share my experience with you. Thanks for your advice…

  • Dorcas

    Reply Reply May 18, 2016

    This is really helpful am now going get of that couch and start going for church programs to meet my dream guy….thanks a lot

  • Sandy Ann

    Reply Reply May 21, 2016

    I have drifted through life not knowing what it meant to meet an emotionally attractive man I can love and possibly marry…I have always lived by hope and I am 56. I am wanting to meet someone at church because I don’t go many other places. My volunteer work is nice right now though…and I have a nice client…I am still going to University in the Fall…May try to increase my social score by going to the rec centre…and having a book signing at a Grocery store utility room
    Thanks for all your help Adam…

  • Debbie

    Reply Reply May 24, 2016

    Great video Adam.
    The bar scene is ok if you have a wing girl to go with you. It’s kind of weird to go by yourself. I do like the duel idea, it’s right on target. I’m into home improvement. Power tools and remodeling are a total turn on for me. The only place I can think of to find like minded men are at the home depot. I just don’t know how I could pull that off without looking totally creepy! Hahaha. ? my score is a tearful 2 ?

  • Nichole

    Reply Reply June 6, 2016

    I am a sexy 47 yr old professional who has been single a few years. I have learned so much from Adam with his you tube videos and advice. Just in a matter of a couple weeks I have attracted the amazing men I have been wanting. When it rains, it pours, no drought here.

  • Shannon

    Reply Reply June 10, 2016

    My social score isn’t horrible, I work in the local college bookstore so starting a conversation with someone who has been a customer is fairly easy. I have been attending college, working and have little time for actively “getting out there regularly”. I am taking summer off, and this advise couldn’t come at a better time!

  • Destiny Clark

    Reply Reply June 11, 2016

    that’s might help me with my boyfriend and I

  • Mukai Henrieta

    Reply Reply June 12, 2016

    Thanks Adam for sharing your 2nd Video.?

    My favourite is Dual Intent. I have been a member of various Social & Networking Groups for the last 2 years & I am enjoying meeting people – including men, of course. To date, I haven’t met anyone I connect with in that way.

    I am skeptical about Online Dating. I tried it 3 years back with disastrous consequences. There are some real psychos out there. I decided never to use it again.

    Social Circle is good. I like it. I haven’t actively used it thinking it makes me look cheap. However, after hearing what you just said & the dignity that comes with looking for a potential spouse this way, I am ready to try it.

    Thanks again Adam for sharing. Am finding your tips useful, practical & helpful. You are adding a third dimension in the way I see myself & want for myself.

    Looking forward to the third video.?

  • Maribel

    Reply Reply June 15, 2016

    Tnx alot
    Looking forward to have more videos

  • Jenna

    Reply Reply June 20, 2016

    I am a widow with 2 children. I think 10 is ambitious for the amount time I have. I am 3 weeks I to the month at 3 . I think 6 would be a reasonable goal.

  • Adia

    Reply Reply June 26, 2016

    Meeting a new person every day actually sounds cool.

  • Nelly

    Reply Reply June 29, 2016

    I hate My bf 😀

  • Rebecca

    Reply Reply July 4, 2016

    I have a pretty low social score because I’m shy when it comes to dating, so when my chiropractor asked me out I thought sure why not? I figured it was safe and I felt there was a connection because we always had great conversations during my treatments. Well after about a month I could tell something was off, even though things were going great. Long story short he told me he had” loose ends” to tie up. Not sure what to make of any of it because it stopped so abrupt. Maybe you have some insight for me? Maybe get a new chiropractor?

  • Lynda Parker

    Reply Reply July 4, 2016

    Hey Adam,

    I find it hard to get out and meet new people. I’m an introvert; and so talking to people about myself is difficult. And seeing I have a medical condition, I find it twice as hard to keep anyone in a relationship with me… the last guy who suggested we started dating hasn’t spoken to me in a month.

    I really find it hard to date anyone.

    I have done all the things you’ve suggested, and nothing works.

    I’m over 40 and it’s getting depressing at how often I get rejected.

  • Monica portelli

    Reply Reply July 27, 2016

    Hi Adam… Your videos are great….they have taught me a lot. I wasn’t one to say what I wanted in a relationship…. So l am still looking for that nice guy who is only interested in me.
    Being in my 60ish makes it hard… their all looking for younger girls even the older guys
    Looking forward to the next video. Thanks

  • Monica

    Reply Reply July 27, 2016

    Limeade remove my last name

  • Penny

    Reply Reply July 27, 2016

    I’ve been attracted to married guys. Because I don’t want a commitment myself. Or think I don’t deserve a man of my own. I had a BAD relationship for 17 yrs. (marriage). And I’ve been divorced for 17 years. I think it’s fear of a 24/7 relationship. I love my independence and love my home and my space.

    • Deidra

      Reply Reply November 26, 2016

      I am not casting judgment on you, but have you ever tried dating single available men in your area who also love their independence and are not looking for a commitment like yourself? I am sure that they are out there looking for strong, beautiful and independent women who choose to have noncommittal relationships such as yourself. Penny, I wish you well in your search to find the best match for your needs very soon.

  • Rhonda

    Reply Reply August 1, 2016

    I’m going to hit up my friends on Facebook!! Great idea!

  • Andi

    Reply Reply August 4, 2016

    My social score went down from college. In college I was getting out 4 times a week in a month and now I work full time I get out maybe once. So I am going to try and up that to two. And I am going to focus on just getting out anywhere I hear there is an event

  • carolina

    Reply Reply August 14, 2016

    this is what i need to do be out there ,thankyou !!

  • Hanisha

    Reply Reply August 31, 2016

    Actually i have nothing to say
    I just wanna talk to u
    U r cute and smart
    And your videos are just irresistible
    Awesome u r

  • Ishita

    Reply Reply September 9, 2016

    Hi Adam. There’s this guy in my school and I guess I kind of like him. But we never interacted ever. I don’t know how to approach. Plus I meet Alot of guys. But I never found that interest in any of those.

  • Rina

    Reply Reply September 19, 2016


    Now that my evenings are starting to open up, I find it so hard to go out and scared to because I’m really shy and not sure which events to go to. Specially if I go, if anyone comes and talk, I find at times it’s hard to continue because it dies off so quickly. Or the guy isn’t interested because of what I do.. Any advice??

  • Priscilla Sarpong

    Reply Reply September 25, 2016

    Thanks for the video!!! I have a question: What if you are extremely introverted or all of your friends are super busy…how do you overcome that hurdle?

  • Tami

    Reply Reply October 3, 2016

    Absolutely LOVED this video!!
    I hop on and off Tinder all the time because I’m a very focused person but will try again with less intensity 🙂
    Love the Dual Intent strategy!! Volleyball is starting this Wednesday night so who knows!!
    My social score is pretty low because of the single parent situation but I will definitely aim to connect with 10 men this month via Tinder and actual dates!
    Come on Prince!
    Thank you so much for your amazing advice strategies and wisdom!

  • Heather

    Reply Reply October 5, 2016

    I have really been loving your videos. I have watched most. Thanks so much for all you do. This one has been reallt helpful. I met someone on a chat line a week ago and all has went really well. But after a nice conversation the phone hung up and I can’t get ahold of him. He can see my text and messages on facebook messenger. But he can’t call or message back. He had broke his screen the day before. What I am now thinking is that the phone was broke where you type and call from. I came unglued in the beginning. This was sunday it’s now wed and I don’t know what had happened. Except for the phone broke. I am hoping that he gets a new one on Friday. I was really upset and I let him know. But now I believe it’s the phone broke. Anyways I screed up bY getting up set. I thought he dropped me. By the way he lives in KY and I live in Indiana. So I can’t just get ahold of him. I don’t want to call his work. So thanks to your videos I am having hope and if not I will be moving on. But I have left messages apologized for being so upset and let him know that I just kinda lost it thinking he dropped me. But I just wanted him to know I have cilled out and will hold on a bit longer. Because he is worth fighting for. But I said if this isn’t what you want I will move on. So I left the ball in his court. Fingers crossed he calls if he can get a phone Friday. But thanks for your help with these videos you have helped me in so many ways. Your great at this. I recommend you to my girlfriends all the time. You and Layla Martin. And my go to for help. Thanks.

  • ghada

    Reply Reply October 22, 2016

    Thank yiu very much..

  • T

    Reply Reply October 27, 2016

    I think I maybe beyond help! My social score is zero! I only go out maybe once every two months ( I’m a single mom, and it’s difficult for me to get out). And when I do go out, if I see a guy I like, I’m waaaay to shy to do anything about it! So, nothing ever comes of outings. I have tried online date sites ( they are brutal! Not top quality men there, let me tell ya!). I have pretty much given up any hope of meeting anyone “half normal!”.

  • Lute

    Reply Reply November 18, 2016

    Thank you so much! I will admit my social score is high but the men I have met haven’t been the men who wanted to commit. My key take away from this video is “I am the average
    of the 5 I hang out with”. Yikes! I have learned so much from the 7 Principles and is now following it and I totally agree! You’re the best Adam! Looking forward to the next newsletter.

  • Amanda

    Reply Reply November 26, 2016

    I’m so shy. I never know what to say around new people. Even if i do go to an event i rarely talk to anyone. I think I’m going to die alone, but I’m pretty dope i wish i could open up easier. How do shy people meet people?

  • Deidra

    Reply Reply November 26, 2016

    I’m working on my social skills and goals by going back to college full time as well as taking a French language class weekly. I’ve even joined a local gym, hiking group and a French conversational group. I’m currently married with a child and the marriage is on the rocks (because my dear husband has chosen to engage in extra curricular activities with various mistresses over the years –which I am against, but there are too many complicated issues at stake to just walk away). I am a HIGH VALUE WOMAN who is tired of the BS !
    I am fighting back. Your video (s) are a great way for me to gain my life back. Thanks Adam!

  • Bettie

    Reply Reply November 29, 2016

    OK! Here I go. I am a widow that was with my husband for 40 years. I have been so unsure of what to do and where to go to meet men. I am grateful for your video and will take what you teach to heart. I really had no clue where to meet like minded men. (The thought of online dating is not really very appealing to me.) I can also see that the dating game has changed immensely over the last 40 years.
    Adam – wish me luck!
    Warm regards.

  • Lea

    Reply Reply December 1, 2016

    I really liked this!! I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m really blessed and grateful for all your tips!! I’m gonna try this and see the results, hopefully good! 😀

  • jessica

    Reply Reply December 4, 2016

    My social score is around 5, which is low.
    I’ve never had a boyfriend yet, I’ve been single all my life, it is a good thing beacuse i discovered myself and felt so free to do, talk to, go to wherever I want. Its also a negative thing because i’m not experienced when it comes to having a conversation with them. Things always get awkward when I’m talking to some new guy.
    I think i will choose the dual Intent, where i could meet a guy having similar interests as me. We could get along in this case.
    How should I talk to new guys?

  • Bonnie

    Reply Reply December 12, 2016

    Well I really liked this video. I think my score is actually really high. I’m on two different dating sites. And my score was probably about a 25. But most were fish to be thrown back for sure. I think I may have found a keeper. Only thing is he’s not from America originally. So there is a bit of a cultural difference. I am a bit wary and think we both are a little unsure of things. It’s still a bit new. We have talked about things and are willing to give it a go and see what happens. I just don’t know how much of some of the advice can translate over. I know men are men, but there are still expectations of how women act in different countries. Lol. Got my fingers crossed. Still enjoyed this video, last video I hope will come in handy.

  • Ivy

    Reply Reply December 13, 2016

    I think my life is changing throught this videos, it encouges me and also giving me answees of questions i have, big up to this helpful videos

  • Erika

    Reply Reply December 14, 2016

    Thank you for the video and the tips. It’s been my experience that men stare alot but they are not approaching attractive vibrant women who are out there volunteering working out showing up at events. It’s kind of discouraging. It’s also been my experience that they hang around but never seem to have the guts to pony up a proper invitation and instead intermittently call intermittently text and never come full circle. Or it’s the Lets hangout or I’m overdue for a road trip, lol!! both of which are hideously lame “asks” unless of course we are all just friends here, lol. I don’t know if it’s the women lacking skills and confidence go get out there or if its more of the men waiting and stalling go step up because of their lack?

  • Wendy

    Reply Reply December 18, 2016

    I have been at a bear zero for several years, but just stopped sex with my neighbor who I met when talking to his cat in his yard when out on a walk, the cat was way less egotistical to say the least. I’m going to go online, it’s been years and work out at a gym. I have holistic training so I want to blend them and the people I meet for a healthier happier time. Yep. 🙂

  • Aggie

    Reply Reply December 19, 2016

    Hi Adam,

    I will refer to the top comment here. What about us single mums. I am mum of three, working full time. I have oportunity to go out but I need to make sure that person I am spending my lrecious time with is worth it. I usually try to have few conversations (online dating) before setting up date. I dont have problems with getting dates but they are all seems to be ineyerested in getting me into bed withoyt comittment, even when I crearly say what I want and what I dont want. Guys are so cheeky these days, they will say what we want to hear to get what they want. Well, Im searching and I will not give up until I will find someone who will make my life better.

  • Katherine

    Reply Reply December 23, 2016

    Hi Adam,

    I have to say that I’ve repeated your videos for hundreds of times as it opens my eyes. You’re brilliant. I have been dating a guy for 1.5 year but he doesn’t show any intention to make it exclusive. I’ve been torturing myself of how valuable I am and “why this man doesn’t want me”. Thanks to you that I will put end to this, I will start increasing my social score now.

    One problem here I tried some options you suggested: I love dancing but all dancing clubs are full of women, hit the gym and the majority of guys there are gay (no offensive please), my social circle is mainly the same single women like me. Any suggestion for this Adam. Really appreciate your great advice!

  • Marys

    Reply Reply January 1, 2017

    Hi Adam,

    I enjoyed your video. Well said! I am going to set my social goals. Thank you for your suggestions and advice. You are a pro!

  • Claudia

    Reply Reply January 1, 2017

    Hi Adam,
    Thank you so much for sharing your brilliant ideas!!!! My social score has been in the ground. Once I meet a guy I think I’ll like, I stop all other communication let alone dating. I feel almost guilty for meeting more than one man at once.. is this common?

    Your words are duely noted and I hope to step up my score to a 5 to get started..

  • Susan

    Reply Reply January 3, 2017

    I must admit, i need to spend more time simply talking with men

  • Marjorie

    Reply Reply January 4, 2017

    Been doing dual intent -church activities, exercise classes-working on overcoming shyness

  • Jurni

    Reply Reply January 5, 2017

    I love your videos. I am so encouraged. As I am entering my 50s in a few months…I have been single for 4 years and am now really ready to date. Your suggestions are great! My social score at the moment is 3. I will be using your techniques and will keep you posted!!!!!

  • Teresa Miller

    Reply Reply January 13, 2017

    Great topic. I started 2017 with taking an interest in football and attended a Falcons game. I intend on acquiring an interest for more sports and engaging in come of the community events. Thank you for the affirmation that I am on the right track.

  • Margaret

    Reply Reply January 20, 2017

    I realized listening to your video, that I am just plain old lazy!!!!! What was I thinking?!!! I’m kinda aloof with men, I am a very confident lady. Maybe too confident. I’m working on the saying “hello” to a gentleman first… am I pathetic???

  • Lily

    Reply Reply January 23, 2017

    This was great advice. Honestly, meeting people through mutual friends is literally the best way to go. It’s as if someone has already done the due diligence for you! That seal of approval goes a long way, and, like Adam says in the video, people are less likely to be disloyal and act unfaithful because there are social consequences of it. I realized the power of meeting people in this way by accident. I was shocked at the level of accuracy that a friend was able to recommend someone who literally had all of the qualities I wanted in a man. I realized in that moment that meeting a member of the opposite sex through friends is the best way. Think about it,it makes sense– they know you and the other party, your likes and dislikes, as well as theirs. It’s the #1 way to go.

  • Candice

    Reply Reply January 26, 2017

    I really like his videos, very comforting & able to relate to what he’s saying in many ways.
    Thank you

  • Doris wangoi

    Reply Reply January 29, 2017

    I love th video….but th problem is men…sometimes they ar so boosy …they push as…

  • Doris wangoi

    Reply Reply January 30, 2017

    THANXS so mch…Am actually..searching…Am single mum of one kid…..i could like to meet some one serious….all have come across cheaters

  • Aneka Spencer

    Reply Reply February 3, 2017

    My social score is really bad.. Because I am so focused on accomplishing my goals I pretty much spend all of all my free time working or at the gym. This will change in June when my schedule will clear up…

  • Erin

    Reply Reply February 4, 2017

    Great information and strategy. I was married 31 years ( my whole adult life !!) and divorced a year ago . I have actually used a lot of these ideas already and have met some really great guys some of who are still friends. I’ve found a lot men are a little put off by my talking to or meeting multiple men throughout the week or month . I’m just trying to find what qualities I’m actually most attracted to . It’s interesting… because as I’ve met so many I am now picking better men for me. In this process I am growing and learning about myself and realizing there are decent men of character. I can’t wait to see your next video Adam ! I was encouraged and inspired to keep at it !!! Thank you 😊

  • Deborah

    Reply Reply February 13, 2017

    Thank you I’ve been thinking of Meetup. With work and children exercise classes and bible studies, my schedule is challenging but I have gone out twice in a week and even in a day. Location and distance seems to be an issue. Yet I have even just said to a man or two we live close by so what will it hurt to meet down town. It has worked. Three dates seems to be the norm. On eharmony I just meet someone who is really charged and putting forth an effort. Calls me twice a day we have met twice both have full schedules.
    I can be a hanger on person though some men are friends and we still text on occasion.

  • Deborah

    Reply Reply February 13, 2017

    I like your quilt designs…Art teacher🎨

  • Tynesha

    Reply Reply February 15, 2017

    I appreciate your videos!

  • Karina

    Reply Reply February 22, 2017

    Thank you very much for a wonderful video. Great advice. I have to admit that l hardly go out since most of my friends are married. I have been in several dating sites and had met a lot of toads!! I think that work harder in myself and raise my bar of standards is what l need. I work in a grocery store and a few months ago l dated a vendor that l had talked to for almost a year. After dating him for a few months coworkers warned me that he might not been a divorced guy. I was wondering why he didn’t introduced me with his family yet but l didn’t want to push things. I run a background report and confirmed the rumors. Didn’t ended good!!
    I like the idea of meeting people trough fb friends. ☺

  • Celma

    Reply Reply February 25, 2017

    Thank you very much for a wonderful videos. Great advice! I have to admit that l hardly go out since most of my friends are married and their children are grow up. I have a 8 years old son from my second marriage, But I still looking for my soulmate. I am taking your advice I’m putting myself out there… Not sure if I should go to wine testing or club by myself. Do think that’s a good idea?

  • Blandlovesss

    Reply Reply February 26, 2017

    Thanks very much…from this moment am gonna take it as a challenge to put myself out there atleast three times a month…no more excuses…great videos.

  • Tanya

    Reply Reply March 7, 2017

    I love the social score strategy, I never really thought of it that way. But yeah I’ve always been in a situation of short term relationships. So I’m going to continue to sign up to more dance classes which I’m currently doing for my own interest, and go clubbing more, as I’ve always met guys there, but never gave them chance.

    Thank you so much, best logical advice throughout your videos

  • Tanya

    Reply Reply March 7, 2017

    I love the social score strategy, I never really thought of it that way. But yeah I’ve always been in a situation of short term relationships. So I’m going to continue to sign up to more dance classes which I’m currently doing for my own interest, and go clubbing more, as I’ve always met guys there, but never gave them a chance.

    Thank you so much, best logical advice throughout your videos

  • Nicole

    Reply Reply March 8, 2017

    Hi Adam I’m so grateful for your videos. I’m going to attempt your challenge and meet at least 10 men a month. As of lately I have joined a social group that have events during the week and on weekends. I’m not a party animal at all, but do enjoy busting a move once a month. I’ve also taken up the game volleyball and love it, I’m not that great at it, but have a great time playing.
    Thanks again for all your advice.
    PS I’ve writer my positive enforcement sentences on my mirror and say them each day.

  • Felicia

    Reply Reply March 17, 2017

    I’m going to try Meetup.com and start getting out of the house more often.

  • Destiny

    Reply Reply April 3, 2017

    Thank you for this video. I’ve come to realize that I’ve failed at meeting the right guy because I’ve been relying on hope dating. I plan on becoming for strategic with my dating. I’m really a fan of the dual intent strategy. You give great advice that I can actually put to use.

  • Happiness

    Reply Reply May 24, 2017

    Thanks much for your advice. I will try it

  • soung

    Reply Reply May 29, 2017

    Thank you again your amazing! !!!….

  • Ady

    Reply Reply June 2, 2017

    Fun and good advices Adam! I am working with more than 5000 men but I don’t like none of them! My lvl of pickiness is out of roof :(.

  • Džejlana

    Reply Reply June 15, 2017

    OMG I had no idea that my SS (Social Score) was so low! While I was watching this video I stoped for a moment and listed names of guys I have met in the past month, and that was 4! So, now, thanks to Adam, I know what I’m doing wrong, and more important how to fix it! To set my goal for next month I decided to double my current (emberrassing) score and I got 8, and because I don’t like that number I added 2 and got number 10. I need to meet 10 brand new guys in the next 30 days!
    Wish me luck! 😀

  • Tonya

    Reply Reply August 20, 2017

    I’m so grateful finding sexy confidence. After ending an abusive relationship this past Jan, I needed this. Thank you!!!

  • Dawn

    Reply Reply August 21, 2017

    I am a widow therefore I feel the need for confidence in order to meet a God fearing man. Yes, I said God fearing; if he knows and loves God therefore he will be equipped to love and cherish me.

    I like your sincerity Adam and the practical application of what you teach.

    I do go out, to social events and I am willing to talk with men. Not too sure about the online thing. As my upbringing and teachings is of the old school and my character is straight and very up front.

    Ladies any feedback is appreciated of a positive report and I am willing to learn without compromising my faith and my value as a good clean woman.

    • Arcelia Duran

      Reply Reply October 11, 2017

      I ended a mentally abusive relationship 8 years ago. I’m able to have found myself again. I just am looking for my best friend. I’m glad you left and you are free to do you and love yourself.

  • Kim

    Reply Reply August 21, 2017

    I’m a divorced 40 something year old woman and it’s not easy to meet nice, compassionate men who want to be in a committed relationship.

  • Heather G

    Reply Reply October 6, 2017

    I’m going to commit to meeting 10 new guys this month. I have my son 50 with the amount of time I have I’m not sure I’ll be able to do more. I am going to multiple social events this month for Halloween so it shouldn’t be a problem meeting people.

  • Arcelia Duran

    Reply Reply October 11, 2017

    Thank you, I was doing all that but not keeping track of how many I met. I am on meetup and I take Salsa classes. I need to talk to more guys. I feel overwhelmed. Keeping it balanced because I’m a social butterfly and most men want to be around me because I’m fun and/or sex. Non to take me serious because they meet me with issues they haven’t fixed. So they view me as an escape to fun no drama.

  • Carmen

    Reply Reply November 4, 2017

    I have a really low social score but I do have a dating profile. I don’t go to parties and clubs because I’m a recovering alcoholic and I don’t like having to explain to strangers why I’m not drinking.

  • Melissa

    Reply Reply December 4, 2017

    My social score is 1, however wirh this being the holiday season, rheres more events going on. I plan on getting out there. Wish me luck.

  • Ciara

    Reply Reply December 10, 2017

    I am disappointed in this video — all of your other videos on youtube has closed captions. But when I go to your videos via your website, there is none available. Isn’t that weird. I am deaf, and I would love to understand what you’ve been saying on your videos in your website. Please advise. Thank you!

  • Sharon

    Reply Reply January 13, 2018

    This is really great advice!!
    I will need to make some changes.

  • Lori

    Reply Reply February 11, 2018

    The last 5 guys I’ve dated? I have been divorced for almost a year after 36 years of marriage and I married the 4th guy I dated. Hahaha. It’s probably time to get out the door!

  • Mary Nichols

    Reply Reply March 3, 2018

    Great advice Adam. Time for me to set some goals, great video!

  • Barbara

    Reply Reply March 4, 2018

    Enjoyed video #2 and I do believe it’s a number game. I compare it to finding a new job.
    My numbers are great and I challenge myself when I feel “on” to meet 3 guys in one night.

    Recently, I was chatting with 3 gentlemen , at a popular blues bar. After 7 minutes I moved away from the guys and danced several songs. I returned after 30 min., and approached with a smile and asked, “which gentlemen would like to dance with me.” The tallest man immediately stood up and guided me to the dance floor. Wow, he could dance.
    The following Wednesday, the same 3 guys were back. I said hello and walked away to sit with my friends . The same partner walked up to me and asked me to dance. I obliged and afterwards, he told me, he was traveling to Egypt and would be back in mid April.
    I have planted the seed.
    Thank you Adam for challenging us.

  • Roseann

    Reply Reply March 7, 2018

    Thank you Adam for your great advice about where to meet men . I like the idea of dual intent as it offers opportunities to meet like minded men in a low pressure situation while giving enjoyment at learning something new .

  • Supriya

    Reply Reply March 21, 2018

    I am not able to get hom out from ma mind . Please help me

  • Lori Carr

    Reply Reply April 6, 2018

    I live in an area where I do not have many friends to go out with. (or my girlfriends are not available) Isn’t it weird for a single woman to go out by yourself? Lori

  • Ami

    Reply Reply April 20, 2018

    I feel really sad i can’t view any of the videos 🙁

  • Denise

    Reply Reply April 30, 2018

    I like this idea.

  • Tatiana

    Reply Reply May 18, 2018

    Thanks again for a great video.
    My social score is 20/ month. I have a positive take on dating, have been meet interesting guys and after I joined your network I can say I have been more strategic and selective. Love love all your material!!

  • Michele

    Reply Reply May 31, 2018

    I am a sexy, self confident, highly motivated and talented single 51 year old women. I am looking for an intelligent, gentleman who is confident and knows what he wants. Not afraid to show his emotions and loves to laugh and travel. I have tried dating sites but the ones i am interested in, have not been in my area. I am very social and have a lot of friends. It has scared a lot of men off but i am a public figure and a sexy musician and singer. I work a lot of nights. Travel quite a bit but still long for a man who can handle me. Lol.

  • AL

    Reply Reply July 10, 2018

    Thanks for a great video,

    i have a bit of a problem, I can’t drive cos I am visually impaired, so i have been doing the internet dating thing, and a huge amount of guys have most of the time fake profiles. and for some reason the Indian men are mostly attracted to me whom i am really not interested in.

    i also have a few married friends, so I don’t go out that much. being blind is not very easy to be socially always a possibility on the social front. I would like to meet a man in the army though. but like i said FAKE most of the time. you will laugh when you see my whatsapp blocking space and my facebook blocked people. it’s frightening.

    but on the lighter side I do the Gautrain and busses every day so sometimes i meet new people there. and sometimes at church too.

  • Gina

    Reply Reply July 14, 2018

    This video has been a great help. Since I’ve moved back to my home state, I haven’t gone out much. Circumstances out of my control, as well as being not that happy with being here. But I do need to get out even more than I am , especially as winter here, forget it. I can’t do these temps well. 🙁
    Here longer than I planned & want to be. So may as well make the best of it and try & meet someone. Or several people at least . New people :). I used to do so much & many of these things. Not as much around here as there used to be , but , nearby towns & cities, I can always go to. So I’ll just expand a few miles or so. Thanks !!

  • marily enjog banjong

    Reply Reply January 3, 2019

    hi mr Adam am still new here just from the few vidio i have watched they have help me alot thanks for the good work

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply January 10, 2019

    I loved this video on how to meet emotionally available men. I am divorced after 18 yrs of marriage and was afraid at first of being alone. I needed to find myself and be ok alone and become confident again in who I am, so I decided not to date right away. But then 6 months turned into a year then two years and now it’s been 8 years. I tried dating recently and bombed. It is so much easier to go back to being alone, but it’s not what I want. My standards and confidence has grown tremendously as I’m independent and self sufficient, but I’ve been out of the dating scene too long. I just turned 49 and have a professional career with a Masters degree. Yet I don’t know how to meet emotionally available men and it’s harder than if I tried right after my divorce when I was younger and needier. This video helped. You hit my root problem and gave me ideas for solutions, as I’m a goal oriented person. I need to get over fear of rejection. Thank you.

  • Merry Joy

    Reply Reply February 11, 2019

    Hi Adam, thanks for the great video… This is help for me… Honestly I meet some of the guy, but I didn’t feel any chemistry from them… It is hard to the right guy…

  • Merry Joy

    Reply Reply February 11, 2019

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    Hi Adam, thanks for the great video… This is help for me… Honestly I meet some of the guy, but I didn’t feel any chemistry from them… It is hard to the find right guy…

  • Tammy S Schrader-Gaede

    Reply Reply April 26, 2019

    What exactly is emotional attraction?

    How do you do emotional attraction while dealing with long distance relationship?

  • Sharon

    Reply Reply June 5, 2019

    I have to admit I’ve only dabble a little bit focusing on family and myself since my divorce. I’m confident but definitely appreciate the advice from this video as to where to look for men. Summer is going to be busy with sons going to college and university and yes these are my excuses but look out ckne September. I’m ready to go out and chat it up whether or not I meet someone great. Thank you!

  • Jo

    Reply Reply July 31, 2019

    I haven’t really met someone who is right for me. The ones I have met on a few dates long time ago I’m older now … any advice… Plus don’t really have any friends to go out with…your video was interesting……thank you

  • Mickie Sue

    Reply Reply August 18, 2019

    This was super helpful. I struggle with social anxiety & am working extra hard to be social. Listing places & coming up with goals to track is awesome. Also made me realize I can try doing more things at my complex because we have amenities & lots of neighbors I haven’t met.

  • Carrie

    Reply Reply August 30, 2019

    My social skills has been terrible lately. This video was a game changer for me.

  • Ronique

    Reply Reply September 20, 2019

    Bars are out in this very transient area… the fun part about the run club…everyone keeps everyone motivated…and physically fit…😊

  • Kristina Tidwell

    Reply Reply September 24, 2019

    A friend from high school messages me on Facebook every morning and every night. Hr will ask to chat on the phone once in a while but we have only met once and that was for breakfast. I can’t tell if he just has me in a slow cooker it what..lol. He did say that he’s not interested in dating and he’s not with anyone. I’m not interested in commitment right now because I have 4 boys and their father passed away in January. I do enjoy the “check in” every day even if he’s just a friend so I haven’t said anything. But I don’t really know his intentions…he doesn’t ask me out…just messages me every day. He has a lot of hot women as friends on Facebook in lingerie. I know this shouldn’t bother me cuz he’s single and we’re just friends but it does. It really turns me off.

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